Paladin D Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 (edited) It's somewhat hard for me to know what is immodest when it comes to male clothing. The only ones I can think of are... - No shirt. - Very baggy jeans that slide down pretty far. ...anything else? Edited July 28, 2004 by Paladin D Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Quietfire Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 (edited) Its all about attitude. But then again, Ive been told by countless members of the opposite sex that I scare the HE** out of 'em. Even my husband was somewhat intimidated by me when we first met. In his words, he said I carried myself in a very sure way. I dont dress to impress anyone. *Some of my clothing can be considered clingy. But being married has the advantage that, when with my husband, I am dressing for him. (which at times I do, and he chooses what I wear) My pic in the girls pic thread is a dress he chose and bought for me to wear. To me, as pretty as it is with the whole thing made of pink lace(hard to tell in pic) it is still a spectaculary sexy dress. It has a corset in the back and it is meant to really show off the waist. Cant tell,huh?) When alone, I carry a big rock on my ring finger!!! with the band.* Honestly though, if a woman is dressed scanky, it shows. Thongs hanging out of pants are gross, unless your home and your sweats are too big cause your loosing weight and cant keep them up. I wore a lovely dress to Mass yesterday and someone told me that had no idea I had such a small waist. At work I wear an oversized shirt over my workpants for comfort. It hides alot of me. Just the way I like it. On the thong issue. Here goes. I wear em. I love em. I will continue to wear them until my butt hits the floor and I need something stronger. Sorry, but its my personal preference. Had I not told you then you'd never know and all would be well. As far as beachwear. Well, since Im being honest here, let me put it to you this way. Dont go to Aruba. Its the only place on EARTH I will wear a thong on the beach. Then again, women there go topless too, and I draw the line at my thong. This is with my husbands approval, by the way. And we've gone to Aruba twice now and plan to go again. I know no-one there and no-one knows me. If I was there with friends, then I wouldnt wear a thong. I know this has been a topic here before, and many feel its inappropriate, but honestly, I couldnt wear one here in the States. Cant bring myself to it. And I cant figure out why. Now some may disagree with me on this. But if I visited, say, Africa. And the norm was a toga like top with half a shoulder showing and my tummy, and a leaf skirt (work with me here, Its hypothetical) that shows a lot of leg when you walk... would you call me indecent? Im not saying that its ok to walk around half naked. Its all about attitude. And yes. I've seen women dress in short skirts and such and it doesnt offend me. Yet there are times you'll see the same thing on someone else and its highly offensive. Go figure! Oh, and if you have rolls ANYWHERE on you. Hide them. I dont need to see them. Nor do I want to. Peace. Edited July 28, 2004 by Quietfire Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 wow. all of you are so right in everything you are saying! and it's so awesome to find a group of people who believe in modesty for girls, especially GUYS! it's hard to find these days! im going to throw in my two cents now: thongs- I may be conservative or wacky or insane or weird or whatever but I think thongs are absolutely wrong in every case. Even in sexual relations with your husband I believe that you need to show modesty, self respect. Your body is a wonderful gift from God and I think that thongs portray it more as an object to be used. Even worse of course is them showing to the public if people decide they want to wear them. hugs- Everyone enjoys hugs for the physical touch of another person. It is not usually sexual although I can see very much so how a young boy could get something from it. In the same sense I can see how older men can get something from it! In youth group a few years back we had a girl talk and a guy talk that went on in two rooms. In our girl talk we talked about appropriate touch. Hugging was a topic. We did learn to do the bend at the waist strictly shoulder hugging or side hugging where nothing really touches other than the arms. I think that if you go in for the normal hug (facing each other) the girl and guy both need to make a concious effort to not pull in too close. Modest clothing- I believe that skirts need to be knee length. Much higher than that and you are revealing a little too much, not allowing the mind to wonder. Leave it to the imagination if anything!!!! I also believe that middrifts are immodest. These days "a little bit of tummy" on a girl is more like showing a good 6" again revealing more in personal areas than is appropriate. Actually nothing like that is appropriate. Low cut shirts- No one has said anything about them as far as I saw. I'm sure it was a given but I believe that any cleavage is too much. If I can see your breasts at all you need to go change. I do not see a problem with bare shoulders as long as the top is high enough. I do not believe you are showing anything off. I know, though, that these days it is hard to find appropriate shoulder-baring clothes. Tight clothes are inappropriate. Curves are nice but every curve and indention is too much. WAY too much. Manner- You should treat the opposite sex as you would a member of your family or a friend of the same sex. You should not run up and sit on a boys lap and flirt with him and be giggly and air-headed if you dont want him to get the wrong impression. Sometimes it is unavoidable for guys to be attracted to you because they are attracted to your personality, but to go looking for it by flaunting yourself in ways that are unnatural is wrong. I'm sure there is something I havent said that I meant to say but I guess I can always post again later! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Moosey Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 (edited) [quote name='ilovechrist' date='Jul 28 2004, 02:36 PM'] unless something touches that may be the "trigger" for the guy. [/quote] Like breasts? Exuse me for being so blunt. Edited July 28, 2004 by Moosey Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CreepyCrawler Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 i don't think that it's less immodest for a skinny girl to wear low riders than it is for a fat girl to wear low riders. both are immodest. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I agree. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 I agree. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 me too Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 i feel like people might have missed my first post up there^^^^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Philippe Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 if u have "thunder thighs" cover them up.... u know who u r. "but i want to express myself" express yourself in the dark sil vous plait Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
XIX Posted July 28, 2004 Share Posted July 28, 2004 [quote name='hugheyforlife' date='Jul 28 2004, 06:04 PM'] i feel like people might have missed my first post up there^^^^ [/quote] I read what you said and I agree with 95% of your post! I have heard once that thongs are often worn purely for comfort. If that is the case then you are not trying to be immodest. If nobody knows that you are wearing it then you really aren't tempting anybody. Actually, that is more like 98% of your post. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 haha yeah in that case i suppose they are fine..... haha i guess i just dont understand how that could be comfortable!!! haha! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CreepyCrawler Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='Philippe' date='Jul 28 2004, 06:19 PM'] if u have "thunder thighs" cover them up.... u know who u r. "but i want to express myself" express yourself in the dark sil vous plait [/quote] it makes me mad when people make statements like this. whose business is it if someone is fat? don't look at them if you're so superficial and judgemental of someone else's body. EVERYONE should cover up, not just the people that some guys feel are not attractive enough to 'pull off' a certain immodest look. :angry: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 I agree CC. As I've said, I'm not one to talk, with my beer belly and reeking clothes. The sad truth is...almost 99% don't look right with the immodest look. What I meant was, immodesty, even when it's not ugly because it's tempting, is ugly because it's ugly. But I HAVE higher criteria on my checklist than how my future wife looks in a thong. That's like way DOWN there. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted July 29, 2004 Share Posted July 29, 2004 [quote name='theculturewarrior' date='Jul 28 2004, 07:59 PM'] I agree CC. As I've said, I'm not one to talk, with my beer belly and reeking clothes. The sad truth is...almost 99% don't look right with the immodest look. What I meant was, immodesty, even when it's not ugly because it's tempting, is ugly because it's ugly. But I HAVE higher criteria on my checklist than how my future wife looks in a thong. That's like way DOWN there. [/quote] now thats a good guy.... and im really not one to judge BUT you might want to wash your clothes if you hope to find that wife of yours Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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