Modesty

[Mrs. Bro. Adam]

What manner should you act?



The rule I went by is to treat your guy friends the same way that you treat your female friends, aside from the slumber party behavior. Act around your guy friends the same way you act around your brothers, or cousins. Just make a conscious decision of what you will and won't do, and that's a great starting point.

[Moosey]

Exactally. I dont sit in my guy friends laps our anything like that and I try not to hug too close too. But sometimes thats hard because my guy friends like to pick me up when they hug me

[Paladin D]

Thongs are not immodest, they only are if you're exposing it to others (unless it's your spouse).

[Mrs. Bro. Adam]

There's nothing wrong with hugging....and I've had to be more careful than most.

[Moosey]

Well sometimes when you hug you tend to accidentally press your breast against that person and that does do something to them.

[theculturewarrior]

You know, some women look like they're trying to be fashionably immodest...and it's JUST UGLY!

Now, I know I'm not one to talk, with my beer belly and my reeking unwashed clothes, but at least I cover my beer belly up! Some of these girls look like they're going to pop out of their pants! And plumber's butt in a woman just isn't attractive.

[mmmerf]

Okay, with the hugging, my opinions:

You can give a the opposite sex a big hug for a good reason, provided:
1. It doesn't go on forever. Hi *hug* howareya, not Hi let me fall asleep in your arms.

2. Both parties are standing.

3. Hands above the waist! You know who you are....

My $0.02.

Dave

[Mrs. Bro. Adam]

lol....thanks for the comic relief, Dave!

[immaculata]

What about guys? Tight shirts are just about as bad as no shirts..

[p0lar_bear]

I read an article once that set out some guidelines for modest dress. The author basically said that any body part starting with a "b" should be completely covered (including the belly). Fitted clothing is OK, but tight can be a problem.

[XIX]

I think hugs are great because they are a chaste way of expressing yourself physically! I dunno, I'm a fan of hugs so I might be biased here:

Come to think of it, I've had a harder time trying to stay chaste when I don't have people to hug. I think you just try to hug around the shoulder blades, so as to avoid any "unnecesary contact."

Anyways in response to mmmerf above me:

1) I really don't see anything long with lengthy hugs. You still wanna be careful with what you hug, I guess? But I don't think that a longer hug really suggests anything sexual. Especially if you "need a hug."

2) It's kinda hard to hug when you aren't standing, anyways. But even then, I don't think that sitting down is anymore a sexually suggestive position than standing up.

I mean, you want to avoid hugs laying down, definitely. Then again, you really don't wanna lay down next to a member of the opposite sex anyways..

3) True.....I've had that problem once.

Yes, My 2 cents worth is overpriced.

[Ash Wednesday]

I can NOT believe girls wear thongs combined with low rider jeans. Most of the time they are going to show, especially when you are bent over or sitting at a table. Even if it isn't intentional.

Not only are low riding jeans and short skirts immodest, but unless you are built like a supermodel, you can't carry it off. (and even if you could carry it off you'd only want to wear it at home around your husband on a private hot date) I've seen girls wearing hip huggers and they have a big roll of fat hanging over the sides, or skirts that look like they are going to split.

Generally modesty is not only better living, it's more flattering. Ladies, if you end up with guys that only "love" you for your body and want sex, now you have a way to prevent a broken heart. :heart:

[Moosey]

Ok people seem to be upset about what I wrote about hugs. I mean it can be a bit exciting for an adolesant boy if you hug him too close, especially if your big chested.

[Madonna]

I understand completely what you're saying Moosey. And old friend of mine used to give all of us girls big, full contact hugs. We thought he was being sweet. Then we realized he was feeling the front part of us.

I say no to almost all hip to hip, chest to chest hugs.

[ilovechrist]

[quote name='crusader1234' date='Jul 28 2004, 01:19 PM'] Girls can wear short skirts and tank tops and come across modestly (not so common), and at the same time girls can wear pants and a sweater and come across immodestly (suprisingly common). [/quote]
i agree with this.

i've found some girls that do wear some clothing that could come across as immodest, yet i did not find them immodest through their attitude.

as for the hug deal....
i LOVE hugs. hugs are awesome. now moosey... i don't see why you're thinking that far. the [i]majority[/i] (for there will be a few of the opposite) hug and do not have that strong sexual desire arise... unless something touches that may be the "trigger" for the guy.