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I've learned that I need to sacrifice a lot of things so we can support this family more. We dont go on vacations very often because it can be very expensive to pay for 8 people.

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It's funny, because you know, the average family of four (two parents, two kids) usually don't spend a whole lot of time together. In reality, there oftentimes isn't a lot of attention for anyone. I've noticed this with some of my friends.

Usually the mother and father both work and aren't at home until the evening, and the kids are either watching TV, talking on the phone, or playing video games. There's hardly any interaction at all.

It's not always the case, of course, but more often than not, it is.

And then there's my family. :D

There's nine of us (mom, dad, 5 boys, 2 girls). Oh and the dog and the bird. We're noisy, boistrous, loud . . . yeah, you get the point. ;) We're always together and our house is small, so we can't help but give each other plenty of attention! :lol:

We don't have a lot in terms of money and material things, but I will say that we are a pretty happy bunch and get along with each other better than a lot of our friends who have only two or three kids in their family.

I think because there are so many different opinions being expressed all the time (constantly, I tell you!), we learn to get along better.

That just seems like a silly argument to me. I mean, would you limit yourself to just two friends so that you made sure that they got enough attention from you? Of course not! There is truth to the saying, "the more the merrier."

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[quote name='Moosey' date='Jul 16 2004, 05:20 PM'] I've learned that I need to sacrifice a lot of things so we can support this family more. We dont go on vacations very often because it can be very expensive to pay for 8 people. [/quote]
Yep. :)

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lifeteenchick527

ya i understand...but r main thing is we cant really take one of my bros out bc we nevr knoe how hes gonna be..lol..ya same here vera....pmers r totally awesome

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I am the oldest of five children; I'm 27, then I have a brother who is 26, another brother who is 24, a sister who is 19, and a brother who is 12. So I guess we count as a big family.

Personally, I wouldn't have had it any other way. It's not as though parents have only a set amount of love, and split it equally among all the children. My parents loved ALL of us very much, and we all knew that. (although we have each doubted it at various times).

We all got special time at various points with each of our parents, and we were all encouraged to pursue our own interests. And, we spent a lot of time entertaining ourselves. We had enough in my family to play tag, or school, or get into mischief. Yeah, we all had to work, and as the oldest I ended up giving Mom and Dad a bunch of free babysitting ... but it was a good way to grow up. Lots of love.

I'm single now, and I find myself gravitating toward families. I love it. I want my own big family someday.

From a practical standpoint, one thing I've heard from many middle-aged friends who grew up as only children is that they now have to shoulder the entire care of their parents themselves, whereas with bigger families that burden can be shared among many children. This is a consideration that you might not make in college, but it sure becomes important later in life. Caring for an elderly parent can be very taxing, both emotionally and financially, and it's great if that's a burden that can be shared.

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[quote name='Colleen' date='Jul 16 2004, 07:20 PM'] It's funny, because you know, the average family of four (two parents, two kids) usually don't spend a whole lot of time together. In reality, there oftentimes isn't a lot of attention for anyone. I've noticed this with some of my friends.

Usually the mother and father both work and aren't at home until the evening, and the kids are either watching TV, talking on the phone, or playing video games. There's hardly any interaction at all.

It's not always the case, of course, but more often than not, it is.

And then there's my family. :D

There's nine of us (mom, dad, 5 boys, 2 girls). Oh and the dog and the bird. We're noisy, boistrous, loud . . . yeah, you get the point. ;) We're always together and our house is small, so we can't help but give each other plenty of attention! :lol:

We don't have a lot in terms of money and material things, but I will say that we are a pretty happy bunch and get along with each other better than a lot of our friends who have only two or three kids in their family.

I think because there are so many different opinions being expressed all the time (constantly, I tell you!), we learn to get along better.

That just seems like a silly argument to me. I mean, would you limit yourself to just two friends so that you made sure that they got enough attention from you? Of course not! There is truth to the saying, "the more the merrier." [/quote]
yeah Colleen! :cool:

I know it's a silly argument, its just that they (and my friends, who all agreed) didn't take my words to have a lot of weight because of my family :D

Keep these coming! It's soo true...especialy about the working parents and attention in small families.

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littleflower+JMJ

[quote name='RandomProddy' date='Jul 16 2004, 06:48 PM'] 4 younger sisters and a single mum. And people wonder why I've never had a steady girlfriend... :P [/quote]
:sweat: :rolling: Your outnumbered in your own home!! :lol:

:BANAN: I WANT THE CATHOLIC DOZEN!! :banana:

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cmotherofpirl

[quote name='RandomProddy' date='Jul 16 2004, 08:48 PM'] 4 younger sisters and a single mum. And people wonder why I've never had a steady girlfriend... :P [/quote]
Yes but you will make a wonderful husband, you have been civilized!!!! :D

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RandomProddy

[quote name='cmotherofpirl' date='Jul 17 2004, 03:29 AM'] Yes but you will make a wonderful husband, you have been civilized!!!! :D [/quote]

Two minor points, if only I found women as attractive as I used to, and I'd have to find a woman who reciprocated. "Civilized" men generally get found in late age :(

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