Churchnerd24/7 Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 hi. My boyfriends mom really doesn't like me, and she is trying to break up me and her son. She is trying everything, banning him from seeing me, and much more. I have done nothing wrong. She thinks that i am a problem child and thinks that i am not being raised right. Even though i am very religious and am never in trouble. I do everything that I am told to do. I mean I like live at church, i don't know what i am doing wrong. Could someone please hlep me because i really don't know what to do. I am desperate. please GOD BLESS YOU ALL! ~Ashley~ :jesus: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1337 k4th0l1x0r Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Is his family very religious? Is his mother especially religious? Also, mothers are often threatened by any girl who dates her son because her son will begin loving that girl and the mother sees it as a threat against herself. It sounds like the mother really needs to start letting go of your boyfriend. Is his mother overprotective? And how old are yall? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Churchnerd24/7 Posted July 16, 2004 Author Share Posted July 16, 2004 Yes my boyfriends family is religious, and yes his mom is too. Its not that is mom is overprotective, she just is when it comes to me. She lets him do other things but when it comes to me she wont let him. I am 15 and he is 16 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1337 k4th0l1x0r Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Has he dated any other girls and if so, how has she treated them? I think every mother is worried about her son when he finds a girl. She may be afraid that he won't love his mom as much and that you won't love him the way she wants her son to be loved. She doesn't necessarily need to be overprotective in the traditional sense, but she wants to keep her son as a child. This is discussed in one of my favorite books, [u]Wild at Heart[/u]. A good read for anyone. It's not Catholic, but it's a Christian book. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Churchnerd24/7 Posted July 16, 2004 Author Share Posted July 16, 2004 No he has not dated before. I am his first girlfriend. and he treats me well. He is an amazing boyfriend and I love him with all of my heart. He is also the first child in his family, she doesn't want to let him go. I mean she doesn't see how much that this is affecting him. He is not to happy about all of this thats going on now. and i mean i wish that she would just see how happy he is and then she maybe would understand. I do'nt know. I mean i have been praying about this for a really long time. But so far nothing. I really don't know what to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
catholicguy Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 It seems you are in a bad situation, even an unfair one; however, you cannot see him if his mother says that is the case. He must listen to his mother, or this would be a sin against the Fourth Commandment. However, you can possibly talk to her about it, and get to the root of the problem. Possibly, then, she would be more accepting of you as his girlfriend if she could hear your side of the story. God bless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Theoketos Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Well, you must obey her, that is the best thing that you can to win her over. Also it is in the voice of our superiors that we may discern the will of God. At the same time you must place trust in God that if the two of you are ment to date He will sustain your friendship. Thus pray for him and her all the time. As St. Paul says, never cease praying! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Churchnerd24/7 Posted July 16, 2004 Author Share Posted July 16, 2004 ya. The only problem with talking to her, is that she wont. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted July 16, 2004 Share Posted July 16, 2004 Are you hanging out with him in a large group, or going out alone with him? What exactly is she objecting to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Churchnerd24/7 Posted July 17, 2004 Author Share Posted July 17, 2004 We go out in groups sometimes and sometimes alone. And she refuses to talk to me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 Ask your mom to talk to her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Churchnerd24/7 Posted July 17, 2004 Author Share Posted July 17, 2004 See my mom would talk to her, but she doesn't like the way my mom is. She doesn't like the way my mom goes about things, and wouldn't like it if my mom talked to her about this. That would probably make it worse. I mean she thinks that my parents arn't raising me right, that i am a problem child, and have horrible morals. The funny part about all of those things, is that I am very religious and I do everything that I am told and more. I mean I live at my church and am always praying, and my morals are great! "True Love Waits" (as it says on my ring). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 Somebody is giving you bad press and feeding her false information. Any clues to who? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WillT Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 (edited) Is his mom Catholic? If not, and you are a religious one like you are saying, she could see you as a threat to her son or a threat to their family unity if things start to get serious. In that case, I would assure her that you are not in this to convert anyone, but really do love her son. Also, you should do things for each other that show them your love. (keep it clean, of course ) Edited July 17, 2004 by WillT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
1337 k4th0l1x0r Posted July 17, 2004 Share Posted July 17, 2004 I think it's really a matter of your boyfriend being so young and his mother doesn't want to let go. I wouldn't take it personally and she's making these remarks about you regardless of how you really are. I'm glad I'm at an age where my girlfriend's parents don't see me as taking her away. Heck, they'll probably try to marry her off to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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