Trad wife movement vs working wives

[little2add]

If  I passed away there isn't a much I could do?  If I was a surviving spouse, I would pray!

On 4/17/2025 at 10:25 PM, Norseman82 said:

But what if it were YOU who had passed away leaving behind your wife and three children while they were still young (say pre-teens)?

 

[tinytherese]

On 4/19/2025 at 12:26 PM, little2add said:

If  I passed away there isn't a much I could do?  If I was a surviving spouse, I would pray!

 

Yes, prayer is good. No one in this thread is questioning that. Several of us are confused about your posts that make irrelevant points about the topic of wives having careers.

The question is "If stay at home mom has a husband who dies should she get a job to support herself and her children?"

[little2add]

yes

14 hours ago, tinytherese said:

If stay at home mom has a husband who dies should she get a job to support herself and her children?"

 

[Anastasia13]

On 4/21/2025 at 1:59 AM, little2add said:

yes

 

And what could she do to make that easier should she find herself as a widow with young children? Is that something that women should be considering when choosing how to be at home?

 

(I am posting on the assumption that there are things between being a full trad wife making homemade cereal every morning and being a career-driven mom who is barely at home).

Edited Wednesday at 06:53 AM by Anastasia13
Clarification of assumptions

[little2add]

foster care with relatives was done in the past.  

[little2add]

On 4/20/2025 at 2:34 PM, tinytherese said:

your posts that make irrelevant points 

In your opinion, my thoughts about this subject are beyond your understanding. They are, however, relevant ( in my humble opinion,)

you on the other hand,,  be slightly naïve about this subject, no offense

 

 

[Anastasia13]

13 hours ago, little2add said:

In your opinion, my thoughts about this subject are beyond your understanding. They are, however, relevant ( in my humble opinion,)

you on the other hand,,  be slightly naïve about this subject, no offense

 

 

I found TinyTherese to be more reasonable and honestly agree a bit with her in that point. I say that with my nativity based in having almost been a widow and being privileged upper middle class near relatives.

[little2add]

In today's day and age, it is nearly impossible for a family to survive on one paycheck, granted.  I myself raise my three children on my single income and my wife stayed home and made many sacrifices. We didn't have money for our Kids college tuition or new clothes or vacation to Disneyland like all my friends and neighbors but we got by.

In the last 20 years, it's become much more difficult to live (support a family) , virtually all my family and neighbors, friends need two paychecks.  

Losing a spouse is a tremendous burden and money (or lack thereof) is only a small part of the pain.

 

 

 

 

Edited Thursday at 08:47 PM by little2add