Discussing Chastity Appropriately

[tinytherese]

Some Christians with good intentions can give chastity a bad name. Examples are comparing people, especially girls, to pieces of gum. If you don't save yourself for marriage, you're giving your spouse a used piece and who wants that? This can lead to people thinking it's too late for them if they've lost their virginity or been sexually abused. 

Many women say they have a hard time going from thinking that sex is bad and must be avoided prior to the wedding to being able to have it now that they're married. They may even resent purity. Purity isn't the problem though.

In this podcast, a much needed discussion is had on how to approach the topic appropriately. 

https://youtu.be/H086_KYE67Q

Edited March 29, 2021 by tinytherese

[Agatha]

Both men and women should not have sex until their wedding day. In the case of sexual abuse, that is a crime and the woman is still pure. She might feel dirty, but that is not that case because she was the victim of a crime. The woman that went through abuse should speak up and take the dirt bag that abused her to court.

 

 

[Agatha]

I think that chastity needs to be talked about at home.  I also think that the way the young women dresses needs also to be addressed that they need to dress modestly. A very important topic that also relates to this would be for the parents to talk to the young women how to behave in a date. To act like a lady ! And not take any abuse physical, psychological, or physical from her date, or boyfriend.

Also, the parents should talk about with the young man how to respect a young woman and act like a gentleman.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

[Norseman82]

7 hours ago, Agatha said:

Also, the parents should talk about with the young man how to respect a young woman and act like a gentleman.

 

Or, as one tradition goes, have the men of the house "just happen" to be cleaning the guns when the young man comes over to meet the family for the first time.  

(BTW, the last lady I dated was named Agatha - at least the Anglicized version of the name).  

[Peace]

On 4/27/2021 at 9:51 PM, Agatha said:

Both men and women should not have sex until their wedding day. In the case of sexual abuse, that is a crime and the woman is still pure. She might feel dirty, but that is not that case because she was the victim of a crime. The woman that went through abuse should speak up and take the dirt bag that abused her to court.

Well I don't know if not having had sex makes a woman pure, absent some other special graces such as those given to St. Mary. I highly doubt that.

On 3/29/2021 at 7:46 PM, tinytherese said:

Some Christians with good intentions can give chastity a bad name. Examples are comparing people, especially girls, to pieces of gum. If you don't save yourself for marriage, you're giving your spouse a used piece and who wants that? This can lead to people thinking it's too late for them if they've lost their virginity or been sexually abused. 

Many women say they have a hard time going from thinking that sex is bad and must be avoided prior to the wedding to being able to have it now that they're married. They may even resent purity. Purity isn't the problem though.

In this podcast, a much needed discussion is had on how to approach the topic appropriately. 

https://youtu.be/H086_KYE67Q

I wonder why some folks give so much particular emphasis to this particular sin? Well from the practical standpoint its good to avoid things like becoming pregnant before marriage. I can understand that.

But the whole "you are a used piece of gum" jazz - I don't really get that at all. If I get married and my wife has had 0 partners (highly unlikely) or 10 it honestly doesn't t make that much of a difference to me. You can have 10 and be a great person, or have 0 and be terrible human being.

Now 200 on the other hand. 200 makes you a certified ho.

What some guys are upset about her having been "touched by another man"? I think that is ridiculous myself. Where do you draw the line with that? Never been kissed? Never held hands with a boy? Has only made eye-contact with members of the same sex?

Grow up people. That's my two cents on it. Yes, it is a sin and it is to be avoided, but there are all types of sins that should be avoided and that will put a person in the hot-house.

But perhaps some of the "I shall only marry a virgin" folks on the forum can explain why that is so important to them.

[tinytherese]

On 4/27/2021 at 8:51 PM, Agatha said:

Both men and women should not have sex until their wedding day.

I agree that premarital sex is wrong. Those in the video agree as well. What they're saying is that if a person who has had premarital sex and regrets it can stop living that lifestyle. We have a merciful God who can help us be better regardless of our past. Sadly, some people still hold their mistakes against them.

[Agatha]

well, if they regret it and change then, Praise God!!

We need to pray for them that they persevere.

God bless,