Question about masturbation

[lisa frye]

[Mediator of Meh]Edited: Question about masturbation.[/Mediator of Meh]

 

Edited November 20, 2020 by dUSt
Too detailed.

[Jaime]

First of all Lisa, welcome to Phatmass. 

Here's the deal, there's a lot of people here that are happy to help anybody who's sincerely interested (or not so sincerely interested) in becoming Catholic.  But you've made five posts and all are about sexual arousal.  I for one think your questions have been pretty well answered by others.  But here we are again.  

Since you are more than a sexual being, perhaps in all of us getting to know you better, we can focus on other questions you might have about the Catholic faith?  This is a really solid community where you can make friends and gain support.  But if you're sincere about wanting to become Catholic, you must have other questions!  

[Peace]

4 minutes ago, Jaime said:

First of all Lisa, welcome to Phatmass. 

Here's the deal, there's a lot of people here that are happy to help anybody who's sincerely interested (or not so sincerely interested) in becoming Catholic.  But you've made five posts and all are about sexual arousal.  I for one think your questions have been pretty well answered by others.  But here we are again.  

Since you are more than a sexual being, perhaps in all of us getting to know you better, we can focus on other questions you might have about the Catholic faith?  This is a really solid community where you can make friends and gain support.  But if you're sincere about wanting to become Catholic, you must have other questions!  

Aww. Phatmass was about to get freaky but you put an end to the shenanigans.

I was getting ready to pull out one of my old Jodeci CD's.

[Jaime]

5 minutes ago, Peace said:

Aww. Phatmass was about to get freaky but you put an end to the shenanigans.

I was getting ready to pull out one of my old Jodeci CD's.

I myself can burp on command

[dUSt]

On 11/16/2020 at 4:39 PM, Jaime said:

I myself can burp on command

Me too!

[Guest]

Arencha lucky 

[little2add]

This topic may or may not be considered obscene by “others” 

 

[lisa frye]

[Mediator of Meh]Edited: Question about masturbation.[/Mediator of Meh]

[Lilllabettt]

Perhaps what you really need is a psychiatrist or other mental help. This seems compulsive, and not normal for anyone, Christian or not. The inability to go about your daily tasks - that is a classic sign of pathology. There is a spiritual dimension to this, of course. But honestly, you sound ill.

[Aloysius]

obsession / scrupulousness over sexual sins may feel like piety, but it is a misstep in your spiritual life.  you only need to know a simple principle--try not to intentionally seek sexual pleasure outside the context of marriage.  that's it.  any time you fail and actually intentionally seek it out, pray for the gift of chastity and mention it in your next confession.  simple.  there's no technicalities, no loopholes, no arbitrary rules about whether this or that "counts"--the question is whether you're intentionally seeking sexual pleasure outside of the marital context, period.  God understands your fallen nature and your concupiscence and the mitigating factors when habits are difficult to overcome, so when you examine your conscience remember it's a mortal sin only when you're seriously doing something intentionally against what you know is wrong; don't just be lax and let yourself off the hook because of that all the time but also don't accuse yourself of mortal sin and freak out all the time either--do your best and pray for God's grace--which importantly should be aimed at wanting something good and holy in the future.  Don't focus on the sins, as the devil wants you to do, focus on the good thing in the future whether it be future marriage or future beatific vision that you are aiming towards in your life, let that be the grace that motivates you.

everyone sins.  obsession over sin like this can be like struggling against quicksand and just pull you in further.

[lisa frye]

1 hour ago, Aloysius said:

obsession / scrupulousness over sexual sins may feel like piety, but it is a misstep in your spiritual life.  you only need to know a simple principle--try not to intentionally seek sexual pleasure outside the context of marriage.  that's it.  any time you fail and actually intentionally seek it out, pray for the gift of chastity and mention it in your next confession.  simple.  there's no technicalities, no loopholes, no arbitrary rules about whether this or that "counts"--the question is whether you're intentionally seeking sexual pleasure outside of the marital context, period.  God understands your fallen nature and your concupiscence and the mitigating factors when habits are difficult to overcome, so when you examine your conscience remember it's a mortal sin only when you're seriously doing something intentionally against what you know is wrong; don't just be lax and let yourself off the hook because of that all the time but also don't accuse yourself of mortal sin and freak out all the time either--do your best and pray for God's grace--which importantly should be aimed at wanting something good and holy in the future.  Don't focus on the sins, as the devil wants you to do, focus on the good thing in the future whether it be future marriage or future beatific vision that you are aiming towards in your life, let that be the grace that motivates you.

everyone sins.  obsession over sin like this can be like struggling against quicksand and just pull you in further.

 

Wow! Someone who finally understands suffering and how to deal with it! Thank you for your gentleness and your kindness towards my suffering self on the way to healing! Please say a prayer for me and my friend who has a lifelong suffering. I really want the best for him! I guess I could see it as when I am tempted that God must be doing something really good in our lives! God bless you in return and thank you so much for the encouraging words

[PhuturePriest]

Not to seem callous to a person who may genuinely be struggling, but doesn't both the wording and the repeated threads over this strike anyone else as the possibility of a troll? Perhaps I'm just cynical from the greater interwebz I spend most of my time on but I just randomly came back to Phatmass today and was surprised to find 6 different threads about boobs from the same person. Perhaps the website has just significantly changed since my time here.

Alright, back to the cave from which I came. I'll return sometime within the next six months to a decade.