The Wall

[homeschoolmom]

Okay--
When RussianGirl told us a year and some months ago that she was reconciling, a weird wall went up between us... things were chilly our house, and there was that "wall."

Now that hsDad and I have reconciled as well, that wall isn't really there anymore...

But it's there with our friends... We haven't actually "lost" friends, but there's this weird wall between us...

Anyone else have this?

[Sojourner]

Yes, it's there, with both friends and family. There are certain subjects we don't discuss, or if we do we approach it very gradually and gently. I don't know if it will ever be gone.

Although I have to say that there are some friends with whom there is no difference in our relationship. We still talk in as much depth as we did before, and it's as though nothing changed.

[Fides_et_Ratio]

I remember when I was reconciling, suddenly all my "friends" couldn't hang out with me anymore, or felt the need to preach to me all the "evils of Catholicism". And after I reconciled, my entire family talks very carefully around me, and no one wants to talk about religion for fear of "putting me on the spot" or "embarrassing me", etc. It's a bit of a pain.


But, I was assured that The Wall(tm) is 'see-through', so even though talking doesn't communicate much, what others see me doing speaks loud enough. I guess I'll just have to trust that for now.

[PedroX]

The wall is real, and I hate it. However, for me I've come to realize that I didn't place the wall there. Mostly the wall was put up by my friends and family. I have prayed to the saints, for years now all of the sudden its a problem? Anyway, my prayers continue to be with you in this.

peace...

[crusader1234]

Just like in the Pink Floyd album, the wall gets built up brick by brick. Whats angering though is that sometimes, to some people, faith is a brick - and a big one too. I personally don't pick my friends based on their faith, and I dont reject ones that don't agree with me or that even bash Catholocism. It smells of elderberries that faith turned into a brick for you, but being a social martyr is a good thing for your soul.

Peace,

Rich

[Crusader_4]

homeschoolmom your completly right there has been a "wall" (i like that word to describe) when i came back home to Rome. Its really noticeable between my family sometimes (my Uncle is a United Church minister) and also my friends one of which is a really strong anabaptist. Like we still hang out and like each other but its as if we have trouble commiting to each other because of this difference between us.

[crusader1234]

I grew up a Catholic in a Mennonite school. The ONLY Catholic in a Mennonite school pretty much. I don't really care about the Wall, considering I grew up with the Wall.

[theculturewarrior]

I never really had this problem. My conversion actually restored relationships, especially with my parents.

I have experienced anti-Catholicism and have lost friendships that were very dear to me because of my faith. But for the most part this was somewhat after the fact. Before I converted, I had nothing (and no one) to lose.