baby C Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 I am 15 sorry I forgot to put it. About the whole pizza thing I do think that he is a blessing to me. I loev him as a person. Even if I dont get physical with him I still want to be around. Is it wrong to think fare ahead at marrage??? .... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baby C Posted June 28, 2004 Author Share Posted June 28, 2004 dlz7486 asked me if I would lay down my life for this guy I think I love. I would. Even if he wouldnt for me which he would he has told me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilovechrist Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 it's not wrong to think ahead, even about marriage. BUT-- don't get caught up so much in it that you lose sight of everything else. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 15??? too young????? heck no!!!! I went out with this chick for 3 months right after I turned 13. I really loved her- still do but in a freindly sorta way not like go out kinda way. But I will admit I was/am too young. I think I definatly changed since we called it quits and she wouldnt be my "type" now. I think 14 is good age to start but like ppl start at 6th grade an im like- come on ur doin that so u look "cool" even at 7th which i think is a little young- its funny/pathetic to see ppl get so worked up over relationships Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dlz7486 Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 I don't think you are too young to love - I don't think anyone is too young to love. Love is built into us when we are born - God creates us with a heart of love, meant to love others. So, I don't think you are too young to love. You are very blessed to have met someone whom you love, and who loves you back. Now, I [i]do[/i] think that 15 is too young an age to think about marriage. Could it be that this ride you're taking is a whirlwind, and your heart is caught up in the apparent joy of it all? Let me put it this way - is this your first serious relationship? Does this person make you feel great inside, and you think you have to spend the rest of your life with him? As much as you won't like to admit it, at 15, a person is still very immature, and not old enough to make such an adult decision as commitment in marriage. Heck, I'm almost 18 and I'll admit I'm still immature. You have a lot of growing up to do still, and I think at this point, it's a little hasty to be thinking of marriage. [quote]dlz7486 asked me if I would lay down my life for this guy I think I love[/quote] Emphasis on "think I love." You [i]think[/i] you love him? Maybe take a step back and assess the lifelong commitment involved in marriage. You wouldn't commit a lifetime to someone you "think" you love. I don't mean to burst your bubble. I've had crushes on guys and dreamed about them as my husbands. And when you're in a relationship, it's easy to think of that guy as "the one" and start planning your wedding in your mind. I've done it, we've all done it. It's part of being a teenage girl! It's in our blood! My advice: enjoy your relationship with this guy. It sounds like you two have a really great relationship going. I wouldn't get too caught up in the thought of marriage. You both still have a lot of growing up to do. If you're still together when you're of age to make a rational decision about marriage, then I'm happy for you. God will let you know when you're ready to get married - it's all in good time. Enjoy your teenage years being youthful - that's what it's all about! Don't be in too big of a rush to grow up. It [i]will[/i] come, sooner than you think! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeraMaria Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 I agree dlz7486, I am 15 myself and I don't think I am old enough to completely 100% know and understand and recognize true love... I am willing to wait and grow.. and as dlz7486, I would say enjoy your relationship with him but don't get too caught up... God Bless! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 vera you can recognize my true love for you! lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baby C Posted June 30, 2004 Author Share Posted June 30, 2004 ok I know that I love him. I think that I am still a lil mature to know all about love. I think that some married people are still figuring that out. About getting married I think that I have know Idea who I am going to marrie. Right now I want to marrie him. I love it though. Imakes me feel so good in side thinking about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilovechrist Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 [quote name='curtins' date='Jun 28 2004, 07:48 PM'] vera you can recognize my true love for you! [/quote] not again.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carnanc Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 interesting, I am 17 and really have never been in that kind of more serious relationship. I feel as I may begin to seriouslly discern priesthood in a more active way by going to college seminary soon, at the moment I don't feel I it is appropriate for me to get into a relationship with someone and have the call to discern marriage. I think any dating relationship should be orientated toward discernment of marriage, before that just having a good number of good friends is good, rather than choosing someone exclusivly if not for marriage discernment together. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Huether Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 My wife and I began dating shortly before her 16th birfday. We dated for 7 years, and now we've been married for a year. We knew we were the ones for eachother after about a year of dating, and just had to ride the wave of academia before we could tie the knot. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dlz7486 Posted June 30, 2004 Share Posted June 30, 2004 Jake - I doubt that you and your wife were seriously discerning marriage at age 16. If you were, you are two in a million, and very lucky that you found each other. I don't think a teenager of any age is mature enough to make such an adult decision. As slywakka can testify, most teens have never been in really serious relationships - those serious enough to be thinking of marriage, anyway. The most failed marriages (except in extreme cases like domestic violence, etc.) are those between two people under the age of 20. This is a testament to why a mature and responsible decision requires maturity and responsibility. I don't think anyone has both at age 15. Just my two cents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
VeraMaria Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 [quote name='Jake Huether' date='Jun 30 2004, 01:50 PM'] My wife and I began dating shortly before her 16th birfday. We dated for 7 years, and now we've been married for a year. We knew we were the ones for eachother after about a year of dating, and just had to ride the wave of academia before we could tie the knot. [/quote] That is awesome...she must have been my age and she had alreay met THE one... *dreams on* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jake Huether Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 [quote name='dlz7486' date='Jun 30 2004, 04:07 PM'] Jake - I doubt that you and your wife were seriously discerning marriage at age 16. If you were, you are two in a million, and very lucky that you found each other. I don't think a teenager of any age is mature enough to make such an adult decision. As slywakka can testify, most teens have never been in really serious relationships - those serious enough to be thinking of marriage, anyway. The most failed marriages (except in extreme cases like domestic violence, etc.) are those between two people under the age of 20. This is a testament to why a mature and responsible decision requires maturity and responsibility. I don't think anyone has both at age 15. Just my two cents. [/quote] Well, when we seriously started to discern marriage she was 17 and I was 18... pretty close. We were both pretty spiritually mature though (compared with most kids our age). We were both waiting for you know what till we were married, and we both wished to please God - as best as we knew how at the time. You see, the thing is, when you are saving yourself for marriage and doing the Lords will (well, for the most part), I think this tends to help you (maybe subconsciously) to fiddler through your "options" quicker. So, I don't find it surprising that couples that are waiting till they are married tend to know "the person" sooner. I'm not saying that this is the rule. But when you aren't getting into relationships for sexual pleasure, then when you start to hit the age when your body naturally desires these pleasures, you tend to weed out those that aren't going to be potential husband or wife material. Does that make sense?? It has nothing, really, to do with age. There are some 14 year olds that I think can make pretty adult (spiritually) decisions. I know for a fact that there are a couple of those peeps here on Phatmass. So I wouldn't say that teenagers aren't mature enough. There are some (most probably), but not all. It has to do with spiritual maturity. And I would argue that most teens HAVE been in serious relationships. Serious, as in, they are being sexually serious. And this is precisely why they can't seem to find the right person. If you, in all your relationships, explore the marital realm, without being married, then really what you search for in a husband or wife becomes intangible (non-existent). Anyway... I don't know about me. But Erika is certainly 1 in a million. And Very, you are also one in a million. You will find the right guy (be it Jesus - if you are called that route). I will start to pray more fervantly that you find (or not) Mr. Right. God bless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
curtins Posted July 1, 2004 Share Posted July 1, 2004 [quote name='ilovechrist' date='Jun 29 2004, 09:57 PM'] not again.. [/quote] vera im only kidding dont kill me! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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