Mrs. Bro. Adam Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 When I found out that Adam had gotten into Frasican University, I was less than honest about my true feelings. The truth is that I'm scared. Scared to death. Scared of leaving a family who's accepted me like their own, scared that I'll become such a different person that I won't be able to get along with my mil after he finishes school. Scared that my mil will be mad at me for him going to FU. I'm scared of leaving what I call home so shortly after we got married. But more than anything else, I'm scared that Adam won't follow his dreams. Honestly, because this is what he has wanted, I want him to go, to follow his dream. To study under Dr. Hahn. To be a part of the reformation from within. I want him to be happy, and I know that if he doesn't go he won't be happy. The porblem is, though, that what I said seems to have made him change his mind about going to Stubie, and I don't know how to change it back. Hopefully him reading this thread will help him see that I really do want him to go. And hopefully we will go. Please pray that he'll change his mind, and forgive me for me ill-behavior. I was wrong. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Luthien Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Oh Terese! Its fine to have jitters about change. I myself was jittery about leaving my home of 7 years to live in Portland. Change is always hard, no matter how positive you feel about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Well, I don't know what you said, but you are married and you should be able to express your fears to him honestly without concern. When HSDad wanted to quit his job and go back to grad school full time and we would live on my paltry private school teacher's salery, well, let me tell you, I expressed a few "concerns"... (and during his last year, I was pregnant... even more concerns). But we did it. And I am really glad. But, I'm sure he will forgive you, if in fact, forgiveness is needed... (don't know what you said).... I am sure that you will both prayerfully consider this and will follow the Lord's leading. If you go, it will be a great adventure. --L Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birgitta Noel Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Oh Teresa, hang in there, and talk to him. Tell him that even though you are feeling those things that that doesn't mean that in your heart you don't want to. Change is hard, I've had a lot of fears etc about us leaving Peoria and the Community of St. John and moving to St. Louis etc. Even though it's a good thing and is the right choice for us and God has smoothed the path in so many ways that doesn't mean that I'm still not scared, apprehensive, wanting to stay in Peoria, and wondering if we're doing the right thing! Explain to Adam that even if you do feel that way that doesn't mean you want him to change his plans. I know that you would feel awful if he did that, explain that to him. Sometimes our hubbys need to hear that we support them even when we might express concerns or hesitations. He'll come around. It's good that you told him so you two can support each other in the move and all the changes. And just think, when you go to FUS you'll have the opportunity to meet all sorts of new folks as married folks. Not that you're not still your own person, but people will know you two together. You'll be in my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 I completely understand, teresa. i'm scared to death of the fall when my husband leaves to go to Vegas to follow his dream. at least you get to be with your hubby - I won't. but the thing is, i don't want to stand in his way of following his dream and going as far as he possibly can. i completely understand, and i hope that things work out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birgitta Noel Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 :-( Lil Red, what's he up to in Vegas? Being apart is really hard! Yay for weekend visits. Ok, sorry T, hijack of thread over. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Being nervous is so hard, especially about moving. I remember moving off to college...my parents dumped me off and left twenty minutes later...it was so hard. But Teresa, you have God and a loving husband, and the people at Steubie are so wonderful. You'll be content, I'm sure. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Theresa if you didn't have worries and fears about these big changes in your life - we would be worried about you.! Its ok to be scared, and its ok to be honest even if it ruffles feathers and hurts in the short run. God is seeing you thru. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 bump Adam, you ARE coming to school down here, right? :argue: :hammer: I can understand Teresa's apprehension, it will be a big change, but in the long run probably only a temporary change. This is such a great opportunity for you, don't let it slip away. I'll be here to help Teresa adjust, too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Catholic_4_Life Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 I'll just add my two cents... I grew up in Salt Lake City, UT. I had lived there for 21 years when I got an offer for a job in Indiana. I can't tell you how bad the jitters were, and how many people tried to tell me it might not be the best thing to do... I have now been in Indiana for 7 1/2 years and I have never been happier!! I moved here, got involved in the church and that was that! My life has been blessed ever since! So, although you have forces "telling" you not to do it...it could end up being the best thing that has ever happened to you. All in all, I believe that God wanted me here, that's why I am and why I feel at home. I think He wants you there...but until you go and find out for yourself, you won't know for sure. Just do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
theculturewarrior Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 :angry: ADAM IF YOU DON'T GO TO STUBIE HOW ARE WE GOING TO LIVE VICARIOUSLY!? :angry: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Birgitta Noel Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Yeah! Where is Adam anyways? What does he have to say about all this? Adam? Adam? Helllooooooooo???? Ok, so I don't really want to know all the details of y'alls marriage, but I would like to hear Adam say he just overreacted and is going to Stubbie..... :ph34r: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Adam Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 [quote name='theculturewarrior' date='Jun 24 2004, 04:00 PM'] :angry: ADAM IF YOU DON'T GO TO STUBIE HOW ARE WE GOING TO LIVE VICARIOUSLY!? :angry: [/quote] What does that word mean? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Thy Geekdom Come Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 [quote] What does that word mean?[/quote] He means to ask, "if you don't go to Steubie, how am I supposed to live through you?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Brother Adam Posted June 24, 2004 Share Posted June 24, 2004 Okay. I'm still not sure I understand though. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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