Anastasia13 Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 Is it unreasonable to ask an unemployed college graduate who lives at home to pay $80 to be a bridesmaid? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 3 minutes ago, Anastasia (L&T) said: Is it unreasonable to ask an unemployed college graduate who lives at home to pay $80 to be a bridesmaid? Paying for the privilege? Or paying for the dress? Paying for the dress is reasonable in my opinion. Would be nice if the bride can help, but not all of them can. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) Within less than a year I've been a bride and a matron of honor. Right now I'm a bridesmaid, that wedding is this summer. Being in someone else's wedding is a huge commitment. You have to give a lot of time and money. If literally all she's being asked to contribute to the ENTIRE bridesmaid "job" is 80 bucks then she's getting away with murder. The night before my wedding I was sending out MOH E-mails. LOL. It was a nice distraction. Edited January 10, 2016 by HisChildForever Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarysLittleFlower Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 The only time I was a bridesmaid (maid of honour) the bride bought me the dress! I realize now that is very rare. She was very nice to do that. I can't say what the average is though... If this is below the average its probably not unreasonable, but it might still be hard to find the 80 dollars. I know when I was unemployed living at home, 80 would have been a lot to spend on anything and I would have probably had to ask my family for help if I were in that situation I guess this depends what you mean too and if you mean the dress or something else Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 Yeah if you mean the dress 80 is excellent. My girls spent 100 at David's, and I spent 120 as MOH, also David's. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 $80 is on the low end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 I was only asked once, and turned it down. It didn't ruin our relationship. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Share Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) $80.00 for a $360 dress on super sale ordered by the bride. Shoes paid for by the bride's family. Purse being whatever she wants/ed. Edited January 10, 2016 by Anastasia (L&T) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 23 minutes ago, Anastasia (L&T) said: $80.00 for a $360 dress on super sale ordered by the bride. Shoes paid for by the bride's family. Purse being whatever she wants/ed. Sounds very reasonable to me. Of course if you cannot do it for financial reasons, simply decline politely and thank her for the honour. No shame in that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice_nine Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 When it comes to weddings and all the frivolous carp and drama attached to it I pretty much look like grumpy cat. But I think 80 dollars is a good deal. I'd take it. I've heard nightmarish stories but 80 bucks ain't no thang. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 7 hours ago, Nihil Obstat said: Sounds very reasonable to me. Of course if you cannot do it for financial reasons, simply decline politely and thank her for the honour. No shame in that. Agreed. As a bridesmaid, you're also financially responsible for the bridal shower and bachelorette party (girls pay for themselves and all chip in for the bride). 6 hours ago, Ice_nine said: When it comes to weddings and all the frivolous carp and drama attached to it I pretty much look like grumpy cat. But I think 80 dollars is a good deal. I'd take it. I've heard nightmarish stories but 80 bucks ain't no thang. I had a modest wedding, as did my brother and sister-in-law, but even keeping things reasonable you're paying thousands. I did nothing extra like ice sculptures or a room full of desserts or a photo booth...but when you think of the venue, photographers, and DJ alone, it adds up fast. There are ways to cut corners but even then... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarysLittleFlower Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) 7 hours ago, Anastasia (L&T) said: $80.00 for a $360 dress on super sale ordered by the bride. Shoes paid for by the bride's family. Purse being whatever she wants/ed. Sounds reasonable to me.. I know I probably wouldn't have had 80 dollars saved up when I didn't have a job, but the offer itself seems fine Edited January 10, 2016 by MarysLittleFlower Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
clk Posted January 10, 2016 Share Posted January 10, 2016 It's reasonable but also reasonable if the unemployed person declines and gives up the honor of being the bridesmaid. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted January 10, 2016 Author Share Posted January 10, 2016 (edited) 39 minutes ago, clk said: Deleted for reason of identifiable story. Edited January 10, 2016 by Anastasia (L&T) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice_nine Posted January 11, 2016 Share Posted January 11, 2016 10 hours ago, HisChildForever said: I had a modest wedding, as did my brother and sister-in-law, but even keeping things reasonable you're paying thousands. I did nothing extra like ice sculptures or a room full of desserts or a photo booth...but when you think of the venue, photographers, and DJ alone, it adds up fast. There are ways to cut corners but even then... Yeah it's not your fault. It's a cultural thing, and the wedding industry has grown into an untamed monster. Even if your not a diva about it, most people are not so eager to flout cultural norms. I remember one of my cousins had their wedding (I don't remember if people were invited of not or whatever) and then a few weeks later she had a pig roast/bbq thing at her house. We have a huge family so I'm sure it wasn't cheap but it was a hell of a lot less expensive than your traditional wedding reception. And more my style. But I digress. I just don't like all of this stuff, And my sister might be getting married next year and I'm just not looking forward to the process. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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