curtins Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 ok I have this freind and I was at his house the other day and when I went on his computer he didnt want me to see some stuff on his computer and I went to google to search sumthing and you know how it has all the serches that you have done in the past well there was a serch for sum porn stuff. Hes Catholic but I dont think they go to chuch EVERY sunday and i doubt he is very into his faith what should I do???? thanks in advance Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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voiciblanche Posted June 17, 2004 Share Posted June 17, 2004 Well, you don't [i]exactly[/i] know if he did it or not. Searches for porn come up all the time on my computer as pop-ups, so if you looked at my previous searches, porn might be one of them. Yeech. But anyway, I'd ask him about it. Maybe give him a book or reccomend some other websites that he could better use his time with. The last resort would be, I guess, to tell his parents. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Iacobus Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 "Talk less to him about God and more to God about him." Pray for him. Try and slowly intervene. Try and get him to admit he has or might have a problem with it. Don't tell him that he shouldn't view it because it is a sin. "The problem with porn is not that it shows too much but that is shows too little." We degrad women by looking at it. We reduce them, weither we notice it or not, to mere objects and not a person with a soul. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Matty_boy Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Buy him a copy of "Every Young Man's Battle." He'll thank you in the end. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
immaculata Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 [quote name='Matty_boy' date='Jun 17 2004, 08:41 PM'] Buy him a copy of "Every Young Man's Battle." He'll thank you in the end. [/quote] I read that book at the suggestion of one of my religion teachers. I was pretty surprised, and it really made me re-assess how I act/dress around guys. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cathgirl Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 pray. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilovechrist Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 read the book that Matty_boy suggested. it's definitely worth it! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qfnol31 Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Pray to his guardian angel and show him good sites on the internet (like Phatmass! ) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crusader1234 Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Ignore Amber - telling his parents would cause a big mess and wreck his relationship with them and your relationship with him. I think the best way to get him to stop going on those sites would for you to warn him that his parents might be checkign that stuff. Adolescence is hard, and I'm sure you know that its not unnatural or anything, so instead of just telling him not to do something (at this point in life hormones talk louder than words most of the time) encourage him to grow in his faith and eventually adolescence will end and he'll thank you for it. Peace, Rich Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
qfnol31 Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 As I said earlier, I think that praying to his guardian angel is the best idea. Also, trying to remove his focus from women and shift it more towards God is the probably the best option you have. However, I would still approach him about it, somehow, sometime. Maybe you can talk about chastity, or something like that. These are all just ideas. Remember charity and what your goal should be. Pray for guidance. [quote name='crusader1234' date='Jun 18 2004, 03:03 AM']Ignore Amber - telling his parents would cause a big mess and wreck his relationship with them and your relationship with him. I think the best way to get him to stop going on those sites would for you to warn him that his parents might be checkign that stuff.[/quote] As a last resort, I don't think this would be such a bad idea...but it's all how you do it. I know that for me, I actually mentioned to my parents that my brother was doing immoral stuff like that...it hurt, and it strained our relationship, but because I love him, I definately don't want to see him in Hell. I used to look at pornography, but I was very good at hiding my tracks. I don't believe my parents ever found out. But that's beyond the point. It took a few people telling me that it was wrong (a priest actually, and some good Reconciliations) and I got better about it. Now I hate to even glance at a girl wrong. But the point is, it was my friends that got me through these temptations most. I agree with Amber as that being a last resort, but first I think that someone else should approach him. If he admits to it, but won't stop, then really I would mention it to his parents. It would be a sin for you not to do everything you can to save him from this sin, just as it's a sin when someone is gossipping and you don't stand up for it. It can be hard, and oftentimes people will get mad at you, but if their goals are what they should be (to get to Heaven), then it won't matter in the long run. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crusader1234 Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Yeah, true, just make sure its the VERY last resort. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ilovechrist Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 well... if he has the strength, he could ask his parents to put a fiddler on their web connection. it helps prevent him from even thinking about it, and when he does--he can't get thru to it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crusader_4 Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Hey prayer get his guardian angel thats a great one. Another one i would advise and its amazing and i dont say that word without meaning it here IT IS AMAZING is this site [url="http://www.catholic.com/seminars/evert.asp"]http://www.catholic.com/seminars/evert.asp[/url] scroll down to "romance without regret" and it has two chastity talks one a public school and one a Catholic school depending on the person each has its place. Listen to it IT IS AMAZING!! it put Catholic sexuality into focus for me and my understandning of it as a teenager. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Carnanc Posted June 18, 2004 Share Posted June 18, 2004 Prayer to his guardian angel does indeed sound like a good idea. I was slightly involved with pornagraphy and it is really a lonely experience. Just being a supportive friend in other ways could help. once you get in to far though, I think its very hard to get out untill you are firmly convinced that is wrong, and then through prayer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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