Contemplating Josephite marriage

[adhoc]

I see your point, in fact I decided it's a dumb idea.

 

You can go ahead and delete this thread! It no longer serves a purpose since I don't embrace the ideas stated here.

[Nihil Obstat]

 

I see your point, in fact I decided it's a dumb idea.

 

You can go ahead and delete this thread! It no longer serves a purpose since I don't embrace the ideas stated here.

Do not embrace... What, exactly? The Church's teachings on chastity? If you are called to a higher and more self sacrificing form of chastity through vowed celibacy then that is excellent. But you must be able to meet the minimum requirements first.

[Gabriela]

I see your point, in fact I decided it's a dumb idea.

 

You can go ahead and delete this thread! It no longer serves a purpose since I don't embrace the ideas stated here.

Threads on Phatmass are practically never deleted. 

Except for when the interwebz eats them.

[blazeingstar]

I see your point, in fact I decided it's a dumb idea.

 

You can go ahead and delete this thread! It no longer serves a purpose since I don't embrace the ideas stated here.

Adhoc,

Don't be too hard on yourself.  I'm not sure what decision you came upon, but I think that what you asked had value.  Many people think that a Josephite Marriage will solve issues of sexuality for them.  There have been cases that bisexual or lesbian or gay or asexual persons want to marry in order to create a family by adoption with a mother and father and truly care for each other, just not sexually.

You didn't bring up a bad point at all, nor should you be embarrassed.  Society has totally messed up sexual love from both the angle of promiscuity to the advent of Kellog (yes that Kellogs like the cereal) who wanted circumcision to cause pain so as to prevent masturbation and many Christians who consider even marital sex somehow dirty and not to be desired except in procreation.  The sexual message we get from the Church is vague, so that adds confusion.

I hope you and your future wife find a balance.  Remember, you will each have your own sex drives and so long as you are not willfully or unjustly denying your wife, and she is not denying you, there is no quota on how much sex you two must have.  It's rare people have it daily, most weekly and some couples who don't have high drives can even go weeks so long as they keep their intimacy up in other ways.  Low sex drives are not an impediment to marriage, and so long as they are balanced, very likely not even an issue in marriage.