difficult personal situation..

[MarysLittleFlower]

Without getting into specifics, - let's say you have a choice to do something that you feel is God's will, or do something that you believe is a sin (even if venial, but could be mortal). But if you do the thing that is more perfect and pleasing to God, a person very close to you who you love very much wouldn't understand and would be upset with you. You choose to do thing pleasing to God, and the person does get angry and your relationship with them is now strained or even ruined somehow. How do you deal with that?

Something along those lines happened and now I'm really hurting. I'm also feeling guilty like did I do something wrong. I might have argued too much about it trying to explain my view. (maybe should have just let it go earlier). But I believe it's always right to choose God first, especially if the question is sinning or not sinning. This person is not Catholic and it's likely not their fault if they don't understand this issue, because it takes grace to understand.

Anyways this is really weighing on my mind.. does anyone have any advice? have you ever been in this situation and how do you try to repair the relationship? I told the person that I'm sorry if I'm hurting them, I'm just trying to act according to my conscience and what I believe to be best. This person is very very close to me and I know loves me very much - a family member. It was a very hard choice to make but in the end I don't think anything justifies sin. I'm afraid I also sinned in a different way just by hurting this person. does anyone have any thoughts?

Thank you!

[Ash Wednesday]

It doesn't sound like you did anything to deliberately hurt this person -- the fact that they feel hurt is beyond your control to a certain extent -- assuming that you were just giving an honest point of view and wanting to speak the truth without malice, I don't see how you would be sinning there.

Perhaps over time, even if the two of you may not be in agreement, they will understand that you still love them. Continue to love them and show kindness. If you explained your point of view with love, and if whatever you have done is done with love, there is only so much else you can do. 

Feelings between you may be a little raw at the moment, but give it some time and prayer.