franciscanheart Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 What are some deal breakers in friendship? Are deal breakers Christ-like? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted September 9, 2014 Author Share Posted September 9, 2014 I can't be friends with bad spellers. Or, at the very least, I can't be friends with people who don't care to be better spellers if they are bad spellers. :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Yeah they are. Heck, the Gospel last Sunday was about dealbreakers to some capacity. They just shouldn't be for frivolous things. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Deus te Amat Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 one of my deal breakers is when people expect me to be "tolerant" of everyone, but they won't be tolerant of me. I know I should lead by example and stuff, but: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 (edited) Your best friend avoiding you all week on a Catholic mission because she's afraid people will know you are best friends with her. True story. :| I got back at her by being one of the most popular people there. Payback's a witch. Edited September 9, 2014 by The Phetus Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted September 9, 2014 Author Share Posted September 9, 2014 I'm struggling with a friend who can only eat Hellmann's mayo. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Starets Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 There is no greater intolerance than the intolerance of the rigidly tolerant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 I can't deal with people who use the r-word either offhand or to ridicule. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 Self-destructive and outlandish behavior. It's the only time I've ever really had to sever a friendship. (Oh, and I mean the crazy behavior was theirs, not mine)... We did make amends and we're friends now, as long as we're a bit arm's length. Which is easy to do when you live an ocean and a continent away now. I also had something bizarre happen where I was good friends with someone in high school, we seemed to be fine, we were keeping in touch and friends on FB. Then she married some guy and ended up falling off the face of the earth, reappeared as a "glamour model" modeled after a barbie doll and completely changed her appearance -- plastic surgery, provocative modeling in skimpy clothing and poses suitable for stripping or porn. I'm also concerned she's gotten into other stuff I'm not going to mention on here. She had a different profile on FB, I tried to friend her and at first she accepted my friend request and then minutes later, she blocked me. :hmmm: She doesn't seem to be in touch with anyone else we knew, it's like she blocked everyone off for no reason at all. Maybe the deal breaker was that we all know her real age and not the age she claims to be. I get that we all grow up and change, but it's like she turned into a completely different person and polar opposite to the person we knew and I find it unsettling and a little bit hurt to be cut off by someone in that way. Pray for her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marigold Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 The alcoholism of one of my best friends turned out to be a deal breaker. I used to think it was Christian to keep being closely entangled in it, until my mum called me on it when she saw me burst into tears at the thought of travelling across town to comfort (= reassure the demons of) my friend yet again. A few weeks ago I saw her for the first time in two years, and within an hour we were down to the same base level of her begging and guilting me to get a drink with her. I refused and haven't seen her since, and think I probably won't again until she's sober. You can't have a relationship with that. I think it IS Christ-like to call a spade a spade. Abusive relationships are abusive whether or not the abuser realises they are doing it. With alcoholism I would go so far as to say it is not the real person at all who is doing it, but their demons, in a very concrete sense. I would never have said something like that before I knew this person, but experience is a wonderful teacher. However on the mayonnaise front I am open to suggestions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted September 9, 2014 Author Share Posted September 9, 2014 I can't be good friends with people who enjoy the cinema. Been there, done that; doesn't work for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 It's difficult to be good friends with people who can't laugh at themselves...people who take themselves too seriously. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted September 9, 2014 Author Share Posted September 9, 2014 Also: dislikers of tacos. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrysostom Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 (edited) Some deal breakers are drug smuggling, extortion, support for jihad and illegal WMD possession. It's really difficult to stay on good terms with someone who's bragging about the fission bomb in his backyard and planning to buy a ticket to Syria to join up with ISIS. Edited September 9, 2014 by chrysostom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted September 9, 2014 Share Posted September 9, 2014 dishonesty. I reconnected with an old friend from high school - we had some ish to work through (and did), but after she asked me for a recommendation for a hairstylist for naturally curly hair (since we both have that), she made an appointment and stiffed the gal for over $70 of salon services. I was ticked, to say the least, and decided it was okay not to reconnect with her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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