Phazzan Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 [quote name='Ash Wednesday' date='Jun 9 2004, 12:19 PM'] I find your patronizing suggestions that I'm not facing reality, accepting it, and not dealing with it downright offensive. [/quote] Well that's too bad, because it wasn't intended that way. I was just speaking from personal experience, but if you feel the urge to twist my words in future please do so in the correct context. I meant the reality of having to face up to the fact people are going ask you about your mum is best accepted and dealt with, instead of hiding which I have done my whole life, and have regretted. I meant if you're not at that stage (i.e. still mourning) then perhaps you are not ready to face friends just yet and it would wise of you to avoid this reunion as you have so clearly made obvious now. Sorry for your loss. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ash Wednesday Posted June 9, 2004 Author Share Posted June 9, 2004 I'm sorry if I misunderstood you, phazz, and you are probably very wise beyond your years losing someone that young. No hard feelings! I give you my condolences, too, for what it is worth. I think what I've mostly been trying to figure out is how to handle it with my friend. (Homeschoolmom's right, she's kinda being a little too self-involved with it all. She wasn't being very understanding when I told her the first time that I didn't know if I'd feel up to it....) Most people probably wouldn't think much of it. But I'll work it out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
crusader1234 Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 Ash, sorry about your mother. What I got out of your post was that you were worried about this being like a time capsule of when your mom was still here, and it would be sort of painful. I think that its only natural, and at this point I think that if you are this aprehensive you should probably wait until your 15 year or something, because it would be bad if this soured future reunions for you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cmotherofpirl Posted June 9, 2004 Share Posted June 9, 2004 I am planning on going to my 50th so I have 19 years to go. If you are going to feel worse, don't go. But you might be able to offer a word of comfort to somebody else there who is going thru a bad time. Only people who have been in pain can really empathize with someone in pain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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