OnlySunshine Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 (edited) I was just curious as to what you all think because I'm getting conflicting information from family about what I should do. I'm in a class this summer and the professor requires a group project. The first day, another girl asked if I wanted to be in a group with her and I agreed since I wanted to get started right away. During the break, I stepped out of the classroom and, when I came back, she had already found 3 other people. The next week, I thought we would be meeting during the time the professor set aside for the whole class and all the group members left class before I had a chance to speak to them. Then, I got an email from another girl in the group saying that she and the girl who asked me to be in the group had met without the rest of us and came up with an idea. The other girl said she wanted to be group leader, too. To be honest, it really irritated me that they met outside of class and didn't ask what we wanted to do, but I let it go and volunteered for the first part on the outline. I worked really hard to research and was ready to start the slides, but I wasn't sure if I should start them yet so I emailed everyone. I never heard back and the group members haven't been in class on a regular basis. We only meet once a week. I emailed individually again thinking it might go through and never heard from the group leader or the one who asked me - just the other two group members and they were in the dark as well. I was getting anxious and stressed out since I have other homework in my online class that requires a lot of my time. Well, about 2 weeks ago, I decided to tell the professor that I wanted to be in a different group, especially since we only have a little over a month until the end of the semester and haven't met since the beginning about the project. He told me to email the group leaders and see if one of them would let me in and I found one. I got assigned new material and have been working REALLY hard to finish it because the leader wants it done this week. Now, my question is: should I tell the former group leader I'm in a different group? Keep in mind that every email I send goes unanswered and I ask for return receipts which show she never reads them but the emails ARE delivered. Also, she hasn't been in class in SEVERAL weeks and neither has the other girl. I don't know what to say to them and I don't want to get in an argument or get harassed. We are in different majors and this is the only class we'll probably have together. Plus, I just got an email from the group leader yesterday (1 week before the paper is due) and she is asking other people to do the work that she assigned herself. Needless to say, if I was still in the group, I'd be really annoyed. If you were in my shoes, what would you do? Thanks! Edited July 7, 2014 by MaterMisericordiae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Perigrina Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 I would send an email and say pretty much what you told us. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 (edited) I would send an email and say pretty much what you told us. Thanks, Peregrina. I'm very glad I switched groups because the new group leader is amesome and is on top of everything. I know we are going to do a great job. I'm not stressed out anymore and I feel more confident. :) Edited July 7, 2014 by MaterMisericordiae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
freedomreigns Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 (edited) My thought is that it would just be a respectful thing to do to say something in an email like, "I haven't been able to get a hold of you to work through our project and want to let you know that I have joined another group." That doesn't sound critical or threatening, but does give them some notice that you are not available to work on anything. I do think it would be a good and fair thing to tell them, versus not saying anything and having them find out later. Edited July 7, 2014 by freedomreigns Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 My thought is that it would just be a respectful thing to do to say something in an email like, "I haven't been able to get a hold of you to work through our project and want to let you know that I have joined another group." That doesn't sound critical or threatening, but does give them some notice that you are not available to work on anything. I do think it would be a good and fair thing to tell them, versus not saying anything and having them find out later. I appreciate it and I like what you would say. I think I might cut and paste. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 (edited) I'd quit college and go to a trade school to learn how to weld. If the zombie apocalypse hits, your womyn's studies degree won't be useful at all. And if it doesn't hit, you have a cool job. And on the way out the door to your college, you should give that girl the bird. Edited July 7, 2014 by Winchester Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 I'd quit college and go to a trade school to learn how to weld. If the zombie apocalypse hits, your womyn's studies degree won't be useful at all. And if it doesn't hit, you have a cool job. And on the way out the door to your college, you should give that girl the bird. Real helpful, as always. :rolleyes: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 Ok, I just sent the email. No accusations or anything. Just let her know I switched and that the professor OK'd it. Thanks for the help! ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
truthfinder Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 Good stuff - I was going to suggest that you state the prof ok'd it, because it helps take all the 'responsibility' off you. (Perfect reason why I took a major which used very little group work.) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 (edited) Good stuff - I was going to suggest that you state the prof ok'd it, because it helps take all the 'responsibility' off you. (Perfect reason why I took a major which used very little group work.) I understand that group projects are required when you work at your job but it seems like everytime I'm required to work with a group, at least one group member doesn't cooperate or procrastinates until the last minute. In this case, it was 2 group members which was even worse. If they want to ruin their grade, that's fine but I can't afford to get low grades since I'm on financial aid probation for changing my major several times. I've learned the hard way. :) Edited July 7, 2014 by MaterMisericordiae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Catholic Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 How about you not email them and instead just talk to them face to face about it? Leadership/communication via email drives me up the wall. Stop being so afraid of confrontation. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Credo in Deum Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 How about you not email them and instead just talk to them face to face about it?. Also, she hasn't been in class in SEVERAL weeks and neither has the other girl. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 7, 2014 Author Share Posted July 7, 2014 How about you not email them and instead just talk to them face to face about it? Leadership/communication via email drives me up the wall. Stop being so afraid of confrontation. She hasn't been in class. Read the posts before you respond, OK? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 hahahahahaha Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Catholic Posted July 7, 2014 Share Posted July 7, 2014 Lol nope no excuses. Instead of sending emails into the abyss you ask your prof is x, y, or z still in this class and get an actual answer then move on with your life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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