Perigrina Posted May 30, 2014 Share Posted May 30, 2014 Goes without saying As you get closer to your wedding, it can take over your life and you may have to remind yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted May 30, 2014 Author Share Posted May 30, 2014 Im fully aware that weddings are just a 1 day thing. Im not the ooey gooey hopless romantic that a lot of people are. Im hardly even sentimental...my fiance is a more sentimental person than I am haha. I dont even want to buy a dress for the day. I want to rent one if I cant. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted May 31, 2014 Share Posted May 31, 2014 (edited) Congratulations! wait.. you inspected that ring and still said yes? man, do I have a bridge to sell you... :P congrats!!! I expect to have your firstborn son named after me... if your firstborn is a girl, name her Miles. I like how I'm involved in every thread in some way or another, even when they have nothing to do with me and I haven't even posted. This simply shows how much you all love to make fun of me. Edited May 31, 2014 by FuturePriest387 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 Congrats! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MIKolbe Posted June 1, 2014 Share Posted June 1, 2014 Congratulations! I like how I'm involved in every thread in some way or another, even when they have nothing to do with me and I haven't even posted. This simply shows how much you all love to make fun of me. ?? huh??? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 Welcome to the crazy train. ;) Two pieces of unsolicited advice I hope you'll appreciate: Make a separate email address for everything wedding-related. Most places sell your info and you're going to get a LOT of junk. They'll also call you if you give out your phone number, but a lot of the time that's kind of necessary. You can also consider telling them you got married if they bug you too much. Also, just like marriage, there are probably going to be some really tough moments ahead as you work toward becoming a family. That's normal. I knew that about marriage, but no one told me the same thing often applies to getting engaged, and I spent the first six months of our engagement wondering if we were doomed because things got difficult. Think of it this way: Trying to plan a wedding, deal with your families, learn to compromise and talk about serious issues through marriage prep is naturally going to stir the waters a little bit. :) It's all a part of the process that will bring you to the altar a lot stronger. Embrace it. Cherish this time. It's weird and wonderful and a true experience of what God can do with love and willingness. I hope it's every bit as fulfilling for you as it is for me 14 months in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted June 3, 2014 Author Share Posted June 3, 2014 Welcome to the crazy train. ;) Two pieces of unsolicited advice I hope you'll appreciate: Make a separate email address for everything wedding-related. Most places sell your info and you're going to get a LOT of junk. They'll also call you if you give out your phone number, but a lot of the time that's kind of necessary. You can also consider telling them you got married if they bug you too much. Also, just like marriage, there are probably going to be some really tough moments ahead as you work toward becoming a family. That's normal. I knew that about marriage, but no one told me the same thing often applies to getting engaged, and I spent the first six months of our engagement wondering if we were doomed because things got difficult. Think of it this way: Trying to plan a wedding, deal with your families, learn to compromise and talk about serious issues through marriage prep is naturally going to stir the waters a little bit. :) It's all a part of the process that will bring you to the altar a lot stronger. Embrace it. Cherish this time. It's weird and wonderful and a true experience of what God can do with love and willingness. I hope it's every bit as fulfilling for you as it is for me 14 months in. Thanks Missy! I have already started experiencing that stress. Since the day my mom found out she has already started pressuring us to get married sooner than what we wanted. Since we are a long distance relationship, there are a lot of particulars that need to be worked out. Where we are going to live, when I will finish school, my fiances job etc. Its a lot to think about. Will we live in NY or MN? etc Its going to be an interesting ride. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 (edited) Thanks Missy! I have already started experiencing that stress. Since the day my mom found out she has already started pressuring us to get married sooner than what we wanted. Since we are a long distance relationship, there are a lot of particulars that need to be worked out. Where we are going to live, when I will finish school, my fiances job etc. Its a lot to think about. Will we live in NY or MN? etc Its going to be an interesting ride. I totally get it, because while Brian's hometown is 20 minutes from me, he goes to school 4 hours away and will be there for a good 3-4 more years. The day after we got engaged, the weight of all the decisions hit me hard. Originally we had planned to wait until he graduates for better financial security, but over time being separated just didn't make sense anymore. It has been a very scary decision for me, because I'm going to quit my job and move up there after the wedding. It's going to be tight money-wise, but it'll be enough. For us, being together became more important for the health of our relationship. All you can do is weigh everything out, pray about it and trust God will help you. In the end, no matter what you choose you'll have your husband, and that's what matters. :) Once you make a decision, a lot of the weight will come off. That said, if you do choose to live in New York, you're always welcome to come out to Long Island and meet us! :hehe: Edited June 3, 2014 by MissyP89 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted June 3, 2014 Author Share Posted June 3, 2014 I totally get it, because while Brian's hometown is 20 minutes from me, he goes to school 4 hours away and will be there for a good 3-4 more years. The day after we got engaged, the weight of all the decisions hit me hard. Originally we had planned to wait until he graduates for better financial security, but over time being separated just didn't make sense anymore. It has been a very scary decision for me, because I'm going to quit my job and move up there after the wedding. It's going to be tight money-wise, but it'll be enough. For us, being together became more important for the health of our relationship. All you can do is weigh everything out, pray about it and trust God will help you. In the end, no matter what you choose you'll have your husband, and that's what matters. :) Once you make a decision, a lot of the weight will come off. That said, if you do choose to live in New York, you're always welcome to come out to Long Island and meet us! :hehe: Yeah. Moving so far away is going to be really difficult for me but that seems as though thats the way things are going to go. Its just hard to wait 2 years for school. Id like to do it sooner but the idea of being so far away and married just wouldnt work for me. And moving while Im still in school would be hard to just because Ive attended 2 different schools and I need to complete a certain credit amount to graduate at my current one. Bleh! But oh snap! Meeting more PMers would be quite exciting! The only PMer Ive met is Zabbazoey. Ive also known Proud2bCatholic, ardillacid, and sidemunch previously. If wanted to participate in the PM meet ups but its always been too hard. I wish I had a million dollars!! Then I could do all the things! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 Don't we all. ;) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted June 3, 2014 Share Posted June 3, 2014 Don't we all. ;) Pope Francis doesn't. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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