Regnum Christi/ Legionaries Of Christ

[Chiquitunga]

Miles Christi (www.mileschristi.com) also has Consecrated Women who have a community now in Michigan, near Detroit. I have been on retreats with the priests of Miles Christi and have met some of the Consecrated Women who were very kind. I haven't seen anything about them online (except for a listing here) but if your friend is interested, she could send them an email or call. I have heard of people going to make visits to their house to discern. They are very friendly and down to earth people, easy to talk to, including the priests and brothers, with a great Ignatian spirituality and on fire for the Faith! 

Edited May 20, 2014 by Chiquitunga

[Chiquitunga]

http://www.mileschristi.org/ I mean. it goes to the right place anyway :like:

[Perigrina]

There is a community, Sisters of Our Lady Immaculate, that is quite close and convenient for us which is having a vocation retreat in a couple of weeks.  I know she has considered going to it.  Does anyone know anything about this group? http://www.solisisters.ca/retreats.html

[Perigrina]

http://www.mileschristi.org/ I mean. it goes to the right place anyway :like:

 

Thanks for this suggestion.
 

[AnneLine]

I think one of the Phatmassers entered SOLI a few years ago...  updated because, YUP!

 

http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/topic/123653-first-profession-of-sr-marie-therese-sisters-of-our-lady-immaculate/

 

Edited May 20, 2014 by AnneLine

[petitpèlerin]

There is a community, Sisters of Our Lady Immaculate, that is quite close and convenient for us which is having a vocation retreat in a couple of weeks.  I know she has considered going to it.  Does anyone know anything about this group? http://www.solisisters.ca/retreats.html

 

From their website they look great: orthodox and joyful, attracting young vocations. I would go!

 

I agree with what you said, I'm learning the same thing in my own life: that pointing out the negatives of something someone likes only makes them feel defensive. Sounds like you've got a better plan.

[NotreDame]

Here are a number of the relevant threads Anne Line mentioned:

 

http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/topic/131129-questions-to-ask-during-visits/page-2

 

http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/topic/77767-going-on-a-nun-run/?p=1473662#.Uq4CP41Oldg

 

http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/topic/132411-questions-to-ask-communities/

 

http://www.phatmass.com/phorum/topic/132311-reasons-to-leave-a-monastery/
 

If you are wondering how to discuss it with your friend... Well, it's complicated.  These congregations have trouble (in large part) because they don't practice or encourage proper discernment.  It can manifest itself a number of ways, but generally a candidate's conscience (with respect to their vocation) is not respected prior to or after entering. 

 

The absolute best antidote is for a candidate to discuss their discernment/vocation with a religious spiritual director who his well-schooled and experienced in this area.  These are hard to find.  A candidate may have to be very proactive and aggressive in reaching out to gather multiple points of view before they find someone who can lend quality insights.

 

Unfortunately, if a candidate has fallen under the spell of someone who is telling them they have a vocation... well... they are unlikely to look for further opinions.  They may have an immature spirituality and perhaps a bit of pride about their "special calling" (which would be encouraged by the congregation) or they may feel guilty seeking out a director who would give them an "excuse" not to join (and these congregations certainly play to that angle as well.)

 

A good book on discernment (one of the very few out there) is Fr Gallaghers.  It also comes with podcasts that are free and stand on their own fairly well:

 

http://www.discerninghearts.com/?page_id=1146

 

If someone is really seeking God's will they can find it.  If they fall into spiritual pride, imprudence, or despair, however, they may have to figure it out the hard way. 

[AnneLine]

Thanks for finding a few more of those threads, NotreDame!

 

Hopefully some of this is helpful for you, Perigrina!  Praying for you and for your friend!

[cmaD2006]

Just a reminder to all ... each and every community deserves a level of respect, regardless of what is happening. There are ways of voicing concern about a community such that is still is respectful yet says what may need to be said. Please keep this in mind. Thanks.

[Perigrina]

Thanks for finding a few more of those threads, NotreDame!

 

Hopefully some of this is helpful for you, Perigrina!  Praying for you and for your friend!

 

Yes, I have been reading over the linked threads and finding a lot of clarity and insight.  Even my earlier negative experience of this discussion helped me to understand how attacked and defensive a person could feel when considering RC.  I feel much more prepared to deal with the situation than I did when I started.  Thanks for the prayers and your helpful suggestions.
 

[Perigrina]

Here's another one of those generic threads (NOT about a specific community) - 15 trouble signs for evaluating communities.

 

Just the way you phrased that brought things into focus for me.  I need to talk about evaluating communities is a general way rather than make specific comments about RC.

 

This thread has ended up being very helpful for me even though I did not think so at first.