CatherineM Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 Our son's girlfriend beat him up today. It's apparently not the first time. She actually broke a window and he's cut up on his face. The police took her away, but he isn't going to file charges. Now he wants her back. I've told him that I will not allow her back in our home. He is talking about moving into her mom's house with her. If that happens, I know we will lose him forever. That house is full of drug users. In that environment he'll be using and dealing within a month. I don't know what to do. His dad abused his mom so that seems normal to him. She even has him believing that it was all his fault. Classic abuser. I'm sick with worry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 You got my prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blazeingstar Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 Have you sat him face to face and asked him how he would feel if your hubby hit you and did that? Could you get anywhere with her? You're a pretty powerful woman, spiritually and mentally....perhaps supervised only visits would be far more helpful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 major prayers going up :sleep: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 Prayers incoming Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
KnightofChrist Posted May 6, 2014 Share Posted May 6, 2014 Praying Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted May 7, 2014 Share Posted May 7, 2014 Praying! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted May 7, 2014 Share Posted May 7, 2014 Praying, Catherine. If there is anything any of us can do, you know we will..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MargaretTeresa Posted May 7, 2014 Share Posted May 7, 2014 Lots and lots of prayers. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 7, 2014 Author Share Posted May 7, 2014 I was ready to let him walk away. He sat down with us, accepted responsibility for his part of the fight. He also very calmly and logically explained why he wanted to continue the relationship, the things that they both were willing to do to make things work. He reminded me that she has bipolar and isn't on the right meds yet. How I would feel if something happened to her. He negotiated with me like he was trying to sell me a million dollar home. Don't know where he learned how to do that. I must have rubbed off some. Now I know why people hate getting into fights with me. Bottom line is that I deal with kids who are broken. It can be hard at times. We have 6 right now. All doing pretty well. This was the first real chaos we've had in awhile. If it was easy, everyone would do it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted May 7, 2014 Share Posted May 7, 2014 Lord have mercy. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted May 7, 2014 Share Posted May 7, 2014 Catherine, we love you, we love the work you have done/are doing/will do with your son (and obviously it IS rubbing off!) and we love that you show the loving flexibility that God shows to us. I am gonna remember this the next time I want to show somebody the dooor..... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 7, 2014 Author Share Posted May 7, 2014 I have to remind myself constantly that healthy people don't hurt others, only hurting people do. I'm dealing with kids who are in the 60-70 IQ range. They don't have the mental capacity to put complex ideas into vocabulary. That goes for emotional ideas as well. When we can't communicate, we act out in frustration, kind of like the way autistic kids do. This young woman was tricked out for drug money by her crack addicted dad when she was a pre-teen. She's earned a few Muligan's along the way. We had been filling out forms last night for her adult fetal alcohol testing. She had to answer questions that left her raw. Apparently this morning's fireworks started because of a PTSD flashback. I think I lost my cool because I only got 4 hours sleep last night. That's my PTSD acting up. If you think two women having a fight because they both have PMS is brutal, two women with their PTSD acting up at the same time is like a steel cage death match. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brandelynmarie Posted May 7, 2014 Share Posted May 7, 2014 :pray: .....for all of God's children... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted May 7, 2014 Share Posted May 7, 2014 Catherine I love you... and we pray for you! for all of you! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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