Arfink's Wife Difficulties Thread

[Winchester]

In the interest of helping someone spread his message, I have created a thread. In another thread, Arfink Laserlord commented thus:

Personally I think, at least in the United States, a married priesthood would require massive overhauling of diocesan priesthood life. As it stands, those men are getting ground to dust in many places even without the extra difficulties of a wife and children. In the East they can make it work because their priests live very different lives than their Western counterparts.

I have created this thread in the hopes that he will share the wife difficulties. This is in no way an attempt to start a raging flamewar about rampant misogyny, microaggression, white privilege between those who might harbor such beliefs or those who incessantly whinge about them in their Womyn History classes while obtaining degrees they will hang in their employee lockers at Wal-Mart, or in their apartments (pending landlord permission). I only wish to provide a place for Arfink to share his difficulties with the wife, because wives apparently are difficult creatures that would further grind priests into meal. 

 

Please avoid talking about the difficulties of children, as this is open mic, not whatever that board is that dust created so that parents could ridicule the people who don't have children but insist on offering their opinions on how children should be raised, their shrill, hysterical advice adding nothing to the conversation but the intellectual equivalent of nails on a chalkboard made of screaming infants in a movie theater.

 

 

 

 

Edited April 11, 2014 by Winchester

[NotreDame]

 

or those who incessantly whinge about them in their Womyn History classes while obtaining degrees they will hang in their employee lockers at Wal-Mart

 

Are you saying women aren't entitled to a living wage?  Racist!

Edited April 11, 2014 by NotreDame

[blazeingstar]

In my young days I was exposed to protestantism where pastors had wives and kids.

 

Honestly, it was a pretty sad life and the pastors did far less than priests do.  The woman was forced to be a minister herself, often, and so were the kids.

 

If we aren't talking about priesthood/ministry specifically, then yes, I can also understand that.  My FI and I agreed that we are going to take a traditional path to child-rearing in which I stay home, do some at-home work, homeschool and he is the breadwinner.  If he were in my workplace he would be mocked within an inch of his life for having such a lazy, freeloading woman.  The conversations I hear around SAHM and even homeschooling are HORRIBLE!  And I work in education. 

 

Fortunately his employer and co-workers are all males and they do to each their own.   That said, in his industry men are still expected to do the bulk of the travel whereas women move into management and don't travel.  Then they aren't noticed for their hard work because they are not in the office.  Then they blame the men for not being motivated to advance....dog, meet tail.

Edited April 11, 2014 by blazeingstar

[CrossCuT]

Being a woman is a disease! CLEANSE ALL THE WOMEN OF THE DISEASE!!

[Lilllabettt]

the problem with PWs (preacher's wives) is they tend to make PKs (preacher's kids). ain't nobody got time for that.

[CrossCuT]

Kids are a disease!

[Cherie]

I am a wife and I am difficult. I pity my husband; the poor guy has to deal with me on a daily basis!

[CatherineM]

I had to find someone certifiable to marry.

[Sylvanna Imbris]

 

I have created this thread in the hopes that he will share the wife difficulties.

 

Wow.

 

Marriage is about you and your spouse helping each other get to heaven. I think most people would not call that an easy task!

 

The fact that marriage is difficult does not make it any less beautiful or rewarding.

 

Perhaps it may be too difficult for diocesan priests. Who knows? Sounds like something people would enjoy discussing. But to make a whole thread to cast aspersions on another phorum member's personal life because he stated that having a wife and children might involve difficulty seems ridiculous. A bit out of context and a bit out of place... I think there's a thread for this type of thing in the Lame board? "Misquote the person above you" or something like that? I don't think people would take offense there, but to post this in Open Mic seems like a personal attack.

 

 

[Winchester]

It's clearly stated in the OP that the intentions of this post are good. I've never in my internet career done anything personal, and I am a pacifist. You will note the happy taco in the OP. Do you think cruelty would make an anthropomorphized taco happy? Of course not. Such a suggestion is beyond the pale.

[SilentJoy]

Do you think cruelty would make an anthropomorphized taco happy?

7,926 props for this sentence (out of real props).

[4588686]

hey

[Era Might]

money over sandWICHES

[PhuturePriest]

Of course women are just a bunch of work. Why do you think I'm applying for the seminary?

[dUSt]

Bros before woes.