What's Too Fast In A Relationship?

[CatherineM]

Met him in June, got engaged in October, married in January. Of course we were both 43 and getting more elderly by the minute, so had no time to waste.

[cartermia]

My parents got married after 3 years of "dating" and "talking". Yeah, their a little slow. :hehe:

[ToJesusMyHeart]

My mom and dad dated for 9 weeks before getting engaged and then were engaged for 3 months till marriage. Going on 27 years, I think. :)

[Winchester]

I've heard tell that 68 is too fast, but from my anecdotal experience, I must vehemently disagree.

[PhuturePriest]

My parents got engaged after four weeks of knowing each other.

[IgnatiusofLoyola]

My parents got married after knowing each other 5 months. They got divorced after 25 years of marriage.

 

Bottom line: There is no "magic formula." However, in today's society, it is better not to get married too quickly. You may know very quickly that someone is the right person for you, but it's better to wait to actually do it.

 

I wish I could remember the source, but one old proverb said it was best to "summer and winter" with someone before getting married.

 

My variation on that is to try to see your future spouse in as many situations as possible, including all the tough ones. Under great stress. When they are sick. When they are making a tough decision. etc. etc.

[Anastasia13]

I've heard tell that 68 is too fast, but from my anecdotal experience, I must vehemently disagree.

So 69 is better than 68?

[Winchester]

So 69 is better than 68?

I'm not saying it's better. Just that it's not bad.

[mcts]

We first started talking online at the beginning of June, met IRL for the first time at the end of june, got engaged mid November, and got married the following June.  I don't think we went a single day without talking after about a week of talking online. When we were long-distance, our schedules allowed us to see each other at least 5 days a week (our cars are troopers).

Edited February 28, 2014 by mcts

[Maggyie]

We had our first date 2 weeks after meeting online. First kiss (a peck goodbye) on our second date. Said I love you 5 months in. Engaged just over the two year mark. Married 8 months later. So neither fast, nor slow in my opinion!

For the first couple months we only talked every other night during the week and it drove me crazy.

I think the bigger question is who says I love you first? I was trained that you always make the man say it first, but I think that is a little sexist lady-trap thing. Nevertheless I sat on my hands until he finally said it...

Edit: grammar ugh...

Edited February 28, 2014 by Maggie

[Jesus_lol]

I'm not saying it's better. Just that it's not bad.

 

Dont let a cop catch you going that fast, that could be embarrassing on a date.