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What's Too Fast In A Relationship?


Anastasia13

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Is texting or talking almost every day a little over a month after meeting too fast if you are just starting to go out and you click really well?

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There is no "too fast" or "too slow" it depends on the couple and their needs.

 

My FI and I began to talk on Feb 3, 2013.  We met on Feb 8, emailing daily at that point.  We wrote every day, and saw each other 1-2 times a week for a few months (Easterish?)  after that we saw each other 2-3 times a week.  We talk every day.  In fact, since March of last year we haven't gone a day without talking except when I was in the ER and very ill.  We will be getting married in September.

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Basilisa Marie

It's only too fast if you think it's too fast. You're in the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship, so not wanting to talk every day might be a bad sign. :)

 

Other than that, the only objective "too fast" I'd worry about is getting engaged and married too quickly, without enough proper discernment. 

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I know a couple who dated 1 week before getting engaged. They have been married over 50 years and have 10 kids. lol

 

Toooootally not the norm. Its just kinda cray but Im happy for them!

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It's only too fast if you think it's too fast. You're in the "honeymoon" stage of the relationship, so not wanting to talk every day might be a bad sign. :)

 

Other than that, the only objective "too fast" I'd worry about is getting engaged and married too quickly, without enough proper discernment. 

 

I don't know what is too fast. I am attracted to only a small handful of age-appropriate, single guys. Combine that with similar values and liking me too, and I say yes to going out with guys who I don't eventually become attracted to, much less ones that I am actually impressed a little by, find comfortable, and leave me with a somewhat elevated pulse. This is weird.

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I know a couple who dated 1 week before getting engaged. They have been married over 50 years and have 10 kids. lol

 

Toooootally not the norm. Its just kinda cray but Im happy for them!

I proposed on our second date. :|

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Arfink and I talked everyday. He proposed not long after I got there for our first in person visit in August but we waited a few months to announce it . We'd known each other about 5 months. It was fast. ;)

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PadrePioOfPietrelcino

If your worried about kids and your not married...too fast.

If your spending the might together and not married...too fast.

Being immoral in your relationship in general...too fast.

 

Talking everyday and building a relationship...normal, just right, and perfect.

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I met my boyfriend online as well and we talked for about 10 months everyday via text message, phone, email, skype,  basically everything hahaha!. Then we met IRL in october 2012 and still talk every single day non stop.

Neither of us are in a position to get engaged as of yet because of the business of our own personal lives, but it really depends on the couple and how they handle it. 

 

I suppose we COULD get engaged if we watned to, but we are still in a long distance relationship and it would be hard to uproot our lives right now and i DONT want to be married in a long distance relationship. So for us, the choice is easy and we are waiting until circumstances change.

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Arfink and I talked everyday. He proposed not long after I got there for our first in person visit in August but we waited a few months to announce it . We'd known each other about 5 months. It was fast. ;)

 

:saint2:  Yep.  My fiancee and I decided to marry after 5 months, but for prudence purposes he waited until about 9 months to make it official.  From meeting to marriage it's about 19 months.

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