Franciscan University Thread

[PhuturePriest]

Sorry if this sounds harsh, but if your parents are not giving you any financial support for college, then, in the end, they have no say in what major or career you ultimately choose. Of course you want to respect your parents and take their opinion into account. But, in your case, college will be YOUR financial investment, and you need to make the wisest decision for your life.

 

Not trying to disrespect your parents, but, from the tiny bit I know about you, it appears that you've come from a fairly dysfunctional family. Unfortunately, some of the issues that you are facing now from your current family situation are things you will be living with at least some level for the rest of your life. With dysfunctional families, you try to love them the best way you can, but ultimately you need to work out a way to do as much as you can to heal any damage that has been caused so far, and to live the rest of your life in the way that makes YOU happiest--and where God wants you to be. HE's part of your career decision, too, arguably the most important part.

 

 

No kidding. If it is on your dime, change majors as often as you want. By then you will be an adult, so you are free to start acting like one. That means making your own educational and career choices.

 

This is what I've been thinking. They would help me if they could, but college is obviously expensive, and they don't want to take any loans, so I guess that means if I go to college rather than seminary I'll have to take all the loans by myself and get as many scholarships as humanly possible.

[Slappo]

This is what I've been thinking. They would help me if they could, but college is obviously expensive, and they don't want to take any loans, so I guess that means if I go to college rather than seminary I'll have to take all the loans by myself and get as many scholarships as humanly possible.

Just don't entirely disregard their advice. If they give it to you and you don't like it, just don't throw it back in their faces of course. Hypothetically they want the best for you afterall :)...

 

 

That and I agree with them that you need to major in something that will actually make you employable. Student loans don't go away if you declare bankruptcy. I also agree with what others said that lower cost tuition is much better than super expensive (25k+ a year) tuition at a school that you think is all that jazz. Student loans are definitely not something to ignore and think that you'll just have money later in life. They can be a major burden and entirely change the next several years of your life. We've been throwing tons of money at student loans for the past 4 years and they are still an awfully big burden holding us back from a debt free financial situation.

[Basilisa Marie]

Yeah, debt becomes a heck of a lot more real once you get to the other side of college. 

[OnlySunshine]

One rule my parents have is that they don't want me to switch majors. So, pretty much, I have to look into them and decide what I want to do before I go into it. Civil engineering seems like the most viable and safe option so far. It wouldn't be as easy for me as theology, but if I want to make $70,000 a year in the field I studied compared to doing what I studied for nothing, I'm going to have to work for it.

 

 

I am sorry, but that is a bad rule. People switch majors. It happens. Often it should happen.

 

I switched majors even before I graduated high school. :hehe: Switched from chemistry to commerce.

 

Man, I can't imagine if my parents gave me that rule.  I can't count the number of times I switched my major during ADD episodes because I'd get bored easily or I'd find something that interested me more at that moment.  Now, I'm completely engrossed in health care and cannot imagine switching majors.  I've been going for the same major for over a year now and I love it.  I hope to expand on it when I've received my Bachelor's by continuing and becoming a Physician Assistant.  I know that switching has hurt me because now I'm over the max credit hours but I'm going to graduate next year.  I really think I needed to find my niche.

[SilentJoy]

FuturePriest, my dad wanted to go to a little Christian college not far from home but his mother insisted on his going to a secular out-of-state college that he didn't like to get a degree that he didn't want. When he tried to speak up about it, his dad told him to shut up and respect his mother. He didn't feel like he had a choice. He met my mom in that town but otherwise it was hell; at one point he considered driving off a bridge. I'm just trying to let you know, you have a choice, even if it doesn't seem like it.