blazeingstar Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 But listen to what you just said: "men do the protecting". You aren't outright saying it, but this makes it sound like short guys can't protect anyone. One of my old black belts is a Vietnam veteran and is only about 5'6". He openly got into fights with huge guys if they were being out of line, and he never lost. Stature has nothing to do with protection. Yes, boobs are nice. But here's the difference: I wouldn't not marry a girl because her boobs weren't huge, or even normal sized. You need to read studies about why we are physically attracted and what comes with that. 5'6" isn't as tall as the average man but it's still taller than the average woman 5'4" As far as boobs-attraction to boobs has nothing to do with size but what touching does...and men are attracted to boobs wheither they understand why or not. Life's Little Mysteries Hardcover Gift Book. 193 pages. Answers to Fascinating Questions About the World Around You. Buy Here Credit: LiveScience Store Attraction to breasts "is a brain organization effect that occurs in straight males when they go through puberty," Young told Life's Little Mysteries. "Evolution has selected for this brain organization in men that makes them attracted to the breasts in a sexual context, because the outcome is that it activates the female bonding circuit, making women feel more bonded with him. It's a behavior that males have evolved in order to stimulate the female's maternal bonding circuitry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I don't know one girl who wouldn't date or marry a guy because his dingaling isn't novelty-sized. In fact, none of the girls I know would even ask about it. How would you even ask about it? "Will you marry me?" "It depends. How big is your dingaling?" Height discrimination is discrimination, and it's a piggish thing to do. All discrimination is. Way to completely evade the question, but answering still and showing that you are vain. You wouldn't even marry the guy God wanted you to marry because he isn't tall enough for you. I'm glad you have to go teach, because I'm honestly flabbergasted and don't know what to say in response to that. And way to turn a false analogy into an ad hominem attack. Should I report this? Why bother... Seriously, FP, chill out. You now know one woman who would not date a guy shorter than her. But didn't we just have a conversation in the VS? I think it's pretty well known that I'm discerning religious life, hence my Jesus example! Would you date someone who weighs 600 pounds? Or who has a horribly, ghastly mutated face? No? Isn't that discrimination? We don't control who we are attracted to. I'm attracted to tall, dark, Arab/African men. But most of the men I've dated have been stocky blondes. Go figure. I'm not saying we shouldn't love short people, obese people, mutated people, etc. That would be horrible. But who we sleep with is another matter. It's much more personal and subjective. And if the purpose of dating is marriage... hmmmm good question. I don't think so, but not really for intelligence reasons. I would distinguish between intelligence and education. A highly intelligent woman is not the same as a highly educated woman, and once you introduce education into the equation, there is probably going to be a class gap. If a woman lives the life of a university professor, and I'm not in an equivalent profession (lawyer, doctor, etc.) then it's probably not going to be a good fit. There was a Cosby Show episode about this haha, Vanessa brought home a janitor as her fiance, and Cliff and Claire (doctor and lawyer, respectively) were not amused. Good point. The research shows that it is highly educated women who have difficulty getting men. Though in my experience (I haven't seen research on this point as I have on the education factor), highly intelligent women have the same problem. It could be, however, because the women want to date someone smarter than them, and there are simply too few candidates! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 Sorry, everyone. I'm having a pretty bad Monday, and I've been running on very little sleep for the past few days. I'm not using any of that as an excuse -- I'm just not thinking right and I'm feeling irritable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Another thought: it's kind of boring to just look for people who you think fit your sense of attraction. Part of the fun of meeting someone is being surprised when they don't meet your expectation. If you're closed-off to anything other than what you think you like or want, you're going to miss out on the ability to be surprised and to be changed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Good point. The research shows that it is highly educated women who have difficulty getting men. Though in my experience (I haven't seen research on this point as I have on the education factor), highly intelligent women have the same problem. It could be, however, because the women want to date someone smarter than them, and there are simply too few candidates! haha. A lot of things are about balance...if a woman is not book-learned, but has common sense, than it could be a match. If she has a phD, but works as an activist in a slum, then you might have a fit if you're a high school teacher. If she's tall but has a nice voice, well, there ya go. etc. etc. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
blazeingstar Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I accept your point. But there is a difference between "I wouldn't date a Middle Eastern man because I find they have machismo problems" and "I won't date a Middle Eastern man because they're scum". And I'm not saying that's how women treat short guys, I'm just saying there's a difference between what you were talking about and what I was talking about. It's more my fault for not being clear. FP, no, there's not a difference. It's discrimination. It's enlightened discrimination, but it's discrimination. Uneducated discrimination often comes form a gut-instinct place or from anacidotial evidence. My good friend a white, Baptist American woman once dated a muslim Camroonian man. My friends and I prayed for her to break up...there was no way that was going to end well. When they did break up we were relieved. He could of been the best guy in the world but cultures, religion, language...there are some boundaries that should be respected. If she had married him, I would of given support, but I'm glad it never came to that. I have a friend in an interracial marriage for over 5 years now and she has 2 kids. They are an amazing family. But they are both Christians raised in similar socio-economic backgrounds, with similar values. Totally different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 haha. A lot of things are about balance...if a woman is not book-learned, but has common sense, than it could be a match. If she has a phD, but works as an activist in a slum, then you might have a fit if you're a high school teacher. If she's tall but has a nice voice, well, there ya go. etc. etc. Yeah, I once had a professor who was a militant feminist Latina. She was married to the local high school gym coach. I could not understand. But then, I never met him, and they were very happily married! :idontknow: God's funny like that! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
An Historian Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 My fiancée is 5'3 and I am 6'0. She's also very petite and I am not! It's one of the things I love most about her. If I was not engaged to her though I wouldn't date a girl taller than me. Or even of equal height with me. It's just not attractive to me. Also if she's small the chances are likely that her family members are small. And I assure you when the day comes that you need to face her seven brothers and her father who are all a good bit shorter than you are, it feels pretty comforting! :smile3: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
r2Dtoo Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Clearly, The solution to all girl problems is to give them frogs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) Sorry, everyone. I'm having a pretty bad Monday, and I've been running on very little sleep for the past few days. I'm not using any of that as an excuse -- I'm just not thinking right and I'm feeling irritable. That's ok, FP. We all have bad days. But it's good you apologized! We still love you—even though you are nobese and your face is horribly cutated. :child: What say you all we turn this thread into a "Cheer Up FP" thread? Edited October 28, 2013 by curiousing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Clearly, The solution to all girl problems is to give them frogs. That is SO romantic! :love: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 Clearly, The solution to all girl problems is to give them frogs. Is that a new strain of sexual disease or something? That's ok, FP. We all have bad days. But it's good you apologized! We still love you—even though you are nobese and your face is horribly cutated. :child: What say you all we turn this thread into a "Cheer Up FP" thread? Thank you, though I don't know what "nobese" and "cutated" mean. If by "nobese" you mean commonly accused of acting like an anorexic girl and "cutated" means having acne, then you are correct on both accounts! :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4LoveofJMJ Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 If I was attracted to and fell in love with someone shorter than me I would marry him. But there is a part of me wants a man taller than me. Being that I'm 5 9", there aren't that many guys who are taller than me, and those that are have very short girlfriends. Why is that? Just as FP is saying that he wouldn't mind dating a girl who was taller than him, I hope there other guys out there who have the same opinion. And who would not mind hanging around my family who are all much taller than me. :hehe2: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) If I was attracted to and fell in love with someone shorter than me I would marry him. But there is a part of me wants a man taller than me. Being that I'm 5 9", there aren't that many guys who are taller than me, and those that are have very short girlfriends. Why is that? Just as FP is saying that he wouldn't mind dating a girl who was taller than him, I hope there other guys out there who have the same opinion. And who would not mind hanging around my family who are all much taller than me. :hehe2: There definitely are, I assure you. I'm still good friends with the girl I spoke about earlier, and what's crazy is that she's the short one in her family. Her dad and brother are 6'3". I love visiting them because I feel like a Hobbit. :P Edited October 28, 2013 by FuturePriest387 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God the Father Posted October 29, 2013 Share Posted October 29, 2013 women generally want a guy eight inches I can confirm this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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