PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 A poll on Match.com for girls said that 71% of girls on there would not date a man who wasn't taller than them. I wanted to see what the fine Catholic ladies here thought. Please note that the poll never specified. "Shorter" could mean half an inch shorter than you, and further studies show that women generally want a guy eight inches taller than they are. Before I give my thoughts on this, if you are among the number who wouldn't date/marry a guy shorter than you, let me ask you a question: Let's flip this over and say that the poll was for men, and 71% said they wouldn't date a girl whose breasts weren't at least C cups. Would that seem unfair and ridiculous? Hint: The answer is 'Yes'. And it's just as ridiculous to say you wouldn't date/marry a guy because he was short. I know plenty of tall people who are jerks, and plenty of short people who are incredibly awesome husbands and fathers (Jason Evert being one of them, being only about 5'7"). Being 5'5", I've never actually run into this issue, which is why I was so shocked that such a high number of girls said they wouldn't. I've been able to attract really attractive girls and it's never seem to be an impediment to me, but these have mostly been nice Catholic girls who focus on more important stuff than height, so my theory is perhaps devout Catholic girls don't focus as much on height as secular girls do because they are looking for other traits than something as dubious as how tall you are. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Eowyn Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 I voted yes. Don't think it would matter that much to me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 Yes. But finding a guy shorter than me would be a bit of a stretch (I'm very short!). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) I voted yes. Don't think it would matter that much to me. I don't see it as a big deal either. Some guys say they won't date a girl taller than them, but it makes no difference to me. I was totally into a girl one time, and she was 5'11". It never bothered me that she was that much taller, and it never bothered her that I was that much shorter. I honestly never even noticed she was that tall. I knew she was taller than me, but it's not like we would've snapped our necks trying to kiss each other. Edited October 28, 2013 by FuturePriest387 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) I have dated men shorter than me, but it always bothered me. Call me shallow. Whateva'. I think your comparison of the height issue to the breast issue is a false analogy. Why don't you ask men if they'd date a woman taller than them? Tall girls have it pretty rough, from what I hear. Or better yet, how about you ask men if they'd date a woman smarter than them? Highly educated women (especially the black ones) have it roughest of all... Edited October 28, 2013 by curiousing Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 I have dated men shorter than me, but it always bothered me. Call me shallow. Whateva'. I think your comparison of the height issue to the breast issue is a false analogy. Why don't you ask men if they'd date a woman taller than them? Tall girls have it pretty rough, from what I hear. Or better yet, how about you ask men if they'd date a woman smarter than them? Highly educated women (especially the black ones) have it roughest of all... The comparison is not a false analogy. It's something women can't control (Except in their case they can get their breasts enlarged, though I would be depressed if women started doing that due to a poll), and it's something that doesn't matter. I can't speak for other men, but I already said I don't care about the height issue whatsoever and don't care, even if the girl is six inches taller than me, and as for women being smarter, I thought that was a given? Aren't all women smarter than guys? I just always assumed if I got married my wife would be smarter than I am. I never gave it much thought. My sister is super smart, so I'm used to girls being smarter than me. It doesn't bother me at all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 The comparison is not a false analogy. It's something women can't control (Except in their case they can get their breasts enlarged, though I would be depressed if women started doing that due to a poll), and it's something that doesn't matter. I can't speak for other men, but I already said I don't care about the height issue whatsoever and don't care, even if the girl is six inches taller than me, and as for women being smarter, I thought that was a given? Aren't all women smarter than guys? I just always assumed if I got married my wife would be smarter than I am. I never gave it much thought. My sister is super smart, so I'm used to girls being smarter than me. It doesn't bother me at all. When you grow up, you will see that the intelligence issue is in fact a huge issue. And it is a false analogy. If you want a proper analogy, compare height to height and breast size to ***** size. See what kind of results you get there. Newsflash: There are pigs among both women and men. "Height discrimination" doesn't make you a pig. Sex organ discrimination... well... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 I have dated men shorter than me, but it always bothered me. Call me shallow. Whateva'. I think your comparison of the height issue to the breast issue is a false analogy. Why don't you ask men if they'd date a woman taller than them? Tall girls have it pretty rough, from what I hear. Or better yet, how about you ask men if they'd date a woman smarter than them? Highly educated women (especially the black ones) have it roughest of all... The question is this: If you found the perfect man for you, would you decline marrying or dating him simply because he was a few inches shorter than you (Or even a lot shorter than you)? It makes no sense to me. Why does height matter in the first place? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 The question is this: If you found the perfect man for you, would you decline marrying or dating him simply because he was a few inches shorter than you (Or even a lot shorter than you)? It makes no sense to me. Why does height matter in the first place? Jesus is the perfect man for me, and given that He lived in the 1st century, I suspect He is a good deal shorter than I am. Would I still marry Him? Absolutely. Now, any lesser man... I have to go teach now. Talk to someone else! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 When you grow up, you will see that the intelligence issue is in fact a huge issue. And it is a false analogy. If you want a proper analogy, compare height to height and breast size to ***** size. See what kind of results you get there. Newsflash: There are pigs among both women and men. "Height discrimination" doesn't make you a pig. Sex organ discrimination... well... I don't know one girl who wouldn't date or marry a guy because his dingaling isn't novelty-sized. In fact, none of the girls I know would even ask about it. How would you even ask about it? "Will you marry me?" "It depends. How big is your dingaling?" Height discrimination is discrimination, and it's a piggish thing to do. All discrimination is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) I am extremely short to begin with and I really havent encountered more than 2 guys in my entire life where I have stood taller than them so its hard to say. Ive never dated anyone shorter than me. I did go on a date with a guy who was my same height (and questionably shorter) but that didnt work out for reasons completely unrelated to height. If I wanted to be rad, Id say "Im totes down! I have no problem with short guys" But the irrational side of my brain says "Ughh that would be weird!!" I do honestly believe however that if you care for someone enough, height wont matter. It just depends on if you can get over that initial fact to begin with in order to start a relationship. I think its totally do-able however some girls (depending on how much weight they put into certain characteristics) will likely be unable to see past such a situation in order to allow the guy to move past the friend zone. PS. I actually wish my boyfriend was shorter....our height difference can be a hassle sometimes. Edited October 28, 2013 by CrossCuT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted October 28, 2013 Author Share Posted October 28, 2013 Jesus is the perfect man for me, and given that He lived in the 1st century, I suspect He is a good deal shorter than I am. Would I still marry Him? Absolutely. Now, any lesser man... I have to go teach now. Talk to someone else! Way to completely evade the question, but answering still and showing that you are vain. You wouldn't even marry the guy God wanted you to marry because he isn't tall enough for you. I'm glad you have to go teach, because I'm honestly flabbergasted and don't know what to say in response to that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) Getting your question back on Target, Miles, I've dated guys who were my size (5'4") and shorter, one who was nearly 6'5", and ended up marrying one who is 5'9. It really wasn't a factor for me. And... back in the 1990's, one of the more interesting premises in L.A. Law (a tv show, episodes available on youtube....) had to do with 2 of the lawyers who were a married couple... and this is them.... Oh... and they are married in real life, and have been for nearly 30 years... and I think the secret is he is such a nice guy that ANY woman would be attracted to him. Certainly among all the other lawyers on that show (and there were some very gorgeous and s*xy guys and gals playing the lawyers....) STUART (^^^) was the one I found most attractive.... and would have been the ONLY one I would have even considered... [media]https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X4K_axEH_5U[/media] Edited October 28, 2013 by AnneLine Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 (edited) I don't think height is inconsequential. Every characteristic has some bearing on how we experience the world, and that shapes who we are, to varying degrees. Or better yet, how about you ask men if they'd date a woman smarter than them? Highly educated women (especially the black ones) have it roughest of all... hmmmm good question. I don't think so, but not really for intelligence reasons. I would distinguish between intelligence and education. A highly intelligent woman is not the same as a highly educated woman, and once you introduce education into the equation, there is probably going to be a class gap. If a woman lives the life of a university professor, and I'm not in an equivalent profession (lawyer, doctor, etc.) then it's probably not going to be a good fit. There was a Cosby Show episode about this haha, Vanessa brought home a janitor as her fiance, and Cliff and Claire (doctor and lawyer, respectively) were not amused. Edited October 28, 2013 by Era Might Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted October 28, 2013 Share Posted October 28, 2013 If a lady won't date you because she's taller, you have no business being interested in her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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