Please Tell Me This Is Scrupulosity

[cmaD2006]

Thanks. That's good advice. My confessor assigned me to weekly confession which has helped. Sadly, with my current living conditions it's impossible for me to go to him alone. I have to alternate between him and another priest. That is unless I switch the day of the week in which I confess.

 

Weekly?  With scrupulosity?  That's surprising, because weekly confession can actually fuel scruples.  But -- I defer to your confessor since he knows your specific situation. 

 

You could always switch the day of the week in which you confess ... if it helps you stick to one priest then I'd think it would be worth it.

 

I'm mentioning this because I just did something that I'm positive is mortal (I'll discuss that soon) and want to confess it sooner than my normal day. If i were to make this change then I'd also have to switch confessors. Granted, I'll be spending much more time with that priest than my current confessor. At the same time, I prefer my confessor because he already knows my struggles.

So about the sin I mentioned above. It involves me lying to get out of a situation that would require me to state the teachings of the church (something I wanted to avoid). Before doing this I stopped and actually told my self that to go through with the action was to commit a mortal sin. After thinking for a while I did it any way. So in this case grave matter, full consent and full knowledge were present.

 

Well if you 100% think that you have fallen into mortal sin then ok -- don't go to communion and, honestly I would *wait* to go to confession.  You go weekly, so at worst case you'd have to wait 6 days.  God's mercy is great too -- so if you do (God forbid) pass away while waiting God will take your sincerity and intention to go to confession with your confessor into account.

 

And ... let your confessor pass judgment as to whether or not it was mortal sin.  I would also do my best to make it a point to go to confession right before Mass ... that way, you really *can't* mortally sin.  So ... you make your weekly confession, and go to Mass right after.  At absolutely worst case, if you sin soon after Mass, then ok, you can't go to communion during the week. 

 

Just some ideas.  And again -- your confessor really has the final say here. 

[Poorly Catechized Convert]

If I were to switch the day of the week, how would I do so? It would require me changing confessors (I hate thinking of it like this, since I love my current one). So should I talk to both of them before doing so? Also, if I were to change it would be from Saturday to Wednesday. So would I wait more than a week or go tomorrow?

OK, so about waiting. This is embarrassing. Tomorrow I'll be at church while confessions are taking place right before Mass. It's embarrassing to have people see me not going to confession and then abstaining from the Eucharist. If I mention mortal sin then I look like a fool for not going to confession. And there's no way I'll tell my peers about my scrupulosity. So what do I do in this situation?

After typing this I'm realizing that I must appear like a mess. I'm not this bad in real life.

[Anastasia13]

You seem like a highly religious yet isolated person

 

A dangerous combination

[Poorly Catechized Convert]

I just want to point out, in response to that quote, that I'm not an isolated person. I do have OCD which creates my scruples, but I don't separate myself from others. The two aren't correlated. Just because I worry about sin, doesn't mean that I'm isolated. It is simply a result of the combination of my mental disorder and my newness to the faith. While I am shy, I love and do interact with others; quite frequently actually.

Edited October 2, 2013 by Poorly Catechized Convert

[Poorly Catechized Convert]

I just want to point out, in response to that quote, that I'm not an isolated person. I do have OCD which creates my scruples, but I don't separate myself from others. While I am shy,I love and do interact with others; quire frequently actually.

[Anastasia13]

A dangerous combination

 

Though I suppose there are exceptions.

[Poorly Catechized Convert]

If I were to switch the day of the week, how would I do so? It would require me changing confessors (I hate thinking of it like this, since I love my current one). So should I talk to both of them before doing so? Also, if I were to change it would be from Saturday to Wednesday. So would I wait more than a week or go tomorrow?

OK, so about waiting. This is embarrassing. Tomorrow I'll be at church while confessions are taking place right before Mass. It's embarrassing to have people see me not going to confession and then abstaining from the Eucharist. If I mention mortal sin then I look like a fool for not going to confession. And there's no way I'll tell my peers about my scrupulosity. So what do I do in this situation?

After typing this I'm realizing that I must appear like a mess. I'm not this bad in real life.

Sorry to repost again. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on these two things. Again, I'm sorry; I won't do this again. I promise.

[Apteka]

Sorry to repost again. I was just wondering if anyone had any advice on these two things. Again, I'm sorry; I won't do this again. I promise.

 

There's no embarrassment in not receiving communion, it's not something you ought to worry about. Remember, what other people think of you is non of your business. I think you're other thinking things too much. Like I said, best thing is to change your perspective on life. Be open to all that life has to offer, be adventurous, make friends, have fun, enjoy the time you have. Pick up some hobbies, get out of the house!