TheresaThoma Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 So for the whole living on campus vs commuting thing I would suggest trying to live on campus at least for a semester or two. I spent three semesters living on campus but then I transferred and now commute. There are so many invaluable opportunities that come from living on campus. Between learning how to deal with roommates (or not), being able to fully participate in all the activities and not worrying about driving back and forth there is much to be gained. You can develop a study "community" much faster and easier when you are on campus. There were more than a couple of times when I went over to a friends dorm for a last minute impromptu study session. It is much harder to develop those relationships when you commute in. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilllabettt Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 mom sounds like a saboteur. Just my opinion from personal experience. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 I just really cannot imagine living in a room with someone else because of ADD, although I am not going under documented disability. Get in touch with the Academic Resource Center regarding this. They'll likely connect you with the Provost. If you want documentation I mean. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 13, 2013 Author Share Posted July 13, 2013 mom sounds like a saboteur. Just my opinion from personal experience. No, she's just looking out for me. Both she and my little sister had student loans and neither one would suggest that I get one, especially my sister because she can't even pay for her own apartment even though she has a good job at her alumni college. My mom just doesn't want me to have to pay my loans off for years. I know it's ultimately my choice but I am definitely considering staying at home until I can afford housing without loans or until I finish school (whichever comes first). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 My sister's first year, she had a roommate she didn't particularly like. Fortunately, they barely talked, so it was like she didn't even have a roommate. I met a sweet girl in college who's roommate never spoke to her. In fact I was able to witness the bizareness first hand. The roommate had friends and a boyfriend come by often so it's not like she was shy or socially awkward. Strange. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 13, 2013 Author Share Posted July 13, 2013 It might be better for me to wait until next year (my senior year) to live on-campus anyway because, by then, I'll have met people at school and I will be much more able to choose my housing assignment and/or roommates during the roommate selection period. I missed it because it took place in February while the incoming freshmen class were enrolling. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 13, 2013 Author Share Posted July 13, 2013 Also, it doesn't preclude the fact that I've already connected with the Catholic group from school on Facebook. I've already decided to be a participant in their group. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 It really is nothing to worry about. ......... Just relax -- what's the worst that could possibly happen? dude. never say these things to someone who has anxiety. it's not really helpful. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 dude. never say these things to someone who has anxiety. it's not really helpful. It's what people say to me when I have anxiety. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatholicsAreKewl Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 dude. never say these things to someone who has anxiety. it's not really helpful. WHY ARE KERMITS EYES LIKE THAT? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maggyie Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 It might be better for me to wait until next year (my senior year) to live on-campus anyway because, by then, I'll have met people at school and I will be much more able to choose my housing assignment and/or roommates during the roommate selection period. I missed it because it took place in February while the incoming freshmen class were enrolling. I know how you feel about housing. It's kind of a thud-in-the-stomach feeling. I have an anxiety disorder too. But I encourage you to be brave and live on campus. If I remember, you're pushing 30 - it really doesn't matter how your mom feels about this. It's probably slightly more expensive, yes, but if you count how much you'll be spending on gas and wear and tear on your car, not THAT much more expensive. At this point in your life, getting out from under your parents roof is almost priceless. You MUST gain experience doing this and unpleasant grown-up tasks like finding people to live with and living in circumstances that aren't your first choice. It's much better to have 2 years experience doing this than 1. Plus, you have the opportunity now to make this change. A year from now your circumstances could change and you once again will have a reason why you can't live on campus and take risks. One thing I learned in therapy for my anxiety was "run towards the roar" in other words, push yourself towards the very thing that is causing you anxiety - if it's public speaking join a speech club, if it's rooming with someone, move on campus. Your brain can be trained to reinterpret the "scared" feeling as "exhilaration." A lot of anxiety is fed by ruminating, if you don't give yourself a chance to ruminate on how anxiety-producing it is, when you plunge in and you're in the middle of doing it, you'll find you're actually more resilient than you thought. Please don't let this chance pass you by, you'll be kicking yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 It's what people say to me when I have anxiety. why would you spread the dumbness around then? WHY ARE KERMITS EYES LIKE THAT? you're welcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatholicsAreKewl Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 why would you spread the dumbness around then? you're welcome. His eyes look a Lil red. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Amppax Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 His eyes look a Lil red. Ha. Haha. :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 why would you spread the dumbness around then? you're welcome. I don't see it as dumb. It helps me. If I'm nervous about something, I think "What's the worst that could possibly happen?" I think, realize there's practically a zero percent chance anything bad is going to happen, and I'm fine. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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