OnlySunshine Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 (edited) I'm having a major anxiety attack (which I'm prone to) about housing. I submitted a housing contract today to live on-campus at the university I am enrolled at for Fall 2013. I thought the way it would go was I would pay the fee and then select from the available room assignments. However, it didn't go like that at all. I posted on my university's Catholic page asking the current students about the room I'm hoping for and now they are telling me (including a former RA) that I may not get the room I want because there aren't that many. I can still cancel the contract but there is a $300 processing fee on top of the $300 I already paid. I'm not in a good position to pay that at all. I just really cannot imagine living in a room with someone else because of ADD, although I am not going under documented disability. I'm brand new to university life even though I am a junior because I graduated from a 2-year school. Have any of you lived in a dorm with a roommate? How did it work out? I'm really hoping to talk to a housing coordinator tomorrow and I hope I don't flip my lid until then. :( Edited July 12, 2013 by MaterMisericordiae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 It really is nothing to worry about. My sister's first year, she had a roommate she didn't particularly like. Fortunately, they barely talked, so it was like she didn't even have a roommate. The next year, she got a room with her friends and all was well. Just relax -- what's the worst that could possibly happen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Just relax -- what's the worst that could possibly happen? :| Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 12, 2013 Author Share Posted July 12, 2013 It really is nothing to worry about. My sister's first year, she had a roommate she didn't particularly like. Fortunately, they barely talked, so it was like she didn't even have a roommate. The next year, she got a room with her friends and all was well. Just relax -- what's the worst that could possibly happen? That's the problem with anxiety -- it sends my mind into a dizzy spell and then I just start thinking of everything that can go wrong. I can't get my mind to calm down. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 12, 2013 Author Share Posted July 12, 2013 This is ridiculous! I was all excited about moving on-campus and living on my own until I found out that I may not get the room I want. Now I keep thinking of ways to get out of it. :( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Bombay Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Maybe your roommate will be your BFF and you'll grow old together in a happy and holy friendship that never would have developed if you had your own room. It's just as likely as something bad. Just sayin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Maybe your roommate will be your BFF and you'll grow old together in a happy and holy friendship that never would have developed if you had your own room. It's just as likely as something bad. Just sayin. This is one of those rare moments you listen to a troll. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Maybe your roommate will be your BFF and you'll grow old together in a happy and holy friendship that never would have developed if you had your own room. It's just as likely as something bad. Just sayin. Go home life of St. Benedict and St. Scholastica, you're drunk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Archaeology cat Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Freshman year: lived with my BFF. Sophomore year: first half lived with 2 girls I didn't really know. One I became good friends with, the other we didn't dislike but never knew well. Second half I lived with a different friend, and it wasn't the best Junior year: lived in an apt with three others, only one I knew well. She and I didn't get along that well, but the others were fine. Senior year: lived in an apt with 5 other girls, including my BFF. It went really well So, you never know. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Bombay Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 This is one of those rare moments you listen to a troll. You might actually learn something if you listened more to your elders and spent less time telling one and all how good looking you think you are. Just sayin. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
morostheos Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Lots of people get nervous about having a stranger for a roommate in college, especially since most people don't grow up sharing a room with siblings anymore. Colleges know this. Most of the time, things work out fine. Sometimes, they don't. That is what the Residential Life office at the college is for - if your roommate situation really doesn't work out, they can arrange something different for you. For me, freshman year I had two roommates - both strangers. I got along great with both of them and one is still one of my best friends. Sophomore year was crazy - I started with one of my freshman roommates, then she moved out and I had my own room. Then halfway through the year the school moved me to a different room, which I shared with a girl who was coming back from an expulsion for underage drinking. She was ok, but we didn't have much in common - 8 weeks in she got kicked out again and I had my own room once again. It sounds scary, but really it was fine. Junior year I lived with one of my good friends, and senior year I was with my freshman year roommates again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 You might actually learn something if you listened more to your elders and spent less time telling one and all how good looking you think you are. Just sayin. Life might be easier if you were a little more lighthearted about things. And I don't actually talk about my looks that much. You just seem to be there every time I mention them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted July 12, 2013 Author Share Posted July 12, 2013 Thanks everyone. I'm resigning myself to not freaking out until tomorrow because there is nothing I can do about it right now. I took some medicine and had a shower and I feel much better. Please keep me in your prayers. Plus, I'm glad that you all had pretty decent experiences with residential life. I really want to live on-campus so I'm not wasting gas going back and forth from campus to home, especially since I am hoping to find a job either on-campus or near campus. My classes that I plan to register for are all on Mondays and Wednesdays and I have one in the evening so it would really benefit me to not have to come home and then go to school again. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 Mater, I can relate to the problems with roommates. I also have pretty strong ADD and a learning disability and I'm a very strong introverted type, and I didn't have a good experience with hardly any of my roommates when I was in a small college style dorm. Eventually I was able to move into an apartment and much more often had space and time alone, and that was very important. Prior to that I had to go hide in a secluded corner of the library to study or things like that, I just could not stand being around people that often. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Winchester Posted July 12, 2013 Share Posted July 12, 2013 It really is nothing to worry about. My sister's first year, she had a roommate she didn't particularly like. Fortunately, they barely talked, so it was like she didn't even have a roommate. The next year, she got a room with her friends and all was well. Just relax -- what's the worst that could possibly happen? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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