EmilyAnn Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Joke 1. Something said or done to evoke laughter or amusement, especially an amusing story with a punch line. 2. A mischievous trick; a prank. 3. An amusing or ludicrous incident or situation. 4. Informal a. Something not to be taken seriously; a triviality: The accident was no joke. b. An object of amusement or laughter; a laughingstock: His loud tie was the joke of the office. v. joked, jok·ing, jokes v.intr. 1. To tell or play jokes; jest. 2. To speak in fun; be facetious. Don't you patronise me. And I was referring to your tone throughout the entire thread, and I doubt the entire thread is a joke. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stella Matutina Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Ignore the issue until it becomes a real problem (as in, you are marrying a girl of another ethnicity). Your parents are not likely to respond well to your attempts to correct them, and I'm sure that everyone has enough drama in their lives without playing out hypothetical scenarios where you marry a girl they don't approve of. I'm not trying to disregard the issue, as I can understand how annoying and/or worrying it is, but it seems silly to dwell on it at this stage. Wait until there is actually a problem to start coming up with solutions. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 Don't you patronise me. And I was referring to your tone throughout the entire thread, and I doubt the entire thread is a joke. I don't know why people don't want to be patronized. The Saints are patrons, after all. Anyway, I am not labeling groups of people. All I did was say Japanese women are pretty and I joked about them being my height or shorter. This is a physical fact, not a racial slur or a label. Germans generally have big noses, the Irish are typically on the short side, etc. There's nothing wrong with being able to laugh at your ancestry. I know you are highly defensive about anything you take as an insult to your ancestry, but don't apply that onto me, please. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dUSt Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Generally speaking, even if you did bring home a black girl for example, and your parents slowly began to like her, and eventually loved her--they would probably still be racist--as they'd consider her an anomaly and think of her as "not really black". If what you say is true about them not being culpable, I think the first step is to get them to realize that they are indeed racist. I have personally witnessed a friend who I never suspected to be racist straight up say in front of a black person that they would not allow their daughter to date a black man. Now keep in mind, they were saying this in front of a black person--apparently, one of those black people that they forgot was black. Racism is alive and well--it's just hidden a lot better now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 I grew up where there were different water fountains and waiting rooms for whites and blacks. It is very hard to change ingrained opinions. It can be done, but it is hard work. I've seen lots of changes, but sometimes it takes generations. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 Ignore the issue until it becomes a real problem (as in, you are marrying a girl of another ethnicity). Your parents are not likely to respond well to your attempts to correct them, and I'm sure that everyone has enough drama in their lives without playing out hypothetical scenarios where you marry a girl they don't approve of. I'm not trying to disregard the issue, as I can understand how annoying and/or worrying it is, but it seems silly to dwell on it at this stage. Wait until there is actually a problem to start coming up with solutions. i agree. :) and welcome to phatmass. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 Generally speaking, even if you did bring home a black girl for example, and your parents slowly began to like her, and eventually loved her--they would probably still be racist--as they'd consider her an anomaly and think of her as "not really black". If what you say is true about them not being culpable, I think the first step is to get them to realize that they are indeed racist. I have personally witnessed a friend who I never suspected to be racist straight up say in front of a black person that they would not allow their daughter to date a black man. Now keep in mind, they were saying this in front of a black person--apparently, one of those black people that they forgot was black. Racism is alive and well--it's just hidden a lot better now. I was actually eagerly awaiting a reply from you, as I know your wife is black and I figured your opinion on this would be interesting. As life should always be, I was right. What you say makes a lot of sense. I hadn't actually thought about that before, to be honest, but it makes sense. You would think that after meeting someone like that they would say "Oh, I guess black people aren't so bad after all", but it's very typical to individualize cases like this and isolate them in your mind. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stella Matutina Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 i agree. :) and welcome to phatmass. :) Thank you! I'm happy to be here, you folks seem like a great bunch to chat with. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 (edited) Thank you! I'm happy to be here, you folks seem like a great bunch to chat with. :) well, i can't speak for everyone, but obviously myself (and another poster by name of "Winchester") are pretty great. :) Edited July 10, 2013 by Lil Red Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 Thank you! I'm happy to be here, you folks seem like a great bunch to chat with. :) Indeed, welcome! I hope you stick around! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 the Irish are typically on the short side, etc. I never knew that. My family is the complete opposite. :mellow: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 I never knew that. My family is the complete opposite. :mellow: I'm sixteen and 5'5", so that should answer your question. :P Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 I'm sixteen and 5'5", so that should answer your question. :P It really doesn't...my dad and younger brother are 6'5" and 6'4", older brother 6'2", mom 5'7" and I'm 5'9"...and we're extremely Irish. :| (hopefully that emoticon works this time!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted July 10, 2013 Author Share Posted July 10, 2013 It really doesn't...my dad and younger brother are 6'5" and 6'4", older brother 6'2", mom 5'7" and I'm 5'9"...and we're extremely Irish. :| (hopefully that emoticon works this time!) "Extremely Irish" is pretty vague. What else are you? I have a very small percentage of Native American in me, but it's enough that it darkened my skin and hair. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted July 10, 2013 Share Posted July 10, 2013 "Extremely Irish" is pretty vague. What else are you? I have a very small percentage of Native American in me, but it's enough that it darkened my skin and hair. A little British, a little Scottish. But yeah, I'm so white I reflect the sun. And I'm not kidding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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