Racist Parents Question

[homeschoolmom]

"Spanish" is neither a race nor a color.

[Era Might]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_detailpage&v=Q29YR5-t3gg

[franciscanheart]

Do you mean Hispanic? :huh: Spanish girls tend to be fair-skinned anyway so she probably wouldn't even know. Unless you mean Hispanic. Then you might have a problem. Unless you meet someone like me who gets confused for other ethnicities all the time.

More importantly though: you're Caucasian? :blink: Weird.

[PhuturePriest]

Do you mean Hispanic? :huh: Spanish girls tend to be fair-skinned anyway so she probably wouldn't even know. Unless you mean Hispanic. Then you might have a problem. Unless you meet someone like me who gets confused for other ethnicities all the time.

More importantly though: you're Caucasian? :blink: Weird.

 

Yes, Hispanic is the word I was going for. Give me some slack, it was late and I was on my iPod. :P

 

Hahaha! What did you think I was? Whatever you thought, I'm not technically 100% Caucasian, as I explained in the last page.

Edited July 10, 2013 by FuturePriest387

[PhuturePriest]

Are your parents Catholicc ? Do they practice ? If so how can they be racist ? Isn't that a mortal sin ?

 

They don't think they're racist, so I think it's one of the cases where they're racist and don't realize it, thus meaning it's not a mortal sin.

[Oremoose]

 I would say that you are marring to the same race..."human race". But that is just me.

 

i though agree with beatitude and cross the bridge when you get there.

[FutureCarmeliteClaire]

We gotta hook MAPS up with an Asian girl, people.

[PhuturePriest]

We gotta hook MAPS up with an Asian girl, people.

 

Yes. This, people.

 

It is really perfect, though. I've always found Asian girls beautiful, I love Asian culture, and there's a 99% chance she will be just as tall or shorter than me.

 

Note: India and Mongolia are not valid choices. I've never liked Indian culture and dating a Mongolian would be too weird since I would only be able to think about Genghis Khan the entire time.

[Oremoose]

Yes. This, people.

 

It is really perfect, though. I've always found Asian girls beautiful, I love Asian culture, and there's a 99% chance she will be just as tall or shorter than me.

 

Note: India and Mongolia are not valid choices. I've never liked Indian culture and dating a Mongolian would be too weird since I would only be able to think about Genghis Khan the entire time.

 

or the yeti

[EmilyAnn]

Yes. This, people.

 

It is really perfect, though. I've always found Asian girls beautiful, I love Asian culture, and there's a 99% chance she will be just as tall or shorter than me.

 

Note: India and Mongolia are not valid choices. I've never liked Indian culture and dating a Mongolian would be too weird since I would only be able to think about Genghis Khan the entire time.

 

Just gotta say, you're defining people by their race and making assumptions about them based on it which isn't really right either IMO. 

[PhuturePriest]

Just gotta say, you're defining people by their race and making assumptions about them based on it which isn't really right either IMO. 

 

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[Lil Red]

I don't know. I've heard of people whose parents cut off all tied with them over something like this. I'm not certain that would happen if I married a Japanese girl, but it might if she is Spanish. Either way, my mother in particular will resent the girl and treat her pretty terribly.

 

if she's a strong enough girl, it won't matter how your mom treats you. 

[CatholicsAreKewl]

Yeah, I can see how this troubles you but you're not in the wrong for breaking off ties with them if they don't respect your life choices. They love you. If their dislike for your wife is so deep that they won't even pretend to be respectful around her for your sake, then distance yourself from them. They'll get the hint eventually. 

Edited July 10, 2013 by CatholicsAreKewl

[Anastasia13]

Fun fact: In the US, Mexican Americans were traditionally considered white before the 1930s.

[brianthephysicist]

It's not an immediate concern, so I wouldn't worry too much about it. 

 

But, if your parents disapprove of a relationship for such petty reasons, then their approval really isn't that important. 

 

 

Yeah, I can see how this troubles you but you're not in the wrong for breaking off ties with them if they don't respect your life choices. They love you. If their dislike for your wife is so deep that they won't even pretend to be respectful around her for your sake, then distance yourself from them. They'll get the hint eventually. 

 

Why can't I prop either of these posts?

 

 

 

My grandfather on my dad's side had a streak of that too (not to be confused with my grandfather on my mom's side, who happens to be the most amazing gentleman ever).  It was very odd because he was white as a sheet and he married a very dark skinned Italian girl, basically right off the boat from Italy with her family.   But he refused to give his blessing for my Aunt to marry a black man.  Even though my grandfather has passed away, they're still faithful to each other but they never got married and don't have any kids.  I feel really bad for the two of them.

 

I was much luckier in that both of my parents stressed to my brother and I that it was less about what somebody looked like or their cultural expression and more about who the person is and whether or not they're willing to love til death do us part.

 

But it's odd, because I never saw racism in the household at all growing up, but after I graduated high school my dad would occasionally drop a racial slur if he was upset at someone of that particular race.  It was extremely shocking the first few times it happened.  I still don't really know what to do about it.  It's never said in generality, only in describing a specific person and only after that person has done something extremely upsetting to him.  I really don't know.  My guess is that it's weird holdover stuff from when my dad was growing up.  I have no idea.

 

:hijack:

 

Missy and I actually had a few conversations on the topic of parents disapproving of certain aspects of how the marriage would be lived out and how to face the parents' disapproval.  Basically, I said yea, there's things we're going to disagree over, but if they refuse to meet us peacefully (and yes that includes passive aggression), then I don't want them around our children to rob the peace.  Missy and I would still be able to find our peace through that, but kids don't know how to deal with stuff like that yet.

 

I want all 4 of our parents involved, but there are certain things we need to come to an agreement on how to live that out.  If they aren't willing to do that, then unfortunately I'd have to say no for the time being and we can keep trying to work this out.  I hate to say it, but whether or not you get to see your grandkids or not is a pretty big motivator for a lot of people.

 

I say (if it so happens that you want to date someone outside of your ethnicity) that you should let the girl know ahead of time the trouble you guys might face, and then just go for it.  Even if they disagree or make things a little bit difficult for you, they will eventually come around to the idea of it, even if it's only after you get married (and yes I realize how tough that sounds).