HisChildForever Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 When you say shrugs off as unimportant, do you mean as in doesn't care about it being important to me or as in does not share those hopes and dreams? Well I really meant the former, but the latter is important. You want someone who supports and encourages you. It might not be his dream to become a veterinarian (for example) but he should encourage your studies, maybe even volunteer to help you study before big exams, and he should be understanding that during certain times of the semester you'll be so busy studying you won't have too much time to go out. Sometimes there has to be compromise. If you dream of traveling the world, but he isn't fond of hot weather, you might agree to take a cruise to Alaska instead of Bermuda. Things like that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 This. Though did you mean to say "They DON'T have to be clones?" LOL. Yes Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 TBH, I think it may be a better idea to stop asking very vague questions to strangers online. How can anyone here give good advice based on the information you give? yeah. :unsure: plus, we're only getting one side here. :unsure: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Share Posted July 6, 2013 yeah. :unsure: plus, we're only getting one side here. :unsure: What side is missing? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lilllabettt Posted July 6, 2013 Share Posted July 6, 2013 :facepalm: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seven77 Posted July 6, 2013 Share Posted July 6, 2013 What side is missing? Try angle? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted July 6, 2013 Author Share Posted July 6, 2013 Try angle? Not to go off on a tangent, but I was hoping someone would give me a sign like when I needed someone else for a loan where we cosigned. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Bombay Posted July 6, 2013 Share Posted July 6, 2013 Heh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Share Posted July 13, 2013 (edited) Well I really meant the former, but the latter is important. You want someone who supports and encourages you. It might not be his dream to become a veterinarian (for example) but he should encourage your studies, maybe even volunteer to help you study before big exams, and he should be understanding that during certain times of the semester you'll be so busy studying you won't have too much time to go out. Sometimes there has to be compromise. If you dream of traveling the world, but he isn't fond of hot weather, you might agree to take a cruise to Alaska instead of Bermuda. Things like that. What if one person values having enough money to take that cruise and the other doesn't inherently care outside of having enough but wants the one to be happy? Edited July 13, 2013 by Light and Truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatholicsAreKewl Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 You don't need a guy. Become a nun and travel the world. Maybe you can fight crime at night too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ContemporaryCaflicCrusader Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 You don't need a guy. Become a nun and travel the world. Maybe you can fight crime at night too. I like this idea! Wear a habit and a mask; wield a huge gun, and be called The Nun with the Big Bad Gun. It's a good idea to have a backup firearm and a melee weapon too though. Maybe you want to adhesive a steel Crucifix right over your heart. Let us know if you need a sidekick too. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 (edited) If I spent the last decade going to school and volunteering to get a better job and change the world, and I wanted to travel since I was 13, and have not been on a family vacation since I visited relatives when I was six, am I really to expect that I will be happy giving that up for a guy who doesn't care about any of that? On the other hand, how would your husband and children feel if you neglect them to spend all your time volunteering to "change the world"? As a wife and mother, your job will be to change the world by raising good solid Catholic children and being a mutual support for your husband. You won't need to go to Zambia to do that. Edited July 13, 2013 by Norseman82 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Share Posted July 13, 2013 (edited) As a wife and mother, your job will be to change the world by raising good solid Catholic children and being a mutual support for your husband. You won't need to go to Zambia to do that. Using Zambia from your post, but is it worth that for a guy who doesn't care a bit about Zambia? Edited July 13, 2013 by Light and Truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted July 13, 2013 Share Posted July 13, 2013 But is it worth that for a guy who doesn't care a bit about Zambia? I was taught growing up "charity begins at home". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted July 13, 2013 Author Share Posted July 13, 2013 I was taught growing up "charity begins at home". And it ends there the minute you marry? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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