Anastasia13 Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 If I spent the last decade going to school and volunteering to get a better job and change the world, and I wanted to travel since I was 13, and have not been on a family vacation since I visited relatives when I was six, am I really to expect that I will be happy giving that up for a guy who doesn't care about any of that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 Are you happy now? HAve you done any of that? Would a guy really stop? How much do you care for this guy? Only you can be the judge of this. Lots of times we are surprised at how happy we can be when we don't wind up doing what we thought we would. Depends on what God's *actually* calling you to do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tab'le De'Bah-Rye Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 very interesting Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Bombay Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 If the guy really doesn't care about any of that, and it's that important to you, perhaps he should be kicked to the curb. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tab'le De'Bah-Rye Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 All i can do is quote scripture where Jesus says something along the lines of " a man leaves father and mother to get married and cleaves to his wife." So i guess, if we get married we need to pay more attention to that new families affairs/wife and husband. Unsure if it means absolutely no contact with family or friends, but the most part of relations now is between the husband and wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 If you express your hopes and dreams to your boyfriend and he shrugs them off as unimportant or unnecessary, you need a new boyfriend. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Bombay Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 If you express your hopes and dreams to your boyfriend and he shrugs them off as unimportant or unnecessary, you need a new boyfriend. Yes. This is what I was trying to say, but this is worded much better than my attempt. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted July 5, 2013 Author Share Posted July 5, 2013 If you express your hopes and dreams to your boyfriend and he shrugs them off as unimportant or unnecessary, you need a new boyfriend. When you say shrugs off as unimportant, do you mean as in doesn't care about it being important to me or as in does not share those hopes and dreams? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Oremoose Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 When you say shrugs off as unimportant, do you mean as in doesn't care about it being important to me or as in does not share those hopes and dreams? as in does not share those hopes and dreams. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 If I spent the last decade going to school and volunteering to get a better job and change the world, and I wanted to travel since I was 13, and have not been on a family vacation since I visited relatives when I was six, am I really to expect that I will be happy giving that up for a guy who doesn't care about any of that? Dude, guys worth being with aren't going to stop you from doing that. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted July 5, 2013 Author Share Posted July 5, 2013 (edited) as in does not share those hopes and dreams. Why? Why is this important and how important is it in a relationship/possible eventual marriage? Edited July 5, 2013 by Light and Truth Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
missionseeker Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 Why? Why is this important and how important is it in a relationship/possible eventual marriage? I would think that that would be obvious. Couples should have common ideals, goals, interests, ect. They have to be clones, but if you have a wife with one goal and a husband with a different one, they are going to feel pulled in totally opposite directions and wind up resenting each other for it. If you marry a man who doesn't think you should be doing what you think you should be doing and if you wind up not doing what you want to be doing, then you are going to hate your marriage and find it hard not to hate your partner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Noel's angel Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 TBH, I think it may be a better idea to stop asking very vague questions to strangers online. How can anyone here give good advice based on the information you give? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
God the Father Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 TBH, I think it may be a better idea to stop asking very vague questions to strangers online. How can anyone here give good advice based on the information you give? Agree Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Byzantine Posted July 5, 2013 Share Posted July 5, 2013 Couples should have common ideals, goals, interests, ect. They have to be clones, but if you have a wife with one goal and a husband with a different one, they are going to feel pulled in totally opposite directions and wind up resenting each other for it. If you marry a man who doesn't think you should be doing what you think you should be doing and if you wind up not doing what you want to be doing, then you are going to hate your marriage and find it hard not to hate your partner. This. Though did you mean to say "They DON'T have to be clones?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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