AveMariaPurissima Posted June 30, 2013 Share Posted June 30, 2013 A few years ago, I started wearing a lace veil in church. I chose black because I figured it would stand out less against my brown hair. Now that I am back home for the time being, I want to start veiling again. I still have my black veil, and there's nothing wrong with it; however, for various reasons, I would prefer to wear a white veil (I think white is prettier, esp. on someone younger; white reminds me more of being a bride of Christ; white would go better than black with certain outfits; I'm not totally pleased with the shape/size that my black veil turned out (I made it), etc.) So what do you guys think? *Please stick to the above questions, and don't let this thread get turned into a discussion of personal opinions about veiling in church. Thank you!* Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ToJesusMyHeart Posted June 30, 2013 Share Posted June 30, 2013 I also prefer white. www.veilsbylily.com has good ones. Also http://veilsandmantillas.com/ has some cheaper ones than Lily's. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
truthfinder Posted June 30, 2013 Share Posted June 30, 2013 Totally up to you :) I generally wear white, but sometimes other colours depending on outfit and liturgical season - and for now, only scarves. (Must find mantilla!!) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AveMariaPurissima Posted June 30, 2013 Author Share Posted June 30, 2013 I keep wondering whether it's vanity to choose a veil color based on how it goes with my clothes. :unsure: ToJesusMyHeart, thanks for the links! I was actually thinking of making my own, though. I found instructions here: http://ponderedinmyheart.typepad.com/pondered_in_my_heart/2010/10/how-to-make-a-lace-chapel-veil.html Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anastasia13 Posted June 30, 2013 Share Posted June 30, 2013 Also http://veilsandmantillas.com/ The Ivory rectangle one is amazing. Still, it is hard to go wrong with something made of black lace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spem in alium Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 I have an ivory veil (and black hair, so it stands out a bit!) It's probably worthwhile to have one of each. The Ivory rectangle one is amazing. Agreed. It's my favourite kind of style :) Might even order one of them! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeorgiiMichael Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 I keep wondering whether it's vanity to choose a veil color based on how it goes with my clothes. :unsure: It's not vanity to coordinate the rest of your outfit, is it? It's choosing to look your best for Christ in the Blessed Sacrament. How is coordinating your veil any different? Getting too caught up with your clothes can certainly become vanity, but for most people I know, it's about honoring the body that God gave them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
photosynthesis Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 I wouldn't worry too much about it. The church has instructed women to cover their heads both in canon law and St. Paul's letter to the Corinthians, etc. Not much has been said about *how* a woman should cover her head and it has always been left to local custom. Now it is local custom in some places, such as spain and Latin America, for unmarried women to wear white and married women to wear black. Since most women abandoned the practice of headcovering in the middle part of the 20th century, there isn't much of a "local custom" left. So do whatever makes sense to you. You wouldn't say it is wrong to coordinate a hat with the rest of your outfit, would you? Why wouldn't that same logic apply to veils? You also do not have to limit yourself to mantillas... scarves, kerchiefs, snoods, hats, are all good choices. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 Actually, I'd argue that coordinating your veil with your outfit actually makes you standout less, because it's not as visually striking. It makes your whole "look" look like a cohesive outfit, like a single unit, instead of broken up into a bunch of different parts. Like, if you're wearing a dark outfit a white veil might stand out in a weird way, especially if there aren't a lot of people who veil at your parish. :) But then, I've heard it's traditional for married women to wear black and unmarried women to wear white. I'm not sure how big of a 'rule' that is today, if it's like wearing white at Easter and black after Labor Day (pretty much no one does that anymore). Bottom line, wear what you want, and don't worry about matching it to your outfit. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyAnn Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 I wear both white and black, but I prefer black because I have dark hair and I feel like it stands out less. My black mantilla is smaller and I have very long hair so if I have my hair down I prefer to wear the larger white one. Ultimately, if you're sitting there feeling super uncomfortable then the veil is being completely counter productive and just being a distraction. Wear whatever you feel comfortable with. I keep wondering whether it's vanity to choose a veil color based on how it goes with my clothes. :unsure: ToJesusMyHeart, thanks for the links! I was actually thinking of making my own, though. I found instructions here: http://ponderedinmyheart.typepad.com/pondered_in_my_heart/2010/10/how-to-make-a-lace-chapel-veil.html I made both my mantillas and it's pretty simple, and it cost me like a third of what it would to buy one. I used a different method, although I did look at that one, which I found a lot easier (mostly since I didn't have a space where I could lay it out like that tutorial does). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
franciscanheart Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 Do you have a link for the tutorial you used? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyAnn Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 This is how I made mine: Making a Mantilla It's very basic, but I can clarify if needed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
photosynthesis Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 But then, I've heard it's traditional for married women to wear black and unmarried women to wear white. I'm not sure how big of a 'rule' that is today, if it's like wearing white at Easter and black after Labor Day (pretty much no one does that anymore). Bottom line, wear what you want, and don't worry about matching it to your outfit. :) We have a lot of older married ladies at my parish who wear white veils. It goes with their white hair :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 I have seven or eight that I've accumulated over the years. Several are gorgeous pre- V2 mantillas that old ladies from church have given me :love: Several white/ivory ones, two black ones, a green one (kinda weird, but eh), a black and gold one, and a copper one (from Veils by Lily, it's my favorite). I just wear them based on what outfit I'm wearing, and I don't really see a problem with that... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted July 1, 2013 Share Posted July 1, 2013 We have a lot of older married ladies at my parish who wear white veils. It goes with their white hair :) Then I guess it's not a thing anymore. :) I'm glad, because I have a long black one that I wanted to wear to check out my local EF parish, but was super self conscious because I wouldn't have a friend to go with me and the parish website said something about black traditionally being for married people. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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