How Do I Deal With This? (aka All Hell Broke Loose On Fb)

[fides' Jack]

Yeah, I would get off FB and then defriend "S" in real life.

 

I've also been FB free since 2008.  I do not regret it.  In fact, even my atheist coworkers hate it.  

[Noel's angel]

That's exactly it. I said I WANTED to be a nun, not that I was discerning to be a nun when I was 3.

 

Nope, you definitely said 'discerning'. It's right there on the first page. Now, whether you said that to them is another matter, but a little siren is going off in my brain right now.

 

It's very difficult to judge this sort of thing from afar because we haven't seen how things have developed between you and your 'friends', but there is very rarely a totally innocent party when it comes to stuff like this.  You also seem to get angry very quickly. Perhaps that fanned the flames.

[Apotheoun]

I just use facebook to keep in touch with my family and close friends, and mainly to see pictures that they post. I rarely post publicly on it, and only visit it about once a month.

[Apotheoun]

It's very difficult to judge this sort of thing from afar because we haven't seen how things have developed between you and your 'friends', but there is very rarely a totally innocent party when it comes to stuff like this.  You also seem to get angry very quickly. Perhaps that fanned the flames.

I agree. 

 

If facebook makes you angry stop posting on it. Nothing that tempts a person to lose his temper is worth it.

[DiscerningCatholic]

Yeah, I would get off FB and then defriend "S" in real life.

 

I've also been FB free since 2008.  I do not regret it.  In fact, even my atheist coworkers hate it.  

 

This is the first problem I've had with FB since I got it in December of 2011. 

 

Nope, you definitely said 'discerning'. It's right there on the first page. Now, whether you said that to them is another matter, but a little siren is going off in my brain right now.

 

It's very difficult to judge this sort of thing from afar because we haven't seen how things have developed between you and your 'friends', but there is very rarely a totally innocent party when it comes to stuff like this.  You also seem to get angry very quickly. Perhaps that fanned the flames.

 

If I said discerning in this post, I meant wanted; I looked back at the comment on the FB post and it said "i wanted", not "I've been discerning." 

 

And I might appear angrier on Phatmass than I did on Facebook. All I said on Facebook was that it doesn't matter what people say about me that upset me, but the way in which they said it. Throwing a temper tantrum because someone is throwing a temper tantrum doesn't make sense, and neither does acting like you're in middle school because you think that someone is being immature. I also said that if people have a problem with something I say and they want me to fix it, they need to tell me. 

 

I said that in those words. I didn't curse or yell; the other party did the cursing and the yelling. A great deal of it, in fact. And she came onto me really honked off. And STILL didn't explain what specifically was said or done that made everyone so mad. So I left it as this. "If you won't tell me who is saying this or what was said, I can't do anything else to remedy this situation. I know that you want me to apologize to everyone who is so 'upset', but I don't know WHO is upset, so I cannot apologize. I don't even know what comments were so 'offensive', so I can't remove any comments, either. If this has been 'building and building for months' and nobody told me that what I said was bothering them, I have to wonder if everyone was as upset as you say they were. So if you really want me to fix this, you have to tell me the full extent of the problem, what was said, and who accused me of saying this stuff. If not, I can only conclude that you - and they - aren't really as upset as you sound. And unless any further messages regarding this are from you telling me who accused me of this or are from the people themselves, I will not be responding to this conversation any more."

Edited June 11, 2013 by DiscerningCatholic

[Dr. Bombay]

Sounds like S could be the actual root of the problem.

 

Sometimes, S happens....