How Do I Deal With This? (aka All Hell Broke Loose On Fb)

[Chestertonian]

I boast about being the only person I know of who doesn't have a FB account.

[DiscerningCatholic]

Wait so you don't actually know these people?

 

I'm assuming I know who they are, otherwise they wouldn't be complaining about me. But I don't know the names of anyone doing it; they refused to tell me.

[HisChildForever]

I'm assuming I know who they are, otherwise they wouldn't be complaining about me. But I don't know the names of anyone doing it; they refused to tell me.

 

Aren't they communicating with you over Facebook? Did they make fake accounts or something? Because now they're just starting to sound like bullies as opposed to angry (crappy) friends.

[Nihil Obstat]

I boast about being the only person I know of who doesn't have a FB account.

Sometimes I wish I did not have one, but there are several fairly important things that I use it for, and no other system can really duplicate the functionality FB gives me.

[DiscerningCatholic]

Aren't they communicating with you over Facebook? Did they make fake accounts or something? Because now they're just starting to sound like bullies as opposed to angry (crappy) friends.

 

No. This is how it happened. Everyone went to S.

 

S. told me that they were talking about me but won't tell me what was said or who said it. (But still expects me to fix it even though I STILL don't know what the heck is going on.)

 

And yes, the entire thing is starting to sound very fishy.

Edited June 11, 2013 by DiscerningCatholic

[WillT]

Why not just tell "S" to tell these friends that that are free to unfriend/block you if they don't like your posts. That way the ball is in their court.

[DiscerningCatholic]

This all happened in Facebook groups; they don't have to be friends with me to see my posts. It's not what I post; it's apparently comments and emoticons that make me look immature. 

[WillT]

This all happened in Facebook groups; they don't have to be friends with me to see my posts. It's not what I post; it's apparently comments and emoticons that make me look immature.

I see. They are more than free to leave said groups if they don't want to associate with you. Otherwise, I guess they'll just have to get over it. :)

[HisChildForever]

This all happened in Facebook groups; they don't have to be friends with me to see my posts. It's not what I post; it's apparently comments and emoticons that make me look immature. 

 

So it's likely these people know OF you through a Facebook group but don't actually KNOW you - that "S" is your one and only connection. If that's the case, I wouldn't care what random Facebook people think.

[Nihil Obstat]

No. This is how it happened. Everyone went to S.

 

S. told me that they were talking about me but won't tell me what was said or who said it. (But still expects me to fix it even though I STILL don't know what the heck is going on.)

 

And yes, the entire thing is starting to sound very fishy.

Sounds like S could be the actual root of the problem.

[Gabriela]

I make it a habit to purge my FB friends list regularly and mercilessly. Some people boast about how many online 'friends' they have. I boast about how many I can cut from my list on any given day.

 

I thought I was the only person who did that. Only I do it with my address book. People think I'm "cold" and "hard-hearted" because of this. I think I'm "streamlined". ;-)

 

I boast about being the only person I know of who doesn't have a FB account.

 

Well, Chestertonian, meet me. I do not have a Disgracebook account. Nice to know ya'!

[AnneLine]

Welll... there are at least 3 of us....   the faceless ones....  :paperbag: :paperbag: :paperbag:

 

 Anyone else?

 

Edited June 11, 2013 by AnneLine

[dominicansoul]

No. This is how it happened. Everyone went to S.

 

S. told me that they were talking about me but won't tell me what was said or who said it. (But still expects me to fix it even though I STILL don't know what the heck is going on.)

 

And yes, the entire thing is starting to sound very fishy.

 

 

what if S is the one who feels this way about you, and he/she made up these other people as a way to tell you how he/she really feels about you...

 

 

I would dump S and block he/she from your Facebook 

 

 

Or, if it really is how S says it is, you can develop some thicker skin and  not let random pixels bother you with their stupidity... 

 

(develop thicker skin, you're going to need that in the convent...) :hehe:

[DiscerningCatholic]

I really don't want to start banning people because A.) it'll juat make them more angry and this could get ten times worse and B.) I don't feel that just cutting myself off from a problem solves anything. But it honestly looks like that's what's gonna have to happen. And, as I said, I don't care what is being said about me, but if people want to turn it into a problem that they want me to fix, they have to tell ME what they have a problem with. Which they didn't. Which is making me think that S is blowing this up. Because if something bothers me as much as she makes it sound like it's bothering them, I address the problem instead of complaining behind their backs. And the whole refusal to give names or specific instances is what really makes me suspicious.

[HisChildForever]

What kind of FB group is it?