How Do I Deal With This? (aka All Hell Broke Loose On Fb)

[DiscerningCatholic]

So basically, people are getting mad because I left a couple of comments that THEY interepreted to be "immature" or something else - which was definitely NOT my intention - and instead of THEM doing the mature thing and telling me directly that something I said upset them, they're all going to someone ELSE to complain.

 

And then of course this someone else thinks that I desperately need to mature and, in her words, "need to grow the hell up" and that I desperately need help. The reason she thinks I shouldn't get mad over this is because she's "going through some s%$^ right now and isn't in the mood to hear it." Well, you can be going through whatever s%$^ you please, but that does NOT mean that I have to be a doormat for people who are too cowardly to just address a problem directly.

 

It's not so much WHAT they're saying about me as it is HOW they're saying it. I don't give a toss as to what people think of me; they could call me names to my face for all I care. But if they deal with a problem they think I have by going to SOMEONE ELSE instead of me but still expect me to magically fix everything, then I have a problem. The way that people have "dealt" with this is about as logical as throwing a temper tantrum because you're tired of someone else's temper tantrums. You can't fix something you perceive as immaturity by acting in an immature fashion.

 

And what really irks me is that the someone who told me about this keeps saying, "THEY'RE HIGH SCHOOLERS. THEY'RE GOING TO TALK BEHIND YOUR BACK." So that makes THEIR immature behavior okay, but it's still okay for them to be stomping all over me for a few comments that they felt were immature. The whole thing is so hypocritical, which is really what's making me angry. And the person who told me about this won't tell me WHO has been talking about me OR what they've been saying, so I STILL don't know specifically what the problem is. I can't fix a problem that I don't know about. And I will NOT walk on eggshells/stop commenting on things because some people's precious fee-fees might get hurt might misinterpret my comments.

 

And then this someone's FIANCE messaged me last night. He thought he could just tell me to listen to him and to go along with everything he told me to do...I'VE NEVER EVEN TALKED TO THE GUY. And then he had the nerve to tell me, "DO NOT GROW BALLS AND DISRESPECT MY FIANCE."

 

WHILE TELLING ME THAT I AM SUPPOSED TO JUST SIT BACK AND LISTEN TO AND AGREE WITH PEOPLE WHO DISRESPECT *ME.*

 

Like I said, it's the hypocrisy and immaturity of how EVERYONE ELSE is dealing with this that's making me mad. Not the fact that people have a problem with something I'm doing.

 

 

 

So I'm not sure how I am supposed to deal with this. I've considered unfriending the someone, but that's not going to fix anything; it's just going to make her more mad at me than she already is. 

 

 

 

Edited June 10, 2013 by DiscerningCatholic

[Papist]

Apologize. Doesn't mean you have to bow down to them. Don't give any excuses or conditions. Simply apologize, and that you had no malice behind what you posted. After that, you will see who are the real immature people.

 

Then, I would reply to the dude telling him you understand what he is saying. And he could have delivered the message without be crude and vulgar.Then, I would immediately block him so he can't see you or message you on FB.

[DiscerningCatholic]

I don't know who is offended!!!! I also don't even know WHICH SPECIFIC COMMENTS I LEFT THAT WERE SO "OFFENSIVE."

 

Apparently, me mentioning that I'm going back to a leadership conference or that I've been discerning since I was 3 is immature. 

 

And the thing is, my "friend's" fiance replied to me VIA HER FACEBOOK. But I am seriously considering blocking her, too, since the whole thing isn't sounding like she actually wants me to fix something. It sounds like they need a doormat, and I refuse to be that doormat.

Edited June 10, 2013 by DiscerningCatholic

[ToJesusMyHeart]

Talk to your SD.

[DiscerningCatholic]

Don't have one. :|

[EmilyAnn]

If they don't want to actually be adult about it, just ignore it. They'll get over it.

[Papist]

I don't know who is offended!!!! I also don't even know WHICH SPECIFIC COMMENTS I LEFT THAT WERE SO "OFFENSIVE."

 

Apparently, me mentioning that I'm going back to a leadership conference or that I've been discerning since I was 3 is immature. 

 

And the thing is, my "friend's" fiance replied to me VIA HER FACEBOOK. But I am seriously considering blocking her, too, since the whole thing isn't sounding like she actually wants me to fix something. It sounds like they need a doormat, and I refuse to be that doormat.

 

In that case, I would claim ignorance and say,

 

I don't know what's going on. Did I saying something that hurt someone. If so, I apologize. Please forgive me. And if you'd like to talk about please PM me.

 

And that I would drop it and move on, unless someone comes to you.  Again, I would not make excuses. Don't try to be a peacemaker and make everyone happy and group hug.

[PhuturePriest]

This is why destroying your enemies and leading your life with power and intimidation is the best way.

[DiscerningCatholic]

Typical, FP...typical.

[Lilllabettt]

do they expect you to "fix" it?

[DiscerningCatholic]

They seem to. I don't even know what I'm supposed to "fix." Or who wants me to "fix" what.

[Papist]

Tell them just that.

[DiscerningCatholic]

Double post. :|

Edited June 10, 2013 by DiscerningCatholic

[DiscerningCatholic]

I did. They just told me to "calm down, listen to them, take it to heart, and pray about it." Which is... :huh: I mean, pray about WHAT? I still don't know what the hell is even going on! 

[Papist]

I did. They just told me to "calm down, listen to them, take it to heart, and pray about it." Which is... :huh: I mean, pray about WHAT? I still don't know what the hell is even going on! 

 

Just say thank you are be done with it. I would stop fretting. 

Edited June 10, 2013 by Papist