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How did you know you have "the one"?

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Little Flower

Well duh, you just "know"

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

jk i'm not married :P

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CatherineM

If you're waiting for mr./mrs. Right, you may not find one. Marriage needs to be two mature adults (which has nothing to do with age) who are willing to say divorce is not an option. Two people who share values and are willing to learn to communicate and work things out.

How did I know Austin was the one? He's the only one who would have me.

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Brother Adam

And are ready to make a life long commitment to each other. To make that decision to love beyond the feelings of being in love. Someone who you truly know (not in the best foot forward dating sense, but someone who you know their virtues and their faults), someone who is a best friend, not just a romantic interest, someone who is mature and ready to be married. Someone with whom you have discerned that you are both called to marriage.

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homeschoolmom

I don't really believe in "The One" either. I believe there are many different people with whom you can make a good life.

 

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Basilisa Marie

There's no such thing as "the One."  It's not real. What's real is finding another person willing to make the commitment. 

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zabbazooey

When I realized I would rather sacrifice my car for 4 months in the dead of a Minnesota winter, making a 2 hour commute with 2 bus transfers at 5:30am to work just so he could have a car to drive to both jobs. He's the only person I've truly put his needs and comfort before my own. That's when I realized I could easily spend my life with him. :) he makes me a better, more selfless human being.

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When you both choose to be the One to each other.  You don't discover the One, you become the One.

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well, technically you can't oppose God's will unless you sin. So, if God's will marriage for you there is one out there who He wills you to Marry. Now, that is not to say that its predestined because God has given us freewill. But, knowing us inside and out, He made us uniquely to be happy with another person as we become less self centered and more self giving. To explain Gods will is very complicated and its impossible to understand Him fully.

 

Basically, I do believe there is one person who God Made us to be happy with. I think ultimately God always leads us to this person.

 

And I think that you know by just knowing. I  have had a handful of guys pursue me. Call me harsh, but I just know they weren't the one God was leading me to. I haven't found the one yet, but I trust God will lead me to his will. I have no doubt that he will. (And, at this time I have decided not to date for a few months. I want to focus on God right now). So, just don't worry about it. It will happen if God wills it to. It sound apathetic sometimes to say 'don't worry about it' but seriously, the most awesome blessings in life happen when we are not preoccupied with concern.

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White Knight

Marriage is mysterious in its place of Free Will and God's Will, its something that requires discernment and soul searching, not only for yourself, but  for your mrs./mr.

This statement is obvious, however its important to note that a person who seeks marriage and takes the marriage preperation training, will also find out that there may be others that they can commit to, not just  one person.

Marriage has all kinds of possible outcomes.

Some people find each other at a young age and know right off the bat.

Others through their own fault fail because of their lack of commitment to their spouse.

Many people search and search but never find that person they are seeking, while at the sametime a few keep searching and get burned many times, but evenually find the person who is willing to meet their level of commitment and service to the LORD, as a result they married well in the eyes of the LORD.

There is also always the eunuch route too, Jesus called some people to celibacy these people seek God's will for their vocation and sometimes it takes time to work it out. Many people deal with this struggle.





 

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How did you know you have "the one"?


I knew after we finished saying our wedding promises and entered into a sacramental marriage.


I know... helpful huh?
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Anastasia13

I knew after we finished saying our wedding promises and entered into a sacramental marriage.


I know... helpful huh?

 

So it was nothing set in stone until it was set in Church and your life never could be the same again, and you were happy to have her?

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