Winchester Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 How do you know? Because I'm Winchester. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Walk up to him "Hey, Im so glad youre my friend! Lets never not be friends!" Then skip and run away! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Because I'm Winchester. You fools have taken all of my props. I shall expect to truly regret this later, as I can definitely see there being really good posts later that I'll attempt to prop in vain. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatholicsAreKewl Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 You fools have taken all of my props. I shall expect to truly regret this later, as I can definitely see there being really good posts later that I'll attempt to prop in vain. I bet $20 a year doesn't sound too bad right now, eh? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I'm at a loss of what to do about a young man who is relentless in perusing me. I tried to avoid him but then I felt as though I was being mean so I gave up avoiding him. I'm not interested because for the time being I would like to focus on my relationship with Christ (and also for other reasons which I'm not keen on sharing). Now, I am fine being friends with him but I don't want to be anymore than that. How do I get him to understand this without being unchristian about it? I have never been in this situation before. Please help! "I don't want to be romantically involved with you. Stop hitting on me. Leave me alone" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
PhuturePriest Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I bet $20 a year doesn't sound too bad right now, eh? I'd probably pay it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
4588686 Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 If you want to handle it like a Christian then tell him that you love him eternally and unconditionally. And then light him on fire and send him to hell. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
GeorgiiMichael Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 If you're not sure he's actually hitting on you, bring up your discernment in conversation. He should rein things in pretty quickly. If he doesn't, tell him that you need a little space right now. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I'm at a loss of what to do about a young man who is relentless in perusing me. I tried to avoid him but then I felt as though I was being mean so I gave up avoiding him. I'm not interested because for the time being I would like to focus on my relationship with Christ (and also for other reasons which I'm not keen on sharing). Now, I am fine being friends with him but I don't want to be anymore than that. How do I get him to understand this without being unchristian about it? I have never been in this situation before. Please help! Start avoiding him again. You have no social or moral obligation to spend time with someone who makes you uncomfortable. If you are feeling gutsy enough then you can straight up tell him that you want him to back off. But just avoiding him is entirely acceptable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Just tell him srsly. If he is cool with being friends, then maybe he will stick around and youll get to keep a good friend. If not, then he will be gone. Problem solved Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Tell him you're discerning, and are exclusively focusing on your relationship with Christ. If he actually wants to be your friend, he'll take it in stride and back off trying to date you. If he's just trying to use friendship as leverage for a relationship, he'll back off too. Don't give him the impression that he just has to hold out and "wait for you" or some nonsense like that. If he doesn't back off after telling him about your discerning, then have an upfront, blunt conversation with him. Do you know for a fact that he's "pursuing" you? Has HE told you this? Has someone told you that he has a crush on you? If not, he might just be clingy, and if that's the case, you can do the avoiding/"I'm busy" game. Sometimes the kindest thing you can do is not worry so much about sparing someone's feelings. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
EmilyAnn Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 Honestly, I can't see anything there that definitely says he is pursuing you, definitely not to the extent that you need to be straight out "I don't want to be with you". I treat my friends the way you describe, and I have no romantic intentions towards them. If you want to be his friend, be his friend. Simple as. If he makes an advance, like asking you out, then be clear. But nothing you have said seems indicative of aggressive pursuit. TL:DR - Just chill out. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Allie Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 (edited) I wonder if maybe you should just back off a little from the friendship if being with him makes you so uncomfortable. It really doesn't sound like he is clearly after a romantic relationship. Edited May 31, 2013 by Allie Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ice_nine Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 pepper spray Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted May 31, 2013 Share Posted May 31, 2013 I'm at a loss of what to do about a young man who is relentless in perusing me. I tried to avoid him but then I felt as though I was being mean so I gave up avoiding him. I'm not interested because for the time being I would like to focus on my relationship with Christ (and also for other reasons which I'm not keen on sharing). Now, I am fine being friends with him but I don't want to be anymore than that. How do I get him to understand this without being unchristian about it? I have never been in this situation before. Please help! Tell him straight out that you are not interested in a relationship with him. Don't say the F-word. Being friends will be an impediment for him to move on. I recommend keeping a good distance for a while. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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