Getting Started On Dating

[missionseeker]

Since you asked, my suggestion is to just go about your life as if God is waiting to introduce you to your future husband in some place you already need to be or go. That is, go to school, pursue your extra-curricular interests, live your life; if it is God's plan for you to be married, HE will know how and when to make that happen. Don't turn down the opportunity to get to know someone -- it's probably not going to be a flashing neon arrow sign -- but don't focus too much on meeting someone either. (I say this because I've already seen you don't want to pursue someone on a dating site. If you want something "natural", you'll have to go about your life naturally, not on the prowl.)

Why do I suggest the same old thing everyone else suggests and seems like FLOWERS AND BUNNIES AND RAINBOWS even though it probably won't work? Because I believe it does. And is probably a great way to meet someone, if you're opposed to online dating. Why am I so confident?


A friend of mine moved away to California for graduate school about a year and a half ago. In six months, she'll be married to one of her classmates.

Another friend of mine moved away to Chicago for graduate school and met her boyfriend of one year. We're expecting an engagement any day now.

One friend started her own business. She married a client last summer.

My friend J met her husband through kickball.

My mom and dad met at the apartment pool when my mom's stepdad fell from bed and my mom couldn't lift him on her own.

My aunt met my uncle at a country western dance class.

My friends S and J met each other doing stand-up comedy.

My friends L and T met doing service work with their jobs.

My friends T and M met during undergraduate, years apart in study.

My friends H and M met in Austin at a coffee shop.

B's daughter K met her now-husband at a mutual friend's wedding.


It happens. All the time. To people who go out and live their lives. Go out. Live your life. Be happy. When you're doing that, you'll find the person God intends you to find. Or you won't. But that'll be God, too. Trust. And live.

. This. 900%

[CrossCuT]

A friend of mine was into me for a little while like 4 years ago and I was into him as well. We were at a friends wedding together, dancing, and having fun when a slow song came on.

I was waiting for him to make a move and ask me to dance but he was slightly drunk and just stared at me as if he didnt know how to ask.

 

I stood there WAITING for him to ask so finally I just asked him instead.

 

Silly boys  :rolleyes:

[Winchester]

We were at a friends wedding together

[PhuturePriest]

 

We were at a friends wedding together

 

 

[Chestertonian]

I miss that show.

[Winchester]

Yeah, you are bound to run into people you know on the smaller dating sites like the ones you mentioned above.

I used eHarmony when I was seeking people through online sites because it had MANY more options. You can select religious preferences so that they dont pair you up with someone who isnt Catholic if you choose. It may help with the volume of other prospects youre exposed to if youre looking into that route.

 

But of course the biggest suggestion is to not sweat it. 

I like to consider dating like pregnancy (wait for it! I have a point hahaha). Sometimes people who wants kids SOOOOOOOOOOOO bad stress themselves out and then do not get pregnant because of it. But the MOMENT you relax, take things as they come, and really just feel comfortable with yourself and who you are...things will happen.

 

Just do stuff youre interested in. I met my boyfriend playing an online video game hahaah! Its something we both enjoyed so it ended up being the medium that brought us together.

Maybe you enjoy singing! Find a local choir to join, meet people etc!

Or maybe youre a HUGE sports fan!!! So find a local team to join and meet people etc

 

The first step is to just do something fun. Find a hobby or activity that you ENJOY and do it! It wont feel like work at all and things will fall into place. When you are comfortable and confident, people notice. :)

This.

 

The willingness to take things as they come is really the secret.

[Papist]

I know many people that got involved in activities that they were not really interested in; such as softball, dance classes. They signed up for the activity b/c it was designed for singles to meet men/women. I always thought this was odd b/c let's say I met a woman while taking salsa dancing. We go out a few times and she wants to go salsa dancing. I say, I don't care for salsa dancing. Awkward.  My philosophy is do the the activities that I enjoy. I am doing something I enjoy. If I meet someone in the process, then great.  And this is what happened with me. I meet my wife via Young Adult activities. First was Theology on Tap, then we both were asked to be on the Diocese YA Council. 2 years later we were married.  All this while many of my friends were hitting the bar/single scenes.

 

One of the best advice I have received was this: Treat the person you are dating just like you want your future spouse to be treated by whom he/she is dating.

[LittleWaySoul]

Since you asked, my suggestion is to just go about your life as if God is waiting to introduce you to your future husband in some place you already need to be or go. That is, go to school, pursue your extra-curricular interests, live your life; if it is God's plan for you to be married, HE will know how and when to make that happen. Don't turn down the opportunity to get to know someone -- it's probably not going to be a flashing neon arrow sign -- but don't focus too much on meeting someone either. (I say this because I've already seen you don't want to pursue someone on a dating site. If you want something "natural", you'll have to go about your life naturally, not on the prowl.)

Why do I suggest the same old thing everyone else suggests and seems like FLOWERS AND BUNNIES AND RAINBOWS even though it probably won't work? Because I believe it does. And is probably a great way to meet someone, if you're opposed to online dating. Why am I so confident?


A friend of mine moved away to California for graduate school about a year and a half ago. In six months, she'll be married to one of her classmates.

Another friend of mine moved away to Chicago for graduate school and met her boyfriend of one year. We're expecting an engagement any day now.

One friend started her own business. She married a client last summer.

My friend J met her husband through kickball.

My mom and dad met at the apartment pool when my mom's stepdad fell from bed and my mom couldn't lift him on her own.

My aunt met my uncle at a country western dance class.

My friends S and J met each other doing stand-up comedy.

My friends L and T met doing service work with their jobs.

My friends T and M met during undergraduate, years apart in study.

My friends H and M met in Austin at a coffee shop.

B's daughter K met her now-husband at a mutual friend's wedding.


It happens. All the time. To people who go out and live their lives. Go out. Live your life. Be happy. When you're doing that, you'll find the person God intends you to find. Or you won't. But that'll be God, too. Trust. And live.

 

"You have reached your quota of positive votes for the day." :love:

[arfink]

If you want to be involved in activities you are interested in and meet people in that way, and you like surfing the internet, maybe internet dating is for you? :hehe:

[franciscanheart]

"You have reached your quota of positive votes for the day." :love:

Hi. :love:

[LittleWaySoul]

Hi. :love:

 

Hi :wave: I'm LittleWaySoul :smile3: