MissyP89 Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 I agree with you, but it's a little different from a job interview. It's not like I get out my checklist and start checking things off, even if I do have some non-negotiable points. I guess I'm wondering what others think about the non-negotiables. Is it important to get the answer right away? I don't know, but if he were to ask me what a believe about contraception in the first week if dating I would def be worried. How did you go about finding these things out? Did you just wait until you had full confidence with one another? But in that case if the non-negotiables are not present at that point it becomes more painful to say goodbye. At least I would think. Sorry if this seems like a dumb question! Lol For what it's worth, when my now-fiance first asked me out, I said that in the interest of being honest, if he was looking for sex before marriage he wouldn't find it here. He said he had no intention of that at all, and we laughed over it. So something to think about is if you're ever discussing theology or whatever and it seems relevant, drop in a comment about NFP or something and gauge his response. That could be another way to go about it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlySunshine Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 (edited) For what it's worth, when my now-fiance first asked me out, I said that in the interest of being honest, if he was looking for sex before marriage he wouldn't find it here. He said he had no intention of that at all, and we laughed over it. So something to think about is if you're ever discussing theology or whatever and it seems relevant, drop in a comment about NFP or something and gauge his response. That could be another way to go about it. I agree with you. No sense in wasting time on a guy if he doesn't respect your beliefs and wishes. When I dated a young man from my old workplace, I told him on our first date that I was not going to engage in premarital relations with him. He said "OK" but his brothers kept pressuring him to make a move. They even gave him condoms and he bragged about it. :ohno: I remember how we were talking while I was working my shift in the liquor store (he was a cart pusher) and he referenced a sexual encounter with his former girlfriend. I was horrified and decided to break it up because he could not get sex out of his head. The ironic thing was I discovered his Myspace page years later and he was listed as Catholic... Edited May 17, 2013 by MaterMisericordiae Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 Katy and I used to spend hours at a time taking turns asking each other questions. After a while we ran out of questions to ask each other. :hehe: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted May 17, 2013 Author Share Posted May 17, 2013 Katy and I used to spend hours at a time taking turns asking each other questions. After a while we ran out of questions to ask each other. :hehe: thats cute :love: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 Katy and I used to spend hours at a time taking turns asking each other questions. After a while we ran out of questions to ask each other. :hehe: Thats the same thing my boyfriend and I did. We called it the "Question" Game because we are super creative. I dont think there is a single question we havent asked eachother hahaha It was a very fun way to get to know eachother Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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