CatherineM Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 My husband's reaction to my trapping him into a kiss was that he thought I was a Russian spy who was trying to poison him with my Chapstick. His symptoms kick up under stress. Makes for a good story though when giving speeches about living with a schizophrenic. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tufsoles Posted May 10, 2013 Share Posted May 10, 2013 My husband's reaction to my trapping him into a kiss was that he thought I was a Russian spy who was trying to poison him with my Chapstick. His symptoms kick up under stress. Makes for a good story though when giving speeches about living with a schizophrenic. I have residents that give similar speeches about their mental illness. Bunch of stories just like that about things that their mental illness does to their minds. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted May 12, 2013 Author Share Posted May 12, 2013 Sooooooo............. We are officially dating!! I went to vespers in the basilica where he is a cantor.... And saw him in a magenta cassock and a cotta.... How can a girl NOT fall for a guy in a cassock! Anyway, I'm pretty sure that I'm gonna be needing this thread since I am totally ignorant when it comes to relationships. Thanks for your help and inspiration so far.... All it took was a tiny nudge on my part and everything fell into place :) :) :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tufsoles Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 AWWW.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AnneLine Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 Ah the Holy Spirit has been having a BUNCH of fun today.... HEAVEN knows what the actual Solemnity of Pentecost will bring!!!! That's lovely, CarmenChristi!!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 (edited) Re your question about feelings. It is good to keep in mind that they are feelings, and not the end all, tell all signs of love. They can be a sign of potential love. Follow them and see where it takes you. Never assume that the feelings are mutual. As people say above, guys (typically) require complete clarity. A guys are much more inclined "ask her out" if he is confident she will say yes. That was so me. You can certainly ask him to do something. I wouldn't ask him go camping for a weekend, but out for a cup of coffee and cake perhaps. NOTE: Don't let feelings blur your mind and common sense. Edited May 13, 2013 by Papist Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LinaSt.Cecilia2772 Posted May 13, 2013 Share Posted May 13, 2013 NOTE: Don't let feelings blur your mind and common sense. THIS. One of the most important things to remember when it comes to relationships. Thanks Papist. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted May 16, 2013 Author Share Posted May 16, 2013 Ok so now a question... From the discussion on MM's thread without wanting to hijack.... What kind of questions does one ask during the "ok so we are dating but I don't really know you yet" phase? I don't want the poor guy to think that I'm interviewing him for the position of husband during the first week of dating, but this is obviously about trying to find out if we are compatible and have similar ideas on important issues. When do you start asking things like stance on contraception, importance of prayer etc, etc?? It was easy on AMS because its all right there, spelled out... But the only people on the site who were interested were the old fogies... Ahhhhh!! Thanks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Papist Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 Do you mean questions you ask the guy you are dating? The dating/courting process is an interview for husband/wife. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 Ok so now a question... From the discussion on MM's thread without wanting to hijack.... What kind of questions does one ask during the "ok so we are dating but I don't really know you yet" phase? I don't want the poor guy to think that I'm interviewing him for the position of husband during the first week of dating, but this is obviously about trying to find out if we are compatible and have similar ideas on important issues. When do you start asking things like stance on contraception, importance of prayer etc, etc?? It was easy on AMS because its all right there, spelled out... But the only people on the site who were interested were the old fogies... Ahhhhh!! Thanks Just do what feels natural. I wouldn't conduct an interview, but I guess you could always open one up at a time if the topic came around to it. Or steer an evening's conversation to it. :idontknow: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
InPersonaChriste Posted May 16, 2013 Share Posted May 16, 2013 I started to get to know my boyfriend by just making sure that I was spending time with him. The best way to learn about somebody is not just to ask questions, but to have experiences with them. Go out on walks, to church, and have some good conversations over tea. My boyfriend was really shy when we first met, and I didnt know him very well until we hung out (much like every relationship I have had with friends). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted May 16, 2013 Author Share Posted May 16, 2013 Do you mean questions you ask the guy you are dating? The dating/courting process is an interview for husband/wife. I agree with you, but it's a little different from a job interview. It's not like I get out my checklist and start checking things off, even if I do have some non-negotiable points. I guess I'm wondering what others think about the non-negotiables. Is it important to get the answer right away? I don't know, but if he were to ask me what a believe about contraception in the first week if dating I would def be worried. How did you go about finding these things out? Did you just wait until you had full confidence with one another? But in that case if the non-negotiables are not present at that point it becomes more painful to say goodbye. At least I would think. Sorry if this seems like a dumb question! Lol Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted May 16, 2013 Author Share Posted May 16, 2013 Just do what feels natural. I wouldn't conduct an interview, but I guess you could always open one up at a time if the topic came around to it. Or steer an evening's conversation to it. :idontknow: You are probably right,.. I could very well be over-thinking te whole thing :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
carmenchristi Posted May 16, 2013 Author Share Posted May 16, 2013 Just do what feels natural. I wouldn't conduct an interview, but I guess you could always open one up at a time if the topic came around to it. Or steer an evening's conversation to it. :idontknow: You are probably right,.. I could very well be over-thinking te whole thing :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 17, 2013 Share Posted May 17, 2013 My husband and I had 400 pages of emails in 3 months. We talked about everything. If you want to know what each other thinks about stuff, read the paper together everyday. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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