Annie12 Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 I'm having issues with a friend. The way she is acting toward me is causing me to feel like I'm not good enough. Now I would expand more but I don't want to gossip. I want to talk with someone about it but I'm afraid of gossiping. So, I am left keeping it all inside and feeling all depressed. I don't know what to do. If I confront her she might get hurt and get mad at me but if I keep it inside I will feel like crying all the time. What should I do? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 Probably best to talk to her about it, and just do your best not to say anything that she might interpret as attacking her. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 You should find someone that you can have a productive conversation with. You are not gossiping if you are talking to someone for the sake of processing and resolving the issue. Find someone you know for 100% sure will not break your confidence, and then vent and ask for advice. It must be someone you trust and whom you know to be an honorable confidante (also hopefully a sound advisor!). Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 Probably best to talk to her about it, and just do your best not to say anything that she might interpret as attacking her. Or this, if you feel ready for that. If not, what I said. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted May 5, 2013 Share Posted May 5, 2013 I'm having issues with a friend. The way she is acting toward me is causing me to feel like I'm not good enough. Now I would expand more but I don't want to gossip. I want to talk with someone about it but I'm afraid of gossiping. So, I am left keeping it all inside and feeling all depressed. I don't know what to do. If I confront her she might get hurt and get mad at me but if I keep it inside I will feel like crying all the time. What should I do? talk to her. don't be that person that talks about problems with everyone else but the person you're having the problems with. it could just be that she doesn't know how her attitude/words are affecting you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tufsoles Posted May 6, 2013 Share Posted May 6, 2013 What Lil Red said but maybe talking to someone who is trusted I.e. your priest or someone in leadership to have some insight. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CatherineM Posted May 6, 2013 Share Posted May 6, 2013 Talk to her. It's called direct dealing, and it has a whole chapter in my new book. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted May 6, 2013 Share Posted May 6, 2013 Talk to her. It's called direct dealing, and it has a whole chapter in my new book. side note: new book?! woot woot!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Gabriela Posted May 6, 2013 Share Posted May 6, 2013 While I agree that "direct dealing" is the best option, sometimes the tension/anger/hurt between two people is so great that it's best to bring in a mediator to calm things down first. Even if they're only calming it down for one person before that person goes off to the "direct dealing". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jeffboom Posted May 7, 2013 Share Posted May 7, 2013 Talk to her about it in a non confrontational, kind manner. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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