franciscanheart Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Easy for a lady to say.Say what? :huh: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissyP89 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I concur. I dont think we are meant for ONE person...but maybe one TYPE of person. You could easily fall in love with anyone who might be under whatever category of attractiveness is best suited for you. Maybe its a cliche because a zillion and a half people have gone through it and all prescribe the same thing. But thats not ALL I said btw. I suggested patient with a healthy dose of go do thingz...be proactive. Go to singles events Make an online account on a singles site (Catholic Match?) Try a new activity in a social group! There are tons of things you can do to accommodate multiple variants of busy to "does nothing all day" schedules. I feel like the more desperate a person gets, the harder it will be for them to find someone...Ive been there People can smell desperation on you, so be careful! When I found my boyfriend it was at a point in my life where I had become ok with the fact that I am single. I was proud of who I was, where I was in life, and yadda yadda yadda. When you finally let go of that stress and stop identifying yourself as a flawed single person, then things get better! So I disagree, being patient is great advice. This is all super true. :like: I'm not faulting what you said at all. I just wanted to give you a head's up that some folks might take it the wrong way, that's all. Peace. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 If not you should just throw yourself into the dating pool! I feel like the more desperate a person gets, the harder it will be for them to find someone...Ive been there People can smell desperation on you, so be careful! When I found my boyfriend it was at a point in my life where I had become ok with the fact that I am single. I was proud of who I was, where I was in life, and yadda yadda yadda. When you finally let go of that stress and stop identifying yourself as a flawed single person, then things get better! So I disagree, being patient is great advice. I'm not exactly sure how these two statements don't contradict each other. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
xTrishaxLynnx Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Dating and being desperate are not synonymous... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 Throwing yourself into it sounds a little desperate to me... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I'm not exactly sure how these two statements don't contradict each other. I dunno, I guess you'd have to decide how you define desperate. If one makes the assumption all singles are desperate, then yes, what I said would contradict each other. However, I feel that you can be single and looking without making it a feverish goal. It doesnt have to be find someone ASAP or else succumb to the cold world of indifference. I think its entirely possible to be actively seeking a relationship while still being patient, enjoying yourself, and not elevating that status to a point that it starts degrading your self esteem. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Raz Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 http://islamicmarriage.com/ Just saying... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I felt the exact same way for 24 years. I never found anyone that liked me. I felt like there was something wrong with me!! But honestly, just always be open to it but content with who you are at the same time. You never know where youll meet someone. I met my boyfriend on an online video game and he wasnt Catholic and we clicked right away. Now, a year later, we both think the other is super rad and he was brought into the Catholic Church this Easter! You never know where you will meet the person or what circumstances you will meet them in, but in the end if you both commit and want whats best, it will all smooth out! Just be open to the possibilities! You might not always meet your match in a place youd expect! Oh I know it can be strange as to when/where you'll meet someone. My first serious relationship, I met her at a place no one was exactly trying to date any of the other members (though several of the older members were married to one another). So I totally agree, a dating site is one method, but not the only one to meeting someone. I have to ask, WoW? Because I do know couples who have met on there. Actually one friend tried to get me to get an account, "I met my husband on Warcraft, you should give it a shot!" And congrats on meeting up and him coming into the Church! :) I think its entirely possible to be actively seeking a relationship while still being patient, enjoying yourself, and not elevating that status to a point that it starts degrading your self esteem. I was at a table of mostly single Catholics who friendzoned each other long ago (well other than the Franciscan) at the wedding this weekend, and it was the prevailing philosophy most of us agreed on. Don't make it the top goal desperately, but definitely be open and looking. Don't worry oneself too much to do work, or enjoy a good book or hike. One guy had been through about eight relationships in the past year, trying to find "the one" desperately and was exhausted from it all. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Raz Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I have to ask, WoW? Because I do know couples who have met on there. Actually one friend tried to get me to get an account, "I met my husband on Warcraft, you should give it a shot!" And congrats on meeting up and him coming into the Church! :) Thanks ^_^ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 ^ My boyfriend. He is a creepy lurker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I have to ask, WoW? Because I do know couples who have met on there. Actually one friend tried to get me to get an account, "I met my husband on Warcraft, you should give it a shot!" And congrats on meeting up and him coming into the Church! :) Yep! And we still play together! XD Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BG45 Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 (edited) Thanks ^_^ You're welcome!! It's really exciting :) Yep! And we still play together! XD amesome! Complimentary types/character classes? Edited April 23, 2013 by BG45 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 I was at a table of mostly single Catholics who friendzoned each other long ago (well other than the Franciscan) at the wedding this weekend, and it was the prevailing philosophy most of us agreed on. Don't make it the top goal desperately, but definitely be open and looking. Don't worry oneself too much to do work, or enjoy a good book or hike. One guy had been through about eight relationships in the past year, trying to find "the one" desperately and was exhausted from it all. It is exhausting. I went on a lot of casual dates for about a year. Im glad I did it even though none of them ended up working out and I can tell fun stories about them now! Haha! You're welcome!! It's really exciting :) amesome! Complimentary types/character classes? Same class and spec actually! ROFL Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 It is exhausting. I went on a lot of casual dates for about a year. Im glad I did it even though none of them ended up working out and I can tell fun stories about them now! Haha! I really don't have many fun stories. But I'm glad you do. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CrossCuT Posted April 23, 2013 Share Posted April 23, 2013 (edited) By fun I mean somewhat terrible. They are only funny NOW when I look back. :paperbag: Edited April 23, 2013 by CrossCuT Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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