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Basilisa Marie

I think the point is that the practice of solitude is vital for happiness, and that kind of loneliness is good. 

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You don't even like chicks.

 

Change your member title and signature, please.

 

Off topic, but....

 

 

EXCELLENT COMBINATION OF AVATAR AND MEMBER TITLE!!!

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HisChildForever

I love this video. Being single is something I've struggled with, I sometimes feel like a failure because I'm not married yet. You see in the LDS church the most important thing you'll ever do is get married in the temple, seriously your exaltation depends on it, you can't get to the highest level of Heaven unless you are sealed to someone. Most mormons get married very young, I am the only one of my high school friends who is not married, most of them have at least 2 children by now. Even as an ex-mormon I still sometimes feel inadequte and like I'm failing at life, especially when I run into old friends and people I used to go to church with and some of the first words out of their mouth is "aren't you married yet?" I'm slowly starting to feel more at peace with myself and my life but it's a long process.

 

When I was single, the absolute worst line in the world to hear was a variation of "why don't you have a boyfriend?"

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There is an awful big difference between being lonely, which is a real problem, and being OK with solitude. Not quite sure how to elaborate that though, I'd need to think about it. I like the idea she has, but I wish she was a little more careful.

 

On the flip side, being with people is not fun in itself. I think that's one of the reasons so many marriages fail...what do you do after 5 years when you discover this person has no clue who you are? It's like Mr. Bennet in "Pride and Prejudice" and his neurotic wife...he just retreats to his study lol, what else can he do? And being a Christian doesn't solve this problem...which is why so many Christian marriages fail as well. There are the stories of the saint-wives who put up with bad husbands. Today that would be considered abuse and codependency, or something to that effect, but it also reflects a non-romantic sensibility that, unfortunately IMO, Christians have lost. Even going to church is a lonely experience, unless you happen to like busybody chit chat and "ministries." It's not like in the early church where people sold everything threw it in a pot...the church today is a church of lonely consumers...even choosing a spouse is like a consumer choice, hence the popularity of dating sites and what not...it's all about finding your niche, like any good marketing scheme.

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