Roamin Catholic Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 actually it is the other way around in this situation. I know that not all businesses make a ton of money but this person primary job is the diocesan job. What you stated is usually the case but not this one. So the business is making them a large amount of money? I'm just curious on how you know their particular financial situation so well or if we are going off of hearsay. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HisChildForever Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 They run their own business along with the diocesan job that is well to do. Dude, you're giving us a ton of private information about these people - so let's see that E-mail. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Tufsoles, it seems to me that this thread was not all that well thought-out. I'm not one to close threads for no reason. Can we all just agree that this was not a good idea and stop talking about these people, please? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roamin Catholic Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Tufsoles, it seems to me that this thread was not all that well thought-out. I'm not one to close threads for no reason. Can we all just agree that this was not a good idea and stop talking about these people, please? This I can agree with. Many props to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MarysLittleFlower Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 (edited) hmm... here are just my two cents :) Tuf, if in the past you got upset easily and showed it, and in this situation you didn't show it, that's a good thing and an area of growth for you :) I think it's good to remember for all of us that we all have our own struggles and that something can be easy for one person or difficult for another. For example, if a number of people don't get upset at such things, it might be hard for them to imagine what it's like if you do get upset. Personally, I'd feel uncomfortable if it's something unchaste, like if a couple is kissing passionately, and being unmarried: even for the married, I'd say that's not really for the public to see. It seems like this wasn't like that, which is good, - as for what happened, I wasn't there and can't comment. Maybe some would feel comfortable and some would not. I wanted to say something else though... here's an approach that helped me :) Often in the past, when someone was doing something wrong, I'd really feel like I NEED to correct them. I certainly think that there are times when it's an act of charity to correct someone: for example, a priest would be good to correct his parish if something was going wrong. Or to correct a person in Confession, of course this would all be secret and private. However, I think that other times, - for us lay people - it's good to just pray. If we think someone is doing something wrong, just pray for them. (I'm not saying the couple was doing something wrong at this point, I don't know). If they're not doing something *wrong* but it's annoying and bothers you, then pray for your own peace of mind. I'm still learning this.. and it takes a lot to not look at the lives or actions of others - but I think this point was something Mother Teresa talked about :) if you see something that REALLY bothers you, as in something seriously wrong, then pray for the person and offer a sacrifice for them, that would do much more good :) don't talk about them, which could easily be turned into gossip. If you can say a correction calmly and simply, and if it's from charity and not from a sense of pride or annoyance, then pray about doing that well. :) Friends I think maybe it might be best if we don't ask questions about the couple, if they are cohabitating, and how we know this, etc, - imagine if they walked into this conversation! :( if they are not living chastely, then those who know for sure can pray for them or give them some information on Church teaching if they are unaware of it. Sometimes in our day, as we know, people are unaware. Tuf, it's helped me to keep more of my peace of mind, and be less tempted to judge others or criticize them or get openly upset, to simply focus on praying for the person and showing them charity. I'm really still learning this btw. I fail a lot. But I think - try to see God in each person, and that would give you more peace, - if something upsets you, pray and continue following God in your life, if you can say a suggestion charitable and our of charity with good intentions (I realize we never truly know our full intentions, neither do I, even right now, but we can will certain things and not will others) - then do so very gently. Speak to them with love and they will see it. Maybe ask a priest about doing this and whether or when it's appropriate. Many times, it's good to pray - for our own reaction, or for the person if they are sinning. If they're not sinning, pray for your own peace of mind more and to not get distracted. Certain actions mignt be imperfect but we are not perfect either, and still sin :) we can be patient with each other, and with ourselves too. God bless :) Edited April 6, 2013 by MarysLittleFlower Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Whatever the reason may be "someone in a position of authority in the diocese*" cohabitating outside of marriage is scandalous to the faithful of the diocese, especially the young adults. *I would assume that "someone in a position of authority in the diocese" would either be a volunteer minister active in the diocese in some way, or a diocesan staff member. DING! DING! DING! We have a winner.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FutureCarmeliteClaire Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Daheq is this Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Semper Catholic Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Being to much of a coward to say something to their face. Internet warrior. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 They sit at the bar And put bread in my jar And say MAN WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?????? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Second "Piano Man" reference I've seen online today. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Era Might Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 Second "Piano Man" reference I've seen online today. It's almost 9 o clock on a Saturday...regular crowd is shufflin in. Just be glad this person was making love to their fiance and not their tonic and gin. Badump! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ardillacid Posted April 6, 2013 Share Posted April 6, 2013 You're pretty badass yourself! Being to much of a coward to say something to their face. Internet warrior. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Norseman82 Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 Being to much of a coward to say something to their face. Internet warrior. But that's how you get rewarded with a moderator's job here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 But that's how you get rewarded with a moderator's job here! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
homeschoolmom Posted April 7, 2013 Share Posted April 7, 2013 But that's how you get rewarded with a moderator's job here! Um... What? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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