I Am Proud Of Myself

[the171]

Edited for the171

[franciscanheart]

Okay, now it is getting mean.


TUF:
I'm glad for you that you didn't yell at anyone.
I'm glad for you that you didn't stuff your face.
I'm glad for you that you're feeling confident.

HOWEVER:
I would caution you against being proud of aggressive (though perhaps pleasant) emails about something as minor as mild PDA in an environment where it isn't completely scandalous.

[the171]

You can edit that if you want. After I posted, I realized that it sounded really rude. I can't edit for some reason.

[Roamin Catholic]

You can edit that if you want. After I posted, I realized that it sounded really rude. I can't edit for some reason.

 

Neither can she. 

[the171]

Well poo

[Papist]

What the heck is "PG"?

[MissScripture]

What the heck is "PG"?

In reference to the movie rating system- G, PG, PG-13, etc.

[MissScripture]

You can edit that if you want. After I posted, I realized that it sounded really rude. I can't edit for some reason.

I edited it for you.

[Lil Red]

I never realized that showing affection was a poor example. Here I've been setting an awful example for other couples for over a decade. :ohno:

 

way to go <_<

[4588686]

Puritanism: the haunting fear that somehow, somewhere, somebody is happy.  

[Lil Red]

Public affection is fine but when they did it was not good timing. I guess that I expect at church or church sponsored events to refrain to a point. Holding hands in church is acceptable. I guess I have this presumption when everyone know your engaged, you are really in deeply in love but you really do not need to show it obsessively like they were. I understand a peck once or twice during the event as well but it got to the point where they were pecking every couple minutes and it got really distracting and awkward for several people including the married ones. I guess I am really conservative side on PDA showing.

 

how do you know it was distracting and awkward for other people? maybe they were envious of that couple's closeness. 

[MissScripture]

how do you know it was distracting and awkward for other people? maybe they were envious of that couple's closeness.

Or maybe they were happy and excited for the couple.

[zabbazooey]

Personally, I get irked if I'm hanging out with a couple and they are all over each other -- sitting in each others lap, massaging, rubbing, kissing...it weirds me out. But this kind of PDA seems socially acceptable to me. My fiancé and I show our affection in similar ways in public...holding hands, a peck, maybe an arm around each other. In this day and age I'm happy to see couples committed to each other showing their love. As long as they aren't being obnoxious about it.

[Lilllabettt]

I personally know a little how you feel Tufsoles. When I was about 12 I decided PDAs were "beneath my station in life." No, seriously. And I still think they are undignified -- for me, anyway. Even hand holding in public -- unless we are climbing down a ladder or crossing a street -- its not for me.  It just feels silly.

 

I realize though that I am the strange one on this, and the world out there does not share that particular sense of decorum. Don't get mad at people's PDAs. Roll your eyes if you must (on the inside, if you can)

[Tufsoles]

I am not bragging that i sent a nasty gram but I am proud that I walked away from a situation calmly and did something else about it besides stuff my face, scream at them or not talk to them again. It is a step in the right direction for me which makes me very proud because I don't even think I could of done that even a year ago. I would of done one of the three options instead about this time last year. At least I stayed to hear the speaker and tried my best to ignore the situation at hand and let this person know at a later time that this was not acceptable. It wasn't even that nasty it was just a reminder to them that people sometimes interpret their actions differently and I wanted them to see that not everyone sees eye to eye on PDA even if their is PG. Call me a prude and Puritan all day long because I am stand up for my self and it doesn't not make a difference to me. Yeah, I am ornery but I am not going to change who I am for someone else. Yeah, I had a friend that was at the event text me afterword saying it made several people uncomfortable( as they noticed) and he wanted to talk to them about it and my friend wanted my opinion about it. I told them that I was emailing this person but I gave no opinion. There are several people in the young adult group that were there that are pretty prudish like I am. Often times that sort of thing is looked down upon in our group. Even if it was in a bar setting. What they do on their own time is NYOB but when you have a group of extremely conservative in morals young adults together and you see even pg rated PDA is looked down by a group of people even then something has to be done. At this time, I felt that a email was a best fit because it was private and they have the choice of reading it or not. They are given the option to say yeah, they were some things that this YA group see as not so eye to eye and we can change that some way for the betterment of everyone, no matter the outcome. I was giving them an option to do better and be better. Yeah, It sounds like herd mentality but when it comes to a group situation sometimes and on occasion you have to conform to the group standards on what is acceptable behavior even though they may not agree with them. They can go back to their standards when they are out of the group situation. I know that I am not perfect but who isn't.