Tufsoles Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 So I went to a Theology on Tap event in my area. I noticed during the presentation, Someone I know in a position of authority in the diocese was flirting, talking, and even cuddling with their fiancé. Even though alot of this stuff they were doing was PG. They are about my age and I would expected them to know that was inappropriate, inconsiderate, and rude of them. I did not say anything at the time but when I got home I wrote them a very nice nasty gram via email about the behavior and how I felt and I looked down upon it. I don't think I could of done that before. I would either blown up at them once they got outside or not talk to them ever again. I realize that I have become a bigger person that I have of always dreamed of. I am also letting it go. I am very proud of myself in doing this because I see that I can do something without a meltdown. Also, I did not emotional eat after the fact. I am known to be a bit of emotional eater and I am also proud that I could do that as well. Hooray for me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 So I went to a Theology on Tap event in my area. I noticed during the presentation, Someone I know in a position of authority in the diocese was flirting, talking, and even cuddling with their fiancé. Even though alot of this stuff they were doing was PG. They are about my age and I would expected them to know that was inappropriate, inconsiderate, and rude of them. I did not say anything at the time but when I got home I wrote them a very nice nasty gram via email about the behavior and how I felt and I looked down upon it. I don't think I could of done that before. I would either blown up at them once they got outside or not talk to them ever again. I realize that I have become a bigger person that I have of always dreamed of. I am also letting it go. I am very proud of myself in doing this because I see that I can do something without a meltdown. Also, I did not emotional eat after the fact. I am known to be a bit of emotional eater and I am also proud that I could do that as well. Hooray for me. Well unless your Theology on Tap expressly forbids such things, I don't see how this could possibly be a problem. Flirting and talking with your fiance? Why not? IDGI? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Um, unless they were making out in front of everyone and only talking with each other, I don't see a problem with what you describe them doing. They're engaged. I don't think one of them being in a "position of authority" in the diocese matter, either. I'm not sure I see how it was appropriate for you to write a nasty email to them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nihil Obstat Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I agree with Basil. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tufsoles Posted April 5, 2013 Author Share Posted April 5, 2013 No, it does not but I felt that they could of waited after the speaker was done to do that sort of thing. I think that them doing that during a presentation was kind of disrespectful to the speaker and the audience. It is just I see that they are suppose to be the example of couples. I guess I am like so many people and I expect authority to behave and live to a higher standard. I guess it is being an example for all people. I only sent them a Nice version of a nasty gram. I was very professional about it and was really direct and to the point. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roamin Catholic Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Someone I know in a position of authority in the diocese was flirting, talking, and even cuddling with their fiancé. Even though alot of this stuff they were doing was PG. They are about my age and I would expected them to know that was inappropriate, inconsiderate, and rude of them. I did not say anything at the time but when I got home I wrote them a very nice nasty gram via email about the behavior and how I felt and I looked down upon it. I don't see how talking with your fiance is a bad thing? In fact, I would like to think it is healthy to speak to your future spouse. Also, if the touching is PG; who cares? People in love are supposed to be affectionate. Also, you say it was rude of them? According to whose standards? I would have hated for you to see this phorum back when my wife and I were dating. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I've been to theology on tap things before, and the whole reason you do it that way is because you want to give people the flexibility of doing other things while it's going on, instead of being in a classroom. Lighten up! :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Autumn Dusk Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Sorry, but I see this as deeply flawed and very wrong of you. They were at an 21+ event (or atleast 18+) and are about to get married. While it is rude to speak when someone is talking you are so far out of line to condemn them and write a nastygram that it's rather unacceptable. Sending an email saying it was hard to hear when they were chatting...that's ok. If you find yourself off of mailing lists to events don't be surprized....you're probably going to be persona non grata Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Basilisa Marie Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 No, it does not but I felt that they could of waited after the speaker was done to do that sort of thing. I think that them doing that during a presentation was kind of disrespectful to the speaker and the audience. It is just I see that they are suppose to be the example of couples. I guess I am like so many people and I expect authority to behave and live to a higher standard. I guess it is being an example for all people. I only sent them a Nice version of a nasty gram. I was very professional about it and was really direct and to the point. Okay, well, I can see if you were polite and they were being loud and overly distracting, talking during the presentation, that makes sense. But I mean, if you're talking about an arm around the shoulder or something, making a quiet comment or two to each other, that's different. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lil Red Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 when I got home I wrote them a very nice nasty gram via email about the behavior and how I felt and I looked down upon it. i'm sure that will really help them :rolleyes: /sarcasm Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
arfink Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Flirting in public, FTW. :) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tufsoles Posted April 5, 2013 Author Share Posted April 5, 2013 Yes, it is healthy for a couple to talk but I see that during a presentation in a small room and everything echoes in that room and everyone could here everything they were saying. I do not think it was wrong in what I did. What I wrote in the email was that their talking was distracting to some of the people and to refrain afterwards once the speaker was done. I chaise them in private and not in public. I did not want to humiliate them. I know their is a chance that they may ignore it but I had to reach out on a limb to say that I felt it was not right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roamin Catholic Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 Flirting in public, FTW. :) God forbid someone touches their future spouse in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IcePrincessKRS Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I never realized that showing affection was a poor example. Here I've been setting an awful example for other couples for over a decade. :ohno: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Roamin Catholic Posted April 5, 2013 Share Posted April 5, 2013 I never realized that showing affection was a poor example. Here I've been setting an awful example for other couples for over a decade. :ohno: I blame you for the lack of modesty in our society. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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