Random Question.

[Spem in alium]

I'm in a bit of a sticky situation atm. Last year while I was overseas, one of my friends nominated me for this student leadership position with my uni. I ended up getting elected as a rep for my faculty, which is nice, but a couple of the members of the exec seem a bit shady (very fake, liking to micromanage, passing motions without getting majority votes in meetings, etc) and some of the events they've planned have been in somewhat poor taste and in contrast with my personal & religious convictions. I've not attended events partly because they've been inconvenient and partly because I didn't want to feel compromised. It's getting to the point where I'm trying to limit my involvement with the group so that things aren't so rough, but I feel as though the rest of the team is resenting me for not being so active. 

To what extent would you uphold your moral, religious and personal convictions, even if it meant being viewed poorly or being judged negatively? I want to be a good rep but I want to be able to not feel stressed while doing it, and I don't want to let down the friend who nominated me (he isn't in the group himself, but is very keen that I'm there).

 

[eagle_eye222001]

To what extent would you uphold your moral, religious and personal convictions, even if it meant being viewed poorly or being judged negatively? I want to be a good rep but I want to be able to not feel stressed while doing it, and I don't want to let down the friend who nominated me (he isn't in the group himself, but is very keen that I'm there).

 

 

 

I would hope that I would follow my faith first.....and what the world thinks last.  It is impossible to follow both God and the world.  Therefore trying to please both isn't possible.

 

A good friend would understand how you value your faith and respect you for it.

 

 

Maybe it's time to resign?  What good (apart from making your friend happy) comes from staying in this precarious and sinking situation?

[Tab'le De'Bah-Rye]

:( i don't know what you should do, praying to GOD to give you the strength to be able to be around these people without compromising your belief i guess is a good start and also asking if he really want's you on this team which if he says no that may offend your friend? if the person who elected you is a friend i'm sure he or she will understand if you say GOD doesn't wan't you on that team.

[Tab'le De'Bah-Rye]

I've been in great fear for about 3 years of the world and un-savoury type custemers and now i have just been asking GOD to remove from me all fear of nature and other people, nature because i'm scared of dogs also and he has removed the most of it, i have been asking most days,maybe i have to ask once each day. I don't know if you suffer from fear as i do but that is my experience

[Spem in alium]

I would hope that I would follow my faith first.....and what the world thinks last.  It is impossible to follow both God and the world.  Therefore trying to please both isn't possible.

 

A good friend would understand how you value your faith and respect you for it.

 

 

Maybe it's time to resign?  What good (apart from making your friend happy) comes from staying in this precarious and sinking situation?

 

Thanks. I know that my faith is far more important to me. All they seem to be interested in is hosting alcohol-fuelled parties and getting people drunk, which I don't really want to be a part of. People on the team always seem to be criticising each other or having petty spats. Maybe I'm old-fashioned, I don't know, but I can't deal with too much of those things.
I haven't talked to my friend about the depth of my feeling. He knows how I feel about some of the people in the group (how petty they can be), but not that I feel unhappy. I'm not sure if I should tell him about it or whether I can resign, as it's an elected position with a one-year tenure.  

 

:( i don't know what you should do, praying to GOD to give you the strength to be able to be around these people without compromising your belief i guess is a good start and also asking if he really want's you on this team which if he says no that may offend your friend? if the person who elected you is a friend i'm sure he or she will understand if you say GOD doesn't wan't you on that team.

 

Praying is always a good answer, I think. I'll be taking some time out next week for a retreat, so I can pray more about it then too. I originally wasn't part of the team, but got in because someone couldn't hold the position any longer and I got the next highest number of votes. At the time I did see it as an opportunity from God, so I took it, but I feel I really need His guidance right now.

 

I've been in great fear for about 3 years of the world and un-savoury type custemers and now i have just been asking GOD to remove from me all fear of nature and other people, nature because i'm scared of dogs also and he has removed the most of it, i have been asking most days,maybe i have to ask once each day. I don't know if you suffer from fear as i do but that is my experience

I do sometimes, yes. He has helped me a lot with fear.

[Oremoose]

If I was in your position I would fear the same way and when I am ever in a spot like yours I am tore between What I want to do (Run and hide) or what I should do (be steadfast and stand up for myself and all that believe in).

 

So I hope to push you in the right direction! :) But I may I refer to a greater source to do so...

 

http://youtu.be/UBfb77G47hU?t=13s

[Spem in alium]

If I was in your position I would fear the same way and when I am ever in a spot like yours I am tore between What I want to do (Run and hide) or what I should do (be steadfast and stand up for myself and all that believe in).

 

So I hope to push you in the right direction! :) But I may I refer to a greater source to do so...

 

http://youtu.be/UBfb77G47hU?t=13s

Thank you! Definitely appreciated the pep talk and encouragement :) 

[AnneLine]

Will be praying for you.  This is a tough call.

 

There is somethign to be said for staying and fighting... but chances are you have little chance of winning if everyone else doesn't agree with your concerns/are happy with how things are going.

 

And it does add some stress for you at a time when you might not NEED any extra stresses, from things you've said on other threads.

 

One option that you might have if you really are feeling torn is to withdraw and point out to your friend that you've been having some health problems and just can't do everything right now.  You also could delicately let him know that you have some discomfort with some of the things going on (maybe even some of the specifics)... and let him make his own conclusions.

 

Make the best choice you can, and then turn it over to God...

 

 

[PadrePioOfPietrelcino]

42... It's a not so random answer, but it's close.

[Spem in alium]

Will be praying for you.  This is a tough call.

 

There is somethign to be said for staying and fighting... but chances are you have little chance of winning if everyone else doesn't agree with your concerns/are happy with how things are going.

 

And it does add some stress for you at a time when you might not NEED any extra stresses, from things you've said on other threads.

 

One option that you might have if you really are feeling torn is to withdraw and point out to your friend that you've been having some health problems and just can't do everything right now.  You also could delicately let him know that you have some discomfort with some of the things going on (maybe even some of the specifics)... and let him make his own conclusions.

 

Make the best choice you can, and then turn it over to God...

Thank you :) I really don't need extra stress. Last week, I met up with the friend I mentioned (he was running for the position of the group's President, got elected and then got kicked out because he didn't do so well academically last year). All he really wanted to do was talk about the group and how bad it's going and how the new President is incompetent mentally (he also aimed a low blow at the fact that the President is openly gay) etc., etc. To be honest, I think he just wanted to make himself feel better by convincing himself he could be doing a better job. I didn't really feed his conversation, because I didn't meet up with him to talk about the group or to badmouth the new President (who has been very considerate and courteous towards me so far). It made me feel so used and inadequate. I don't want to talk with him about what the committee's doing, because it's not really his business in the first place and because I don't want our friendship to be based on him acting interested in me whenever he wants to hear gossip. As to whether I can actually work up enough courage to tell him that is a different point entirely.

Thanks so much for your help. I'll think about it as best I can. Ultimately it's in God's hands.

 

42... It's a not so random answer, but it's close.

Your randomness is much appreciated :)

[AnneLine]

One step at a time, Spem.   You'll not go wrong if you ask God to guide your choice. 

 

Feel Better!

[ChristinaTherese]

Following in Pio's example, I have a kinda-sorta random answer: Spes! (And I don't know much about declensions, so I'd love to know how well I declined that.)

[Spem in alium]

One step at a time, Spem.   You'll not go wrong if you ask God to guide your choice. 

 

Feel Better!

 

Thank you :) I think sometimes I really need to remember to slow down and be patient with myself and God. All in good time.
 

Following in Pio's example, I have a kinda-sorta random answer: Spes! (And I don't know much about declensions, so I'd love to know how well I declined that.)

Excellent randomness, thank you :) And I love linguistics, though I'm quite hopeless at declensions. From my understanding, "spes" is fifth declension :)