What Should I Do?

[Byzantine]

A Catholic (as far as I know) family member I'm not particularly close to and is significantly older than I has changed her profile picture to the gay marriage promotion thing. Should I say something?

[HisChildForever]

Nah. She has the right to express herself on Facebook, just as you do. Although whatever we post on Facebook, be it a picture or a status, is "open season" for people to comment upon. So should you choose to comment, she should be respectful. And because this is such a controversial issue, she shouldn't be surprised to hear from the other side. I have a cousin who changed hers to the same thing. And I've seen plenty of people post the "No H8" ditty, among other things. I don't hate homosexuals as this little slogan implies, and quite frankly it's curious that I'm expected to accept their position but they'll hit the roof if I expect them to respect mine. I just leave them to do their thing. Whatever, in other words.

[4588686]

Sure. I'd say something along the lines of, 'good job!'

[penguin31]

and quite frankly it's curious that I'm expected to accept their position but they'll hit the roof if I expect them to respect mine.

 

For a lot of individuals who are in support of same sex partnerships, the issue becomes framed as a basic issue of equality, both on a personal level and in terms of equality of opportunity.  If equality is an issue that one feels strongly about *and* one feels strongly that the legislative validity of same-sex partnerships is an issue of basic human equality, then naturally it follows that being in opposition is going to draw a strong reaction. Generally speaking human beings tend to feel more passionately about the perception of equality than the perception of maintaining tradition, however valid the reasons for those traditions.

[Lilllabettt]

tangle with facebook people according to your mood. the only time I feel an obligation to get into it is when they do the H8 thing or similar implying that those with divergent views are haters, bigots, etc.  I say something like this: 

 

"Like x 1000!  There is one group of such bigots in NYC and actually all over the world who are shameless gay haters ..openly saying that gay sex is a sin. The Missionaries of Charity, followers of that disgusting woman Mother Teresa . They eat garbage and do their laundry in buckets so that they can better serve the AIDS patients they feed, bathe, shelter and empty bed pans for  24/7. If only these vile,  ignorant people could learn to love gay people like we do."

 

As long as I've been using that one no one in the conversation has ever had anything left to say.

[ToJesusMyHeart]

tangle with facebook people according to your mood. the only time I feel an obligation to get into it is when they do the H8 thing or similar implying that those with divergent views are haters, bigots, etc.  I say something like this: 

 

"Like x 1000!  There is one group of such bigots in NYC and actually all over the world who are shameless gay haters ..openly saying that gay sex is a sin. The Missionaries of Charity, followers of that disgusting woman Mother Teresa . They eat garbage and do their laundry in buckets so that they can better serve the AIDS patients they feed, bathe, shelter and empty bed pans for  24/7. If only these vile,  ignorant people could learn to love gay people like we do."

 

As long as I've been using that one no one in the conversation has ever had anything left to say.

I'm going to use that next time. Thanks!

[HisChildForever]

For a lot of individuals who are in support of same sex partnerships, the issue becomes framed as a basic issue of equality, both on a personal level and in terms of equality of opportunity.  If equality is an issue that one feels strongly about *and* one feels strongly that the legislative validity of same-sex partnerships is an issue of basic human equality, then naturally it follows that being in opposition is going to draw a strong reaction. Generally speaking human beings tend to feel more passionately about the perception of equality than the perception of maintaining tradition, however valid the reasons for those traditions.

 

I'm really speaking to liberal "tolerance." As long as you agree with them, it's all good.

[Ice_nine]

if I could murder facebook I would. I'm aware of the overreaching repurcussions this might have, and I'd still do it.

 

I hope that answers your question

Edited March 30, 2013 by Ice_nine

[penguin31]

I'm really speaking to liberal "tolerance." As long as you agree with them, it's all good.

Demonizing individuals and entire groups because  they don't agree with your positions?   As tends to happen in political arguments, neither side is being very tolerant. 

 

Because let's be honest, if everyone was tolerant of contrasting political opinions the world would be a much duller (though more harmonious) place.

[4LoveofJMJ]

A Catholic friend of mine had posted a convo picture on facebook about how God was for gay marriage. It even included a refrance to the NAB Bible as the"The New American Bible Nazi Edition". It was very crude, and disrespectful. It made me mad because I had seen him at Mass the night before. I did post a comment about how as a Catholic he should stand up for his faith and after that he took the photo off his wall.

All I'm going to say is that if you post something, you never know if you might get someone thinking!

[Annie12]

I would pray for this person. Saying something will only make that person have negative feelings for you. This is probably good to avoid since they are related to you. If they weren't related to you I would say "go right ahead and explain their ridiculousness".

[Kateri89]

I think you should either say something politely or simply do the passive aggressive thing and post something very pro-traditional marriage on your page.   :proud:   I do think you should do something though because we Christians are far too quiet these days and that's why these issues are getting bigger...

[BG45]

I'd pray for them, and then follow Lilla's advice of posting at your own risk/depending on how much of a possible fight you're feel up to.

tangle with facebook people according to your mood. the only time I feel an obligation to get into it is when they do the H8 thing or similar implying that those with divergent views are haters, bigots, etc.